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What does it mean if a girl agrees to go travelling with me for 4-5 days?

She told me that there are many places she hasn't been to and she would like to go there with me. Besides, it seems that she prefers to come with me only instead of with multiple friends. Also, she seems quite conservative because she told me that once there was a guy who invited her to hang out in her city, she agreed but said that she wanted to come with her female friend. But I am not 100% sure because she only told me one such guy. So, does that mean romantic interest?

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There was a thread on here recently where a girl was asked by a male friend to go on a long drive, and she asked whether he would see that as a date. There was no suggestion that he was interested in her beyond their friendship, and she wasn't interested in him beyond that either but thought it would be awkward if it turned out he did think it was a date. Turns out, despite not mentioning it at all, he did think it was a date. And things were awkward.

So, that being the case, the obvious question is whether you have given any signs at all to this girl that you are interested in her romantically, that you may be thinking along those lines, or that this trip may be something more than two friends sharing time. Because if you haven't, no, her deciding to go with you in and of itself does not mean romantic interest. It means she likes spending time with you sufficiently that she wants to got travelling with you. If you think it might mean more than that, or want it to, you need to ask her.

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by Crazy Jamie
There was a thread on here recently where a girl was asked by a male friend to go on a long drive, and she asked whether he would see that as a date. There was no suggestion that he was interested in her beyond their friendship, and she wasn't interested in him beyond that either but thought it would be awkward if it turned out he did think it was a date. Turns out, despite not mentioning it at all, he did think it was a date. And things were awkward.
So, that being the case, the obvious question is whether you have given any signs at all to this girl that you are interested in her romantically, that you may be thinking along those lines, or that this trip may be something more than two friends sharing time. Because if you haven't, no, her deciding to go with you in and of itself does not mean romantic interest. It means she likes spending time with you sufficiently that she wants to got travelling with you. If you think it might mean more than that, or want it to, you need to ask her.

Genuine question from an asexual female - do men ever want to just hang out without hoping that you will sleep with them, even if you have told them you are not interested in them romantically?

Reply 3

What was your reason for asking her? She's got to have shown interest in being a friend or girlfriend for you hoping she'd make that kind of commitment.

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by Anonymous
Genuine question from an asexual female - do men ever want to just hang out without hoping that you will sleep with them, even if you have told them you are not interested in them romantically?

Yes, they do, but I do appreciate how at times it may seem like they don't, particularly when you're younger and fewer people are in committed relationships. As a guy who has had good female friends throughout my life, I can promise you that it really isn't difficult to be attracted to someone and not act on that. You're not asking guys to not be attracted to you because that isn't something they can control, but they can control what they do about it. The guys who make good friends are also ones who will respect your own feelings and show what is a very basic level of self control over their own.

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by Crazy Jamie
There was a thread on here recently where a girl was asked by a male friend to go on a long drive, and she asked whether he would see that as a date. There was no suggestion that he was interested in her beyond their friendship, and she wasn't interested in him beyond that either but thought it would be awkward if it turned out he did think it was a date. Turns out, despite not mentioning it at all, he did think it was a date. And things were awkward.
So, that being the case, the obvious question is whether you have given any signs at all to this girl that you are interested in her romantically, that you may be thinking along those lines, or that this trip may be something more than two friends sharing time. Because if you haven't, no, her deciding to go with you in and of itself does not mean romantic interest. It means she likes spending time with you sufficiently that she wants to got travelling with you. If you think it might mean more than that, or want it to, you need to ask her.

many thanks!

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by Surnia
What was your reason for asking her? She's got to have shown interest in being a friend or girlfriend for you hoping she'd make that kind of commitment.
My purpose was to find a good place to travel together, and to concede my feelings to her during the trip when atmosphere is good. Also, I wanted to know (to some extent) her feelings to me, because if she refused, then most likely, romantic interest doesn't exist.

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by Anonymous
Genuine question from an asexual female - do men ever want to just hang out without hoping that you will sleep with them, even if you have told them you are not interested in them romantically?

They might do but I wouldn't expect it to be the norm. If it's a purely platonic thing then wouldn't they, most of the time, prefer to hang out with another guy because they'd normally have more in common with them? Or hang out with a group of people so it makes the occasion more interesting? And also there's less room for potential misunderstanding that way?

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by avalanche2502
My purpose was to find a good place to travel together, and to concede my feelings to her during the trip when atmosphere is good. Also, I wanted to know (to some extent) her feelings to me, because if she refused, then most likely, romantic interest doesn't exist.

Wouldn't it have been cheaper and less hassle to take her out to dinner and discuss a relationship? You sound doubtful over her feelings and it's not going to be good if she refuses on day 2 of the trip.

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