I ****ed up and basically failed uni already - advice/help needed
I am so annoyed at myself, what the hell.
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Does your university have a student support/counselling service. Please do find out how to contact them and arrange an appointment.
Also does your GP know about your other symptoms (problems eating, sleeping and leaving the house etc)? It sounds like more than “just” neurodivergence going on.
You’re obviously dealing with a lot right now. Bottling it all up and not asking for help is not helping. Universities have some fantastic support services but they won’t come to you - you have to reach out and ask for help. Finding the right person or department to help you navigate your current situation is step one.
Also does your GP know about your other symptoms (problems eating, sleeping and leaving the house etc)? It sounds like more than “just” neurodivergence going on.
You’re obviously dealing with a lot right now. Bottling it all up and not asking for help is not helping. Universities have some fantastic support services but they won’t come to you - you have to reach out and ask for help. Finding the right person or department to help you navigate your current situation is step one.
Original post by Anonymous
I am so annoyed at myself, what the hell.
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Hey, on the same boat. I've been trying to complete my masters for 3 years now. I've been depressed. I have cried and cried and cried. I am diagnosed already, but the system still sucks. People just do not understand how executive dysfunction feels like. They just extend your coursework deadline and think their duty is done. People still don't realize that it is a real real problem. I feel isolated.
Original post by PQ
Does your university have a student support/counselling service. Please do find out how to contact them and arrange an appointment.
Also does your GP know about your other symptoms (problems eating, sleeping and leaving the house etc)? It sounds like more than “just” neurodivergence going on.
You’re obviously dealing with a lot right now. Bottling it all up and not asking for help is not helping. Universities have some fantastic support services but they won’t come to you - you have to reach out and ask for help. Finding the right person or department to help you navigate your current situation is step one.
Also does your GP know about your other symptoms (problems eating, sleeping and leaving the house etc)? It sounds like more than “just” neurodivergence going on.
You’re obviously dealing with a lot right now. Bottling it all up and not asking for help is not helping. Universities have some fantastic support services but they won’t come to you - you have to reach out and ask for help. Finding the right person or department to help you navigate your current situation is step one.
Original post by Anonymous
I am so annoyed at myself, what the hell.
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Speak to your GP.
Also talk to student support services.
I am sure if you cannot get mitigating circumstances, you should be able to redo year one. Plenty of people retake one year of uni.
You maybe able to retake it in the summer.
(edited 1 month ago)
Original post by prakruti1026
Hey, on the same boat. I've been trying to complete my masters for 3 years now. I've been depressed. I have cried and cried and cried. I am diagnosed already, but the system still sucks. People just do not understand how executive dysfunction feels like. They just extend your coursework deadline and think their duty is done. People still don't realize that it is a real real problem. I feel isolated.
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7565083
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Original post by Anonymous
I am so annoyed at myself, what the hell.
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Trying my best to bluntly describe my situation;
I'm in the works of being diagnosed for ADHD and autism but didn't go to the uni about it because my GP hasn't given me any proof, which the uni wants - I'm not sure what to do about that, don't even know what that means.
But I basically put off my coursework continuously, I handed in a piece late and I don't think I'll score any marks on it because it was handed in over 7 days past the due date; another piece I haven't even done and it's well past that mark now. I started a test late (it was supposed to be an hour 30, I started before it closed and got 7 minutes). Other words, I've failed 3 modules already and I'm supposed to average a 40% throughout the year to pass onto second year.
I'm struggling, I KNOW this is my fault I really do, I don't want to get chewed out because I'm scared shitless about saying anything to anyone around me - I'm struggling to eat, sleep properly, go outside etc. I've just lay in bed for basically 3-4 weeks straight, I sleep for 15-ish hours a day and scroll on my phone for the time I'm awake, I can't get up, I can't motivate myself.
I have no friends on my course, I'm struggling to speak to people and it just feels awkward. I was able to get a friend on a foundation course but her timetable has changed and we won't see each other as much anymore, her parents are also heavily religious and she can't make it out the house majority of the time to go out.
This is the only cry for help I can think of doing because it's anonymous. I'm scared to go to my uni for help although if I want to maybe even score an attempt at redeeming myself I know I have to at some point. I'm upset and I just feel sick all the time, how do I get help? Where do I get help?
Hello, sorry to hear you’re feeling like this. You have done really well to use this space to be share how you are feeling. We would always advise being honest with the people around you, as hard as this may seem, it might also support you to get the help you need. Who could you speak to about your work? A lecturere/teacher.maybe? They may be able to support you to meet extended deadlines. How would that feel. If you are feeling like suicide is an option right now, you can call Hopeline247 on 0800 068 14 14 or text on 88247 to speak to a trained suicide prevention adviser who will be more than happy to help.
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