My boyfriend is only sexually attracted to me when I wear a uniform.

My bf and I have been together for almost 6 years, but for several of those years I’ve been frustrated with the fact that he seems to feel no sexual attraction to my naked body unless I wear a uniform. I know it’s his fetish and that he can’t change it but I can’t imagine most other guys seeing a naked woman and feeling nothing. I just feel like I’m not desirable to him just the way I am. I’d be fine with wearing a uniform once in a while, if I knew that he finds me attractive naked too, but I know that’s not the case. Also, because I’m not satisfying his ‘needs’, I recently found an album in his phone gallery with photos of women wearing the stuff he’s into including women we know personally. I just feel betrayed. Sometimes we have moments together where I genuinely feel in love with him but I just can’t ignore the doubts I have about our relationship anymore. We’ve now gone from minimal sex to none at all. Should we break up?

My bf and I have been together for almost 6 years, but for several of those years I’ve been frustrated with the fact that he seems to feel no sexual attraction to my naked body unless I wear a uniform. I know it’s his fetish and that he can’t change it but I can’t imagine most other guys seeing a naked woman and feeling nothing. I just feel like I’m not desirable to him just the way I am. I’d be fine with wearing a uniform once in a while, if I knew that he finds me attractive naked too, but I know that’s not the case. Also, because I’m not satisfying his ‘needs’, I recently found an album in his phone gallery with photos of women wearing the stuff he’s into including women we know personally. I just feel betrayed. Sometimes we have moments together where I genuinely feel in love with him but I just can’t ignore the doubts I have about our relationship anymore. We’ve now gone from minimal sex to none at all. Should we break up?

My bf and I have been together for almost 6 years, but for several of those years I’ve been frustrated with the fact that he seems to feel no sexual attraction to my naked body unless I wear a uniform. I know it’s his fetish and that he can’t change it but I can’t imagine most other guys seeing a naked woman and feeling nothing. I just feel like I’m not desirable to him just the way I am. I’d be fine with wearing a uniform once in a while, if I knew that he finds me attractive naked too, but I know that’s not the case. Also, because I’m not satisfying his ‘needs’, I recently found an album in his phone gallery with photos of women wearing the stuff he’s into including women we know personally. I just feel betrayed. Sometimes we have moments together where I genuinely feel in love with him but I just can’t ignore the doubts I have about our relationship anymore. We’ve now gone from minimal sex to none at all. Should we break up?

as in, a school uniform? if so then yeah that's a major red flag. don't want to make any crazy accusations but this could be more than just a fetish.

Have you actually spoken to HIM about this? Us guys can be pretty dumb sometimes when it comes to this kind of stuff and we don't know the effect it's having on you. I like how everyone's saying break up, without even seeing if you've tried to raise the issue with him personally. Apart from what you've told us on here, we know nothing about what sort of guy he is, or the other dynamics of your relationship. Surely a conversation between you and him would help you make your decision better than asking a bunch of random people on an internet forum. If you're asking is it time to say "We need to talk.." then yes, I think you should have a frank discussion about how this fetish, kink or whatever is making you feel... and perhaps give him an ultimatum. Maybe even discuss other things you could do sex-wise?
I think that's a bit of an over-reaction... a few years ago, it was a common dress-up theme that actually made its way into mainstream entertainment and it was very common for Universities to have themed discos where everyone had to dress up in their old school uniforms. It's not necessarily a paedophilic thing (I doubt it would have been anywhere near as popular if it was)… but more about nostalgia and a reminder of what it was like to be a 14 year old with raging hormones lol. In fact School Disco was one of the most popular club nights in the 00's.
https://www.facebook.com/p/School-Disco-100070960495969/?locale=en_GB
And for the record, the type of uniform wasn't mentioned (probably intentionally?)… so could be anything, from nurses to police to maids. IMHO, if role-play was also mentioned, then yes, I agree, that would be a red flag (based on your assumption being correct)

well, it's one thing to dress up for fun once in a while. but her post states that he's not interesteed in sex unless she's wearing a uniform. so that's pretty weird me. i mean, who knows, it could be a policewoman uniform and i'm just misinterpreting the entire thing, lol

