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I Talk Too Much. How Do I Shut Up?

I have a tendency to talk too much and excessively, but this only occurs on social media or other communication channels such as email and I also have a tendency to be extremely negative or I complain a lot to my friends, which is also wrong. However, I never really talk a lot in real life, unless I am asked to or if I have to. I have some effective ways to stop my bad habits. For example, I limit myself, in terms of what I write, how much I can write or when I can write to someone and only write to someone if I need to. I also feel the need to set more boundaries for myself and be more disciplined. I think there were times where I had crossed the harassment territory, and other times, where it was awfully close. I completely hate myself for what I did, which and I don't want this to happen again, because I have lost many relationships and opportunities over my inability to control my tongue. I also don't want someone to feel terrorised or scared by me, nor do I want to get in legal trouble either.

I am hoping to talk to a counsellor about this. However, I would really appreciate some constructive advice.

Reply 1

Zarek

Realising an issue is the most important thing to address it, and you seem to be doing this. Seeng a counsellor is a good idea too. Maybe come off social media platforms. Such things are a habit which when broken you can see how little they added to your life

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post

by Zarek

Hi Zarek, thanks for the advice. My communication on social media used to be an issue, now this isn't really the case anymore.

I would argue that communication via traditional communication channels such as email or the chat function of Microoft Teams was the main issue. I no longer use Microsoft Teams as I no longer have any use for it, so this shouldn't be an issue anymore. However, if I communicate with someone on email or if someone communicates with media email, I can often go on an tangent, especially if I am complaining something or someone has wronged me. I still use my email because I have to for work and personal reasons.

Reply 3

zfsafas

i think if u take things more seriously and maturely it kinda stops u from saying unnecessary things, ive been in a position where ppl have told me i always wanna get the last word and whatever, btw dont take this as any insult or anything jus some advice👍️

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Hi, great advice! Sometimes, I take things too seriously, other times I can be emotionally immature, without any regard to anyone else's feelings to how my behaviour may impact them, until very much later on. That being said, I agree with your advice and need to approach situations with more maturity and grace.