I want to move out for uni but my parents are against it, what should i do ?

Hi Its going to be a few month before i conform my firm and insurance for uni, i recently got an offer from Durham University which is alomst 5 hrs away from my home in London. I told my parents about this and they completely refuse saying how from birth they decided that i will not be allowed to move out unless its for marriage purposes. Its been a few days since i have spoken to them fully. Durham has been my dream university to go to and i wont be able to go without the help of my dad. My older brother experienced the same and had to retake the year as he couldnt go to his dream uni. I'm not on talking terms with him so getting his support is not an option. All my offers for uni are outside of London and so i dont know what to do. I feel trapped at home and going to Durham is all i think about. Got any advice ?

Hi Its going to be a few month before i conform my firm and insurance for uni, i recently got an offer from Durham University which is alomst 5 hrs away from my home in London. I told my parents about this and they completely refuse saying how from birth they decided that i will not be allowed to move out unless its for marriage purposes. Its been a few days since i have spoken to them fully. Durham has been my dream university to go to and i wont be able to go without the help of my dad. My older brother experienced the same and had to retake the year as he couldnt go to his dream uni. I'm not on talking terms with him so getting his support is not an option. All my offers for uni are outside of London and so i dont know what to do. I feel trapped at home and going to Durham is all i think about. Got any advice ?

Just go, you will be an adult by 18 years of age.

What a backward minded and possibly barbaric misogynistic mindset. A woman not being allowed to move out until marriage? I’d carefully evaluate whether my parents see me as an individual with their own autonomy or as an extension of themselves. If you have this type of relationship with your parents I’d discuss why they see you as property waiting to be married off. Are you South Asian or Arab by any chance?
I’d suggest getting a job in the Summer (easier said than done) with hospitality agencies made up of students as they’re long hours but well paid. Happy to recommend you some. You may only get minimum maintenance but I heard Durham is very generous with financial support if you could claim yourself as estranged or explain your situation.

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I pity girls who are seen as property in this day and age, forced to stay put at home until they’re married. It’s disgusting to view your daughter like that. I often wonder why these backward minded people are allowed to stay in this country.

I pity girls who are seen as property in this day and age, forced to stay put at home until they’re married. It’s disgusting to view your daughter like that. I often wonder why these backward minded people are allowed to stay in this country.