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So, so sick of being lower middle class

I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.

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Reply 1

Stop comparing yourself to other people and just live your life. Your background is not what is making you unhappy, your perception of yourself is.

Reply 2

You don't sound middle class at all tbh, you'll need to get over it.

Reply 3

I'm from a working class family. You just gotta get over it ig.

Reply 4

Well I’m from a working class family with a mum getting disability benefits and dad in a very low paid job. We were in a council flat but my parents did put effort and money to furnish the interior very well. I always noticed the difference between myself and others and you just sort of accept it and move on.

We never got designer clothes unless once in a blue moon. Parents didn’t know anything with regards to education so I had to motivate myself, if I did worse than others I always felt it was because I was slightly disadvantaged.

I became 18 and got a degree apprenticeship in a pharmaceutical company, even the apprentices they had in the company were from posh backgrounds. My line manager collects cars as a hobby, the group leader is an Oxbridge graduate who comes from a long line of private schools, my colleague who only gets about the same money as me lives in a private gated community in Camden and goes on skiing trips every month.

Unfortunately you can’t change the background you come from and can only change the current situation you’re in. Despite my working class background with less-educated parents, I managed to become a scientist, I travelled to 33/47 countries in Europe on my own salary, managed to save 25% in 5 years than what my dad has done in 30 years

Reply 5

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by Anonymous
I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.

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Play the lottery every week

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Would you want to swap your life with someone half starved every day, and relying on dirty drinking water to survive? Consider yourself fortunate that you have all the essentials that allow you to live a healthy life.

Reply 6

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by Anonymous
I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.


I think you need to suck it up and get on with your life and uni studies. Good luck pal

Reply 7

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by Anonymous
I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.

Rather than crying about it, you can do something to change your situation.

Here are some suggestions:

Look for other jobs and start to progress

Consider doing a masters degree in a relevant area

Join community organisations to meet other people and expand your network

Go to clubs and societies where you can meet rich students.

Actively seek to marry a rich girl.

Consider taking voice and speech classes to change your accent to RP

Good luck
(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 8

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by Wired_1800
Rather than crying about it, you can do something to change your situation.
Here are some suggestions:

Look for other jobs and start to progress

Consider doing a masters degree in a relevant area

Join community organisations to meet other people and expand your network

Go to clubs and societies where you can meet rich students.

Actively seek to marry a rich girl.

Consider taking voice and speech classes to change your access to RP


Good luck


"Actively seek to marry a rich girl."

Wtf is this advice lmao.

Reply 9

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by Rob Bellic
"Actively seek to marry a rich girl."
Wtf is this advice lmao.

It is as it is written.

Some people seek to marry rich people. If you dont know that, that’s alright.

Reply 10

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by Wired_1800
It is as it is written.
Some people seek to marry rich people. If you dont know that, that’s alright.


Oh absolutely! Why work hard when you gamble your future on in-laws and divorce lawyers.

Reply 11

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by Rob Bellic
Oh absolutely! Why work hard when you gamble your future on in-laws and divorce lawyers.

Nobody talked about divorce.

It is a bit naive, if you don't think some intentionally marry into rich families.

Reply 12

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by Anonymous
I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.


Be grateful we take lots of things for granted also why not work on yourself rather than complaining

Reply 13

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by Anonymous
I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.

the people that built this country were working class, i am definitely this and proud

Reply 14

Original post
by Anonymous
I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.

Hello there my good fellow,

I also relate to this. I hate being a part of high society. My parents both have a 3rd degree scholarship in freemasonry and I have never worked for a single thing in my life. It's always just been snap my fingers and get handed whatever I want on a silver platter by one of the butlers. I hate not being able to work a job so much. I once tried to sneak behind my father's back and apply for a job at Home Bargains, not knowing that my father owned it, and when I got home, he reprimanded me firmly by taking away one of my cars. I wish I knew what it was like to be someone like yourself, I would simply tip my hat to the world and live like a Bohemian. Enjoy what you have, dear friend, and learn to make the most of what you have.

Reply 15

you should be proud of your hard working parents who provided you with a stable if not Trumpian start in life.

Reply 16

Original post
by Anonymous
I am writing to vent because I am so, so sick of being from a lower middle class background in this society and feel I have no options for betterment. I did a languages degree with translation and there are literally no well paid jobs in this field. I grew up in a semi, my father was a civil servant and my mum was a part time teacher. We were average in every way, not poor but a long, long way from being rich. Second hand family cars, holidays were nearly always in the UK, getting a designer pair of trainers was a big expense for us. I have a slight regional accent and when it comes to it, I really lack confidence like most people I went to school with. I never thought about these things until uni, but I met so many people who had been on holiday all over the world, been skiing, live in posh parts of London or the south, went to private school, speak in posh accents and are so confident. I was at the gym at my uni earlier this week and this girl was there and I had to ask her something, basically she put her bag on top of my jacket by mistake and I had to ask her to move it. She was very attractive, no doubt from London or somewhere and had a really posh accent, and I literally felt like a chimney sweep speaking to her. Can anybody else sympathize, I mean how do you even start to move upwards in this country? It isn't just people it is house prices and everything.

Was your dad a rubbish civil servant?

Reply 17

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by We Sink
the people that built this country were working class, i am definitely this and proud

Why are you on a student forum then?

Reply 18

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by Quady
Why are you on a student forum then?


What? You do realise working class people do go to uni too now don't you?

Reply 19

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by Rob Bellic
What? You do realise working class people do go to uni too now don't you?

People of a working class background do. Some of them gentrify into being students.

Working class people don't have the luxury of floating about for several years, shelling out thousands for a piece of paper. They've gotta work to put food on the table.

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