how to stop getting fat shamed in clubs?
hi, im 19 and in my first year
I just keep getting fat shamed at pubs/clubs and idk what to do about it anymore, it's making me feel gross and awful! its even more embarrassing as this happens when I go out with friends and they don't say anything or they just laugh along with it, I know its putting them in an awkward situation too. its usually by the end of the night when men are really drunk and its gotten to the point where ive had my stomach grabbed multiple times and had comments about the size of it when clubbing. it gets even worse when I just try to ignore this as it usually escalates to getting spat on/yelled at and I leave early. I had a door shut in my face by a group of men who started laughing about it, and I know that's not really a big deal but it felt like my last straw and I think I'm just gonna write it off altogether. ive stopped wearing anything revealing/leaving pretty early and it did decrease but not by a lot. I'm 140kg I know I'm not the smallest by any means so I can't just wear something to try and hide my body either
just really need advice as it’s starting to really affect my self confidence
I just keep getting fat shamed at pubs/clubs and idk what to do about it anymore, it's making me feel gross and awful! its even more embarrassing as this happens when I go out with friends and they don't say anything or they just laugh along with it, I know its putting them in an awkward situation too. its usually by the end of the night when men are really drunk and its gotten to the point where ive had my stomach grabbed multiple times and had comments about the size of it when clubbing. it gets even worse when I just try to ignore this as it usually escalates to getting spat on/yelled at and I leave early. I had a door shut in my face by a group of men who started laughing about it, and I know that's not really a big deal but it felt like my last straw and I think I'm just gonna write it off altogether. ive stopped wearing anything revealing/leaving pretty early and it did decrease but not by a lot. I'm 140kg I know I'm not the smallest by any means so I can't just wear something to try and hide my body either
just really need advice as it’s starting to really affect my self confidence
lose weight, eat less move more. I'd suggest lose weight the now as when u get older it will get harder for u.
Where do you live? Most people in most places don't behave this way.
Also - I won't labour the point too much about the health-related aspect of this, as I'm sure you've heard it before. Being that much overweight isn't good for you. It will make your life difficult in several ways, and as bad as it may seem already with how people treat you, that will probably be the least of your problems.
Obviously it effects your overall health. It can cause chronic joint problems. I imagine it costs more in terms of lifestyle (paying for two seats on a plane is the most obvious example I can think of). It is more restrictive - I imagine there are lots of things you can't do, or clothes you just can't wear. It almost certainly effects your chances of employment once you graduate university one day.
And also I think there is quite a real risk that our government/economy will 'run out' of money at some point, and when that happens, you won't be able to rely on the NHS anymore then for any sort of safety net or support systems.
I'm saying this to list all the other good reasons why you should try and do something about your weight, and to start today. Don't do it because of some drunk noobs. As I see it, people like this are often part of the problem. It can probably feel tempting (you've shown signs of this already) for you to retreat into yourself, not go out with people, which is more likely to cause depression (or worsen it), cause further over-eating, and exasperate your problems. Try to do the opposite instead.
Hope it goes well.
Also - I won't labour the point too much about the health-related aspect of this, as I'm sure you've heard it before. Being that much overweight isn't good for you. It will make your life difficult in several ways, and as bad as it may seem already with how people treat you, that will probably be the least of your problems.
Obviously it effects your overall health. It can cause chronic joint problems. I imagine it costs more in terms of lifestyle (paying for two seats on a plane is the most obvious example I can think of). It is more restrictive - I imagine there are lots of things you can't do, or clothes you just can't wear. It almost certainly effects your chances of employment once you graduate university one day.
And also I think there is quite a real risk that our government/economy will 'run out' of money at some point, and when that happens, you won't be able to rely on the NHS anymore then for any sort of safety net or support systems.
I'm saying this to list all the other good reasons why you should try and do something about your weight, and to start today. Don't do it because of some drunk noobs. As I see it, people like this are often part of the problem. It can probably feel tempting (you've shown signs of this already) for you to retreat into yourself, not go out with people, which is more likely to cause depression (or worsen it), cause further over-eating, and exasperate your problems. Try to do the opposite instead.
Hope it goes well.
(edited 3 weeks ago)
Original post by mblloog
hi, im 19 and in my first year
I just keep getting fat shamed at pubs/clubs and idk what to do about it anymore, it's making me feel gross and awful! its even more embarrassing as this happens when I go out with friends and they don't say anything or they just laugh along with it, I know its putting them in an awkward situation too. its usually by the end of the night when men are really drunk and its gotten to the point where ive had my stomach grabbed multiple times and had comments about the size of it when clubbing. it gets even worse when I just try to ignore this as it usually escalates to getting spat on/yelled at and I leave early. I had a door shut in my face by a group of men who started laughing about it, and I know that's not really a big deal but it felt like my last straw and I think I'm just gonna write it off altogether. ive stopped wearing anything revealing/leaving pretty early and it did decrease but not by a lot. I'm 140kg I know I'm not the smallest by any means so I can't just wear something to try and hide my body either
just really need advice as it’s starting to really affect my self confidence
I just keep getting fat shamed at pubs/clubs and idk what to do about it anymore, it's making me feel gross and awful! its even more embarrassing as this happens when I go out with friends and they don't say anything or they just laugh along with it, I know its putting them in an awkward situation too. its usually by the end of the night when men are really drunk and its gotten to the point where ive had my stomach grabbed multiple times and had comments about the size of it when clubbing. it gets even worse when I just try to ignore this as it usually escalates to getting spat on/yelled at and I leave early. I had a door shut in my face by a group of men who started laughing about it, and I know that's not really a big deal but it felt like my last straw and I think I'm just gonna write it off altogether. ive stopped wearing anything revealing/leaving pretty early and it did decrease but not by a lot. I'm 140kg I know I'm not the smallest by any means so I can't just wear something to try and hide my body either
just really need advice as it’s starting to really affect my self confidence
I'm curious. According to your other post, made 3 months ago, you were aged 20 and weighed 200kg...
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7538250
What would you like advice on in this thread?
How to deal with the evil "fat shaming" bullying?
Or how to lose weight?
Or both?
How to deal with the evil "fat shaming" bullying?
Or how to lose weight?
Or both?
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
What would you like advice on in this thread?
How to deal with the evil "fat shaming" bullying?
Or how to lose weight?
Or both?
How to deal with the evil "fat shaming" bullying?
Or how to lose weight?
Or both?
Or how to remember their age?
I recommend playing rugby.
At 140kg, you weigh more than any of England's current front row so it would be ideal.
A scrum is a bit like being in a club. There would be blokes grabbing you from the side and behind and it would be hot and sweaty and you'd be wearing tight clothes. And instead of bopping your head to David Guetta, you're moving to "HIT...2...3...4"
And for the first time in your life there would be blokes buying you drinks after. It's a win win win.
At 140kg, you weigh more than any of England's current front row so it would be ideal.
A scrum is a bit like being in a club. There would be blokes grabbing you from the side and behind and it would be hot and sweaty and you'd be wearing tight clothes. And instead of bopping your head to David Guetta, you're moving to "HIT...2...3...4"
And for the first time in your life there would be blokes buying you drinks after. It's a win win win.
(edited 3 weeks ago)
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