Have you actually spoken to HIM about this? Us guys can be pretty dumb sometimes when it comes to this kind of stuff and we don't know the effect it's having on you. I like how everyone's saying break up, without even seeing if you've tried to raise the issue with him personally. Apart from what you've told us on here, we know nothing about what sort of guy he is, or the other dynamics of your relationship. Surely a conversation between you and him would help you make your decision better than asking a bunch of random people on an internet forum. If you're asking is it time to say "We need to talk.." then yes, I think you should have a frank discussion about how this fetish, kink or whatever is making you feel... and perhaps give him an ultimatum. Maybe even discuss other things you could do sex-wise?
I think that's a bit of an over-reaction... a few years ago, it was a common dress-up theme that actually made its way into mainstream entertainment and it was very common for Universities to have themed discos where everyone had to dress up in their old school uniforms. It's not necessarily a paedophilic thing (I doubt it would have been anywhere near as popular if it was)… but more about nostalgia and a reminder of what it was like to be a 14 year old with raging hormones lol. In fact School Disco was one of the most popular club nights in the 00's.
https://www.facebook.com/p/School-Disco-100070960495969/?locale=en_GB
And for the record, the type of uniform wasn't mentioned (probably intentionally?)… so could be anything, from nurses to police to maids. IMHO, if role-play was also mentioned, then yes, I agree, that would be a red flag (based on your assumption being correct)

ew you’re reaching so hard rn did u even read what OP said? He’s got photos of other women, even women they know PERSONALLY, on his phone in the only outfit he finds sexually attractive. He’s got them for a reason.

There's 2 key aspects to the original post. They've gone from minimal sex to none at all. For several years she's been frustrated by the fact that he seems to feel no sexual attraction to her naked body, apart from when she wears a uniform.
The lack of sex combined with the frustration means that this relationship is well past the talking about things to fix it stage.
Their relationship is deader than a Norwegian Blue parrot nailed to its' perch. Polly is not going to come back to life by talking to it.

Sometimes we have moments together where I genuinely feel in love with him but I just can’t ignore the doubts I have about our relationship anymore.

I've read the original message, thanks. Have you?
In the original message, I fail to see where she said that she's confronted him about it, or explicitly said how his behaviour is making her feel. I mean, maybe it's a consequence of modern dating dynamics (e.g. thanks to apps, you've literally got 000's of options at your fingertips), but it seems these days people are saying "Dump him / her" for just about anything. In days gone by, people (couples) would try and sort out their differences by some means... even if that meant involving a relationship counsellor. And I think that's why a lot of relationships fail these days... simply because the two of them aren't communicating properly.
Yes, I agree it's "suspect" that he has people they know, but again she should hear what he has to say about it. How many photos of their acquaintances does he have, and how does it compare as a percentage with all his photos? If she doesn't like his answers, then, by all means, show him the door.

You make a fair comment with your observation... but you've overlooked an equally valid counter-point to your conclusions. In her original post, she also says, and I quote:-
That tells me that there must be some good parts to their relationship as well; and the latter part of the quote suggests she's never directly raised this with him. The OP has only mentioned the "sex" part... and while I agree that sex a pretty important part of any relationship, she hasn't commented on the other aspects of their relationship.
I don't think any of us on this board are in a position to call time on someone else's relationship, that's only been described to us in a paragraph of 8 lines... especially as we're not the ones who'll have to live with the fall-out

Asking about how many he has and what percentage of his photos they are….? What? That’s absurd. The fact that he has a single one in the first place is unacceptable. Instead of trying to defend the bf who honestly sounds like a creep, let’s acknowledge the fact that he’s basically been cheating on her with these images. If your partner had nude images of other people on their phone, especially people you KNOW, you’d hear them out instead of breaking up with them? we must also consider how the people who’s images he has would feel if they found out he was saving them and what he was doing with them. There’s literally no excuse for this it’s absolutely grounds for breakup- communication isn’t fixing this.

Asking about how many he has and what percentage of his photos they are….? What? That’s absurd. The fact that he has a single one in the first place is unacceptable. Instead of trying to defend the bf who honestly sounds like a creep, let’s acknowledge the fact that he’s basically been cheating on her with these images. If your partner had nude images of other people on their phone, especially people you KNOW, you’d hear them out instead of breaking up with them? we must also consider how the people who’s images he has would feel if they found out he was saving them and what he was doing with them. There’s literally no excuse for this it’s absolutely grounds for breakup- communication isn’t fixing this.

Even the most absolve relationships have some ‘good’ parts, that’s what manipulators use to keep their partners with them. Cheating is unexcusable

As much as I said break up, I think you need more than a single suspect photo or to at least hear their excuse, it's just that I think there wouldn't be a good one and there would be a very strong suspicion there was more behind it.

My bf and I have been together for almost 6 years, but for several of those years I’ve been frustrated with the fact that he seems to feel no sexual attraction to my naked body unless I wear a uniform. I know it’s his fetish and that he can’t change it but I can’t imagine most other guys seeing a naked woman and feeling nothing. I just feel like I’m not desirable to him just the way I am. I’d be fine with wearing a uniform once in a while, if I knew that he finds me attractive naked too, but I know that’s not the case. Also, because I’m not satisfying his ‘needs’, I recently found an album in his phone gallery with photos of women wearing the stuff he’s into including women we know personally. I just feel betrayed. Sometimes we have moments together where I genuinely feel in love with him but I just can’t ignore the doubts I have about our relationship anymore. We’ve now gone from minimal sex to none at all. Should we break up?