struggling to make friends
Hi I go to Uni of Liverpool. I've been here for a term and I've really been struggling with loneliness and make friends. I was wondering if anyone else has been, or is in my situation, and if they can give my advice.
Reply 1
Hi @tslover13👋
I'm so sorry to hear that you've been feeling lonely at university and that you are having difficulties in building friendships. Adjusting to university can be challenging. You won't be the only person struggling with the feelings you're experiencing.
Here are a few things you could do to help improve your situation👇️
💚Wellbeing
I suggest you reach out to the wellbeing team at your university. They should be able to provide you with coping mechanisms for the feelings of loneliness you are experiencing. They may provide sessions or events where you can meet other students feeling the same.
🤗Friendships
Chat with your accommodation staff to see if they organise any activities or events where you can meet up with other students. You could also check your Students' Union website to see if there are any clubs or societies you can join. They usually welcome new members, and you'll meet people who share your interests. The Students' Union may also have a support team you can go to for advice.
📚️Engaging with your course and university life
You could become a course rep, student ambassador, or buddy. It will increase your interactions within the university community, giving you more opportunities to develop friendships.
✨Tips
You've got this!
-Leanne 😊
I'm so sorry to hear that you've been feeling lonely at university and that you are having difficulties in building friendships. Adjusting to university can be challenging. You won't be the only person struggling with the feelings you're experiencing.
Here are a few things you could do to help improve your situation👇️
💚Wellbeing
I suggest you reach out to the wellbeing team at your university. They should be able to provide you with coping mechanisms for the feelings of loneliness you are experiencing. They may provide sessions or events where you can meet other students feeling the same.
🤗Friendships
Chat with your accommodation staff to see if they organise any activities or events where you can meet up with other students. You could also check your Students' Union website to see if there are any clubs or societies you can join. They usually welcome new members, and you'll meet people who share your interests. The Students' Union may also have a support team you can go to for advice.
📚️Engaging with your course and university life
You could become a course rep, student ambassador, or buddy. It will increase your interactions within the university community, giving you more opportunities to develop friendships.
✨Tips
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Don't put too much pressure on yourself
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Stay positive
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Take each day as it comes
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Most importantly - be yourself! It's the best way to meet like-minded people.
You've got this!
-Leanne 😊
Reply 2
Hey, be kind to yourself.
You can, if you wanted to, join clubs, societies, ground, activities or volunteer.
You can maybe join a social media group.
You can, if you wanted to, join clubs, societies, ground, activities or volunteer.
You can maybe join a social media group.
Reply 3
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by tslover13Hi I go to Uni of Liverpool. I've been here for a term and I've really been struggling with loneliness and make friends. I was wondering if anyone else has been, or is in my situation, and if they can give my advice.
@girlsonthegolpool on instagram is somewhere with activities each week! you are always welcome to check it out
Reply 4
Original post
by tslover13Hi I go to Uni of Liverpool. I've been here for a term and I've really been struggling with loneliness and make friends. I was wondering if anyone else has been, or is in my situation, and if they can give my advice.
My best advice is to take all the opportunities you can (but only if you'd like to! Don't do anything you wouldn't enjoy or feel comfortable doing)
Just over two years ago, I was socially isolated and it felt impossible to make friends, but I've learnt (with now being in a comfortable and supportive friend group) life sort of gets you there itself. It might take a while, everyone is different, but simply live for a bit and do what you need to do - I'm sure more and more opportunities will come up for you. Make sure you take some
)Reply 5
Hi @tslover13
You're definitely not alone. I moved to Liverpool after spending years in another city where I had a strong support network, and starting again was harder than I expected.
I didn’t really click with the usual society scene, but what helped massively was joining some smaller, more relaxed groups. I started going to Girls on the Go events like coffee meetups and walks, and they’re great at introducing people who come solo so no one feels left out.
I'd also really recommend Bond and Bloom (@bondand.bloom on Instagram) for more social events that aren’t tied to traditional uni societies.
It can feel daunting at first, but there are people out there in the same boat. Hope this helps 🙂
Megan (LJMU Postgraduate Student Rep)
You're definitely not alone. I moved to Liverpool after spending years in another city where I had a strong support network, and starting again was harder than I expected.
I didn’t really click with the usual society scene, but what helped massively was joining some smaller, more relaxed groups. I started going to Girls on the Go events like coffee meetups and walks, and they’re great at introducing people who come solo so no one feels left out.
I'd also really recommend Bond and Bloom (@bondand.bloom on Instagram) for more social events that aren’t tied to traditional uni societies.
It can feel daunting at first, but there are people out there in the same boat. Hope this helps 🙂
Megan (LJMU Postgraduate Student Rep)
Reply 6
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by tslover13Hi I go to Uni of Liverpool. I've been here for a term and I've really been struggling with loneliness and make friends. I was wondering if anyone else has been, or is in my situation, and if they can give my advice.
Hi there, it feels positive that you are reaching out on here for some advice around how to combat loneliness. We would echo some of what Leanne has shared in trying those routes to involve yourself a little more in Uni life, but we know how hard it can be to push yorself forward when you are new to a situation. We wonder if you could initially reach out to some of the other students on your course and see how they are coping, we are sure you are not the only one feeling like this right now. It's a huge change for you right now and you have done so well in making this start. Feeling like this can be very normal but it's also quite impacting. Please don't sit with this if the suggestions aren't working then reach out again. Your Uni wellness Hub can be a great source of support too. Take care.
Reply 7
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by tslover13Hi I go to Uni of Liverpool. I've been here for a term and I've really been struggling with loneliness and make friends. I was wondering if anyone else has been, or is in my situation, and if they can give my advice.
Hi, I'm from Liverpool - I'm starting John Moores in Sept and woufl love to be friends!
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