Muslim boyfriend and pregnant

I just found out I’m pregnant, my bf is an Afghan Muslim and I’m a Christian. I don’t want to abort but I’m scared of being alone. My mum was a single mother and I don’t want to follow in her footsteps. His family and my mum doesn’t know about me or him so it makes it worse. I really love him but I’m not sure if he loves me enough to stay. What will his family think of me, will they hate me? I’m really scared.

I just found out I’m pregnant, my bf is an Afghan Muslim and I’m a Christian. I don’t want to abort but I’m scared of being alone. My mum was a single mother and I don’t want to follow in her footsteps. His family and my mum doesn’t know about me or him so it makes it worse. I really love him but I’m not sure if he loves me enough to stay. What will his family think of me, will they hate me? I’m really scared.

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I am Pathan/afghan and from experience they are really judgy and will not accept a child outside of marriage but it depends how seriously they take religion and customs. Also I know that some Christians don’t accept abortion so it depends on your age and values.

Will they make him abandon me? What do you think they will do? Will they hate me? What if I revert. Would they ever let him be with me? I still haven’t told anyone and I’m just having a hard time. My symptoms are starting to show and I don’t think I can keep hiding. I just want to know or put in perspective what they’ll think of me and if they’d ever accept me if he chooses to take care of me and the child. Wouldn’t it be bad for him to have a child out of wedlock, what will his future wife think of him if he decides to leave me because of his parents? I just have so much going through my head, and I can’t bear to think about the conflict that’s gunna arise from this situation, I keep postponing telling anyone. I’m just so ashamed.

Also what age r yous?

I’m 21 and he’s 23 almost 24

I’ll be so honest it depends how strict they are but if it was someone from my family they wouldn’t accept you as they may believe that you ruined their son which obviously you didn’t it was his own choice and I’m so against the mindset. In my family they might not even accept their son anymore and disown him honestly it depends on the families strictness. Personally I don’t think you should revert for a man or to be accepted into a man’s family as it should be solely your decision. To decide whether or not he will leave you is what type of person he is (yes it is completely wrong to have children out of wedlock). I mean if you truly believe in the religion then you can revert for YOURSELF only and you could then get married (unless you follow an abrahamic religion) you don’t need to revert to get married. If this were to happen in my family, yes they would despise the girl but it wouldn’t be any more than how much they despise their own son or brother. Hope this helps stay safe xx

I’ll be so honest it depends how strict they are but if it was someone from my family they wouldn’t accept you as they may believe that you ruined their son which obviously you didn’t it was his own choice and I’m so against the mindset. In my family they might not even accept their son anymore and disown him honestly it depends on the families strictness. Personally I don’t think you should revert for a man or to be accepted into a man’s family as it should be solely your decision. To decide whether or not he will leave you is what type of person he is (yes it is completely wrong to have children out of wedlock). I mean if you truly believe in the religion then you can revert for YOURSELF only and you could then get married (unless you follow an abrahamic religion) you don’t need to revert to get married. If this were to happen in my family, yes they would despise the girl but it wouldn’t be any more than how much they despise their own son or brother. Hope this helps stay safe xx

I’m just scared, I know what I did was wrong and I’ll repent but I don’t wanna be alone. I really love him and have always seen a future with him and want us to be married especially if we are going to share a child but knowing that his family hates me will make me feel awful. I don’t know how else to change the situation I’m in. Would it work if he introduces me to his family without letting them know I’m pregnant and get us married quickly, I don’t know what to do.