Concerned about new boyfriend

My (f28) new boyfriend I've been seeing for 2 months was avoiding anything beyond kissing, I didn't mind because I really like him but he just told me that he's been intimate once 11 years ago. I dont know why but I'm a bit concerned about this as my ex was very good and I don't want to have to teach my new bf how to do everything. I know that sounds bad.

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

You can dump your new boyfriend at any time, for any reason or no reason at all.
If he's not doing enough to motivate you to stay with him, you shouldn't stay with him.

Maybe give him 1 last chance to step up to the plate. If he doesn't take it, relegate him to your general social circle, instead of him being the 1 special man in your life.

Reply 2

Admit-One

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If you'd rather be with someone more experienced, that's a perfectly valid reason to end things.

Reply 3

ageshallnot

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by Anonymous

Why don't you want to teach him? How did you learn?

Reply 4

Orangey1

How you feel about it is how you feel and is valid, but if you’re unsure it might be worth giving him a chance to learn if you like him otherwise?

Reply 5

Crazy Jamie

It is obviously worth bearing in mind that there will be a period of adjustment with any new partner. Whilst there is value in experience, you equally have to adapt to the preferences and desires of your new partner. You say that you don't want to teach him, but there will be an element of that with every new partner to a degree. At the same time, I appreciate that more is likely required here. I don't see why you wouldn't at least see how things are between you as and when your boyfriend is ready to be more intimate, but equally if he isn't willing to move fast enough for you or you do want to be with someone more experienced, you can and should end the relationship. There's nothing 'wrong' with that if a relationship isn't meeting your needs, even with others would approach it differently.