women "like" experienced men

where does this thinking come from? specifically directed to cases where men believe a woman who has waited till marriage her whole life would prefer an "experienced" man. I have never met a single woman who wants a man who has slept around. I think we find it equally as off putting as men do and the idea that women want experienced men is an idea that is only talked about by men? how do men know what women want? no woman who waits till marriage wants a man who has not done the same, I would think this is common sense. Please stop these double standards and silly excuses.

The science on this actually suggests that your correct and that both men and women regard ‘perfect’ as 3-4 however men also care far more than women about body count (interestingly, the same study showed that men viewed virgins as more preferable than a 12+ female body count).
So the double standard does not exist because men think women want a player, it’s just that psychology suggests that women are less bothered about male promiscuity (the psychological theory being historical paternity uncertainty for men generates a stronger instinctual distaste for female promiscuity than in women).