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I have a crush on multiple people at once! 😅

First year of sixth form, I realised I think I'm either Bi or Lesbian. Now I'm in my second year of sixth form, and I'm really confused, as I seem to have a crush on 3 people at once. And we're all in the same class, which only has 6 people in it in total, including me and my 3 crushes.
Back in high school, when all the other girls would talk about crushes, I never had any.
Person A is non-binary - they were the first crush. Our personalities go really well together, I find them interesting, and we have a lot in common. They're the sort of person I want in my life forever, but I'm not sure that I'm sexually attracted to them.
Person B is female - I find her really gorgeous, love her fashion and her confidence, have a few things in common but not much tbh.
Person C is male - he is really nice and friendly, we have a lot of common interests and get on really well. But I am wondering what if the only reason I have a crush on him is just because it's clear he has a crush on me and I'm flattered that someone is actually interested in me, as the other two crushes don't seem as eager.
I am wondering if this whole situation is actually symbolic of me trying to figure out my sexuality.
Why is this happening? How do I know which one I actually have a crush on? Is it possible to have multiple crushes at once? How do I know the difference between someone I want to be friends with and someone I want to date?
All advice and perspectives appreciated 🫠
(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 1

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by Lilacfern
First year of sixth form, I realised I think I'm either Bi or Lesbian. Now I'm in my second year of sixth form, and I'm really confused, as I seem to have a crush on 3 people at once. And we're all in the same class, which only has 6 people in it in total, including me and my 3 crushes.
Back in high school, when all the other girls would talk about crushes, I never had any.
Person A is non-binary - they were the first crush. Our personalities go really well together, I find them interesting, and we have a lot in common. They're the sort of person I want in my life forever, but I'm not sure that I'm sexually attracted to them.
Person B is female - I find her really gorgeous, love her fashion and her confidence, have a few things in common but not much tbh.
Person C is male - he is really nice and friendly, we have a lot of common interests and get on really well. But I am wondering what if the only reason I have a crush on him is just because it's clear he has a crush on me and I'm flattered that someone is actually interested in me, as the other two crushes don't seem as eager.
I am wondering if this whole situation is actually symbolic of me trying to figure out my sexuality.
Why is this happening? How do I know which one I actually have a crush on? Is it possible to have multiple crushes at once? How do I know the difference between someone I want to be friends with and someone I want to date?
All advice and perspectives appreciated 🫠

I'm jealous of you, I rarely feel anything towards anyone yet I do want a relationship. You should see this as a good thing, you have options! But yeah, it's definitely possible to have multiple crushes at once. Telling the difference between friends and crushes can be a little difficult---one way they differ is that you might want to look extra pretty or think about them when you're choosing what to wear that day. If you don't find them physically attractive at all or they aren't your type, you are probably just friends, like Person A. I personally don't think you need much in common to be in a romantic relationship---the important thing is that your GOALS are common, not necessarily your tastes or hobbies.

Reply 2

update please

Reply 3

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by Anonymous
update please

Decided none of them are quite right. Additionally, I'm now very busy with A-Levels. Me and my crushes are still all in the same class so that's kinda funny 😂

Reply 4

haha kk

Reply 5

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by Lilacfern
Decided none of them are quite right. Additionally, I'm now very busy with A-Levels. Me and my crushes are still all in the same class so that's kinda funny 😂

That's Life... 😆

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