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Cheating, working things out with an ex, heartbreak and getting replaced

So basically for the past 7 months I’ve been trying to fix things with my ex to get things to work between us. He’s been very distant at times but sometimes he would be really open and talkative about things, so it gave me hope. We broke up because he was distant and we couldn't talk for months and I got really irritated. 2 days after the break up, I logged into one his social media platforms and found him talking to multiple girls. Obviously I was broken, he didn’t apologise or show any form of remorse for the pain he caused me. I stlll wanted to make things work between us so for the next few months even though he’dtake ages to reply to me, I’d try to make things work by improving myself. A few days ago one of his exe’s popped up to me and found out that he’s actually been with another girl whilst talking to me. He’d give me the reason that hes busy and so he didn't get the chance to talk a lot to me, I’d be irritated but there was little i could do. The girl found out abt me as well and she broke up with him a few months back. We got in contact with a lot of other girls who he’s been talking to for a while and playing with all of us at the same time. He blocked me and the other girls just after we found out, but cannot seem to let go of the recent girl he’s been with. Out of all the girls, I wanted the most amount of time on him and he doesn’t seem to care about the hurt he caused me, but more so cares abt the hurt he caused the girl after me/ the recent girl he’s been with. I feel hurt to know he replaced me, didnt even tell me he was with another girl whilst I wasted my time trying to work things with him. He said to his friends that I ‘talk to much’ and he ‘doesnt care’ abt me. But I only ‘spoke too much’ bc when I feel comfortable with someone, I yap a lot. His friend told us that he said he wants to talk to the girl again and work things with her and that he wants another chance. I just dont know what or how to feel.
At the end of the day, your soulmate is not someone who messes you around, like so. I can only see he’s bringing unnecessary hurt and stress to you. If he wants things to work then he will put in the effort, so sit back and see what happens. If he doesn’t come after you then leave him be. It’s okay to be upset about this, it sounds rather confusing. Wish you the best x
Original post by Anonymous
So basically for the past 7 months I’ve been trying to fix things with my ex to get things to work between us. He’s been very distant at times but sometimes he would be really open and talkative about things, so it gave me hope. We broke up because he was distant and we couldn't talk for months and I got really irritated. 2 days after the break up, I logged into one his social media platforms and found him talking to multiple girls. Obviously I was broken, he didn’t apologise or show any form of remorse for the pain he caused me. I stlll wanted to make things work between us so for the next few months even though he’dtake ages to reply to me, I’d try to make things work by improving myself. A few days ago one of his exe’s popped up to me and found out that he’s actually been with another girl whilst talking to me. He’d give me the reason that hes busy and so he didn't get the chance to talk a lot to me, I’d be irritated but there was little i could do. The girl found out abt me as well and she broke up with him a few months back. We got in contact with a lot of other girls who he’s been talking to for a while and playing with all of us at the same time. He blocked me and the other girls just after we found out, but cannot seem to let go of the recent girl he’s been with. Out of all the girls, I wanted the most amount of time on him and he doesn’t seem to care about the hurt he caused me, but more so cares abt the hurt he caused the girl after me/ the recent girl he’s been with. I feel hurt to know he replaced me, didnt even tell me he was with another girl whilst I wasted my time trying to work things with him. He said to his friends that I ‘talk to much’ and he ‘doesnt care’ abt me. But I only ‘spoke too much’ bc when I feel comfortable with someone, I yap a lot. His friend told us that he said he wants to talk to the girl again and work things with her and that he wants another chance. I just dont know what or how to feel.

bro was playing a 1v12 wth 😭. nah im so sorry that happened to you. those type of men are beyond fixing and saving. leave the gc of the girls affected by him, give yourself a clean slate, completley remove him and the situation out of your life. it will be tough but you may never fully get over it if you are still involved in this stuff.
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Original post by Anonymous
bro was playing a 1v12 wth 😭. nah im so sorry that happened to you. those type of men are beyond fixing and saving. leave the gc of the girls affected by him, give yourself a clean slate, completley remove him and the situation out of your life. it will be tough but you may never fully get over it if you are still involved in this stuff.

bro im telling you, the girls keep coming and coming in. We dm one, and there's another 😭😭💀. I've deleted the texts and im going to be deleting his photos and throw the things that remind me of him. It's just a completely crap feeling of wasting my time and effort and he's back chatting negative things abt me to his friends. Thanks for your reply.
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Nah he's more so concerned and upset abt the most ex of his. And you're completely right. My soulmate wouldnt hurt me in this manner. I'm going to start moving on. Thank you for your reply :smile:

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