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What happens if I tell my social care worker that my bf is abusive?

What happens if I tell my social care worker my bf is abusive do they get him in trouble?

Reply 1

Well...yes, and is he? if so report it to the police.

Reply 2

what do you want to happen?

Reply 3

Don’t be fearful or afraid of your boyfriend even if he’s controlling or abusive telling the social worker or police they could restrain him away from you that’s your peace of mind. Essentially yes he will get into trouble. But whatever you do don’t worry about opening up to either of them.

Reply 4

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by Mohammed_2000
Don’t be fearful or afraid of your boyfriend even if he’s controlling or abusive telling the social worker or police they could restrain him away from you that’s your peace of mind. Essentially yes he will get into trouble. But whatever you do don’t worry about opening up to either of them.

I'm not saying you're wrong, but things aren't always that simple. The chances of the guy being 'restrained away from you' for more than a few hours is near nil tbh unless there is a specific, credible and serious accusation.

Reply 5

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by StriderHort
I'm not saying you're wrong, but things aren't always that simple. The chances of the guy being 'restrained away from you' for more than a few hours is near nil tbh unless there is a specific, credible and serious accusation.

Ah okay but more on less on the right lines of the power the police could take though if I’m correct?

Reply 6

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by Mohammed_2000
Ah okay but more on less on the right lines of the power the police could take though if I’m correct?

Yes, I would never tell people NOT to call the police or seek help over abuse, but I think they need to be aware that it may provoke a further reaction from someone already abusive, especially if someone thought that with a single call the guy would be spirited away forever. Realistically they'll be released or bailed in a day-ish, if that, and despite whatever warning from the police to stay clear, way too many go straight back to their ex for a fight. You should always have a backup plan for if the authorities completely fail you imo (pretty likely)

Something to remember is there are lots of 3rd party groups and charities that help with this sort of thing (none I can name offhand) and they might be a better source of a realistic plan and support, even if that still ends up being the police.

Reply 7

In the first instance I think they would support you and encourage you to report it. I can image they have an obligation though to escalate it if they feel you are at significant risk of harm

Reply 8

I am sure there are charities out there that you could talk to for help, advice and support. They may well be anonymous too. I think speak to them first before you open up to your social worker and the police. Have you go evidence/proof that he is abusive towards you? I hate young men and men who think it is acceptable to hit females. It drives me insane. Hope you are ok? Well apart from the obvious. Sorry.

Reply 9

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by Anonymous
What happens if I tell my social care worker my bf is abusive do they get him in trouble?


Why do you even have a social worker in the first place, may I ask?

Reply 10

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by Marcsparky
I am sure there are charities out there that you could talk to for help, advice and support. They may well be anonymous too. I think speak to them first before you open up to your social worker and the police. Have you go evidence/proof that he is abusive towards you? I hate young men and men who think it is acceptable to hit females. It drives me insane. Hope you are ok? Well apart from the obvious. Sorry.


I'm sorry, but how do you know OP is being physically hurt? The details they give in their post is incredibly vague and doesn't actual give any specific details into their personal circumstances at all.

Reply 11

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by drizzysnake
Why do you even have a social worker in the first place, may I ask?

Im a vulnerable adult because I have a mental health condition, I only have one because of safeguarding because they kind of know about the abuse but then I went back to him, they email me asking how me and him are but I’m too scared to say anything incase he gets in trouble because he always threatens me and stuff

Reply 12

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by Anonymous
Im a vulnerable adult because I have a mental health condition, I only have one because of safeguarding because they kind of know about the abuse but then I went back to him, they email me asking how me and him are but I’m too scared to say anything incase he gets in trouble because he always threatens me and stuff


What would happen if you break up with him? Would he threaten you or hurt you? If so, you definitely should speak to someone.

Reply 13

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by black tea
what do you want to happen?

nothing I'm just asking I'm in year nine so I'm just asking

Reply 14

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by personalised
nothing I'm just asking I'm in year nine so I'm just asking


Typically speaking, the police make things worse, so people are only urging OP to contact the police if theirs or someone else's life is in danger.

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