Friendship loss

How do I cope when I (female) just lost my male friend of 9 years because he recently became Muslim and can’t be friends with women they don’t intend to marry. Like you read about this all the time but it feels like a persons death because just a normal Thursday I abruptly lost him, he removed me as a follower and unfollowed me, we don’t go to the same school, I’m moving to another city this year and we don’t eachothers contact info. He has been in my life since we were 9, he was my first valentine, my first love though we never dated, we used to sit on the field and make daisy bracelets and now he told me we can’t speak with eachother forever again and forever feels like eternity. I don’t have many friends but the connection we have only comes once in a life time. I have recently for a little over a year been struggling with depression and we didn’t talk for most part of the year or at all and when reunited it made life feel worth living again. I have a bf who treated me bad at the start and he’s quite boring he only asks how are you have you eaten how was your sleep then rants about raf and then his insecurity and this genuienly it and I was thinking of leaving him anyway but it just feels like death and I don’t see how I can cope because I loved him and still do and it’s going to be insanely hard letting go when he has been the only constant thing in my life

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I'm sorry for your loss. I understand he wants to follow his religion and there's no problem with that but I wish he were more considerate of your feelings too and didn't act so callously toward a longtime friend who he's clearly close to. Here's hoping he'll recognize the error in his ways someday. In the meantime, try spending more time with your other friends even if it doesn't feel the same, and don't be afraid to fall back on your parents and family for guidance and support in tough times like these as well. I've also lost a few close friendships recently and I never had all that many to begin with, so I know how it feels ... do you want to chat and be friends? Hopefully with more company you'd start feeling a little bit less lonely eventually 🥲

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm sorry for your loss. I understand he wants to follow his religion and there's no problem with that but I wish he were more considerate of your feelings too and didn't act so callously toward a longtime friend who he's clearly close to. Here's hoping he'll recognize the error in his ways someday. In the meantime, try spending more time with your other friends even if it doesn't feel the same, and don't be afraid to fall back on your parents and family for guidance and support in tough times like these as well. I've also lost a few close friendships recently and I never had all that many to begin with, so I know how it feels ... do you want to chat and be friends? Hopefully with more company you'd start feeling a little bit less lonely eventually 🥲

It wasn’t his fault though because we were talking this morning as usual, we spent the past few days talking non stop and by coincidence as I was replying to his text, I saw him in his car and he stopped his car for me and let me cross, he then texted me asking where I’m going and I told him school and he jokingly said I should’ve jumped in and then we spoke more of it and he said he doesn’t think he’s allowed and he can’t be friends with girls he doesn’t intend to marry all within 15 mins and then that was the end , he apologised for only saying now and I asked him why and he told me I make him happy and he wanted to talk to me and I expressed my sadness but understanding and he said I’ll move on, it just feels like forever, I’m okay with not talking much but it talking ever forever feels painful because he’ has been there forever

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