First kiss, haram

Hi , i am feeling so much regret. So i met up with someone i had known for a while and shared my first kiss with him. we are both of the same religion. But now i am just not feeling it with him anymore. I always wanted my first to be my husband. I know i am the one to blame. I feel like now i have something big to keep me with him.

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Mohammed_2000

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by Anonymous

Hi , i am feeling so much regret. So i met up with someone i had known for a while and shared my first kiss with him. we are both of the same religion. But now i am just not feeling it with him anymore. I always wanted my first to be my husband. I know i am the one to blame. I feel like now i have something big to keep me with him.

Salaam sister abit unfortunate but it’s not your fault rightfully repent show to Allah almighty, all merciful, all powerful and forgetful purely from the heart that you sincerely regret and you made a mistake your wrongdoing. Don’t allow or escalate things further and keep it as that.

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by Mohammed_2000

Salaam sister abit unfortunate but it’s not your fault rightfully repent show to Allah almighty, all merciful, all powerful and forgetful purely from the heart that you sincerely regret and you made a mistake your wrongdoing. Don’t allow or escalate things further and keep it as that.

Thank you for such a non judgmental and honest response. Yes i am deeply regretful and will continue to repent. I just feel like i am touched now and i don’t have a right to meet another man lawfully and the right way and i have to make things work with him even if its for marriage regardless of me no longer feeling much attraction towards him. Is it wrong of me to stop contact with him and just leaving everything to allah and even if that is if i was to marry someone different in the future the halal way after repentance?

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Mohammed_2000

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by Anonymous

Thank you for such a non judgmental and honest response. Yes i am deeply regretful and will continue to repent. I just feel like i am touched now and i don’t have a right to meet another man lawfully and the right way and i have to make things work with him even if its for marriage regardless of me no longer feeling much attraction towards him. Is it wrong of me to stop contact with him and just leaving everything to allah and even if that is if i was to marry someone different in the future the halal way after repentance?

Sister it wasn’t your fault. Everyone prone to mistakes and a way to rectify that is through repentance be thorough from the heart. Ramadan coming up a time sins are also forgiven just remember Allah whilst also being thankful and appreciative. No sister you don’t your certainly right. Otherwise then the sin continues on in marriage purpose and sake I think we can establish that there’s something there between you both just keep it halal at maximum distance, try and make both parents sides aware of your intention and desire of marriage. I mean contact wise socially I can’t be able to tell leaving it in the hands of Allah as we know Allah is capable of anything all you can do is pray Tahajjud even pray Istikhara telling Allah make him your naseeb, making sure he’s right for you and your right for him. After rightfully seeking repentance again it’s not something I can answer but for something to work out between you both now why don’t you do the above.

(edited 1 year ago)

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Rahastah

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by Anonymous

Thank you for such a non judgmental and honest response. Yes i am deeply regretful and will continue to repent. I just feel like i am touched now and i don’t have a right to meet another man lawfully and the right way and i have to make things work with him even if its for marriage regardless of me no longer feeling much attraction towards him. Is it wrong of me to stop contact with him and just leaving everything to allah and even if that is if i was to marry someone different in the future the halal way after repentance?

It is her fault, but now it's her choice to use this lesson as a blessing or let it be her curse, I understand this is harsh, but I know a sister who was in a haram relationship, and found out the hard way why her relationship was haram,

The way she used it to get closer to Allaah is inspirational, and now from what I can see, she has done such a good job. It is our fault for choosing to follow shaytaan, but what will we take from it after the sin? Would we go back?

I advise you take accountability and responsibility, but also use it as a big big lesson and turn it into a blessing, to bring you closer to Allaah, doesn't excuse you for doing it in the first place, but repentance is now an option to right your wrongs.

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Rahastah

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by Mohammed_2000

Sister it wasn’t your fault. Everyone prone to mistakes and a way to rectify that is through repentance be thorough from the heart. Ramadan coming up a time sins are also forgiven just remember Allah whilst also being thankful and appreciative. No sister you don’t your certainly right. Otherwise then the sin continues on in marriage purpose and sake I think we can establish that there’s something there between you both just keep it halal at maximum distance, try and make both parents sides aware of your intention and desire of marriage. I mean contact wise socially I can’t be able to tell leaving it in the hands of Allah as we know Allah is capable of anything all you can do is pray Tahajjud even pray Istikhara telling Allah make him your naseeb, making sure he’s right for you and your right for him. After rightfully seeking repentance again it’s not something I can answer but for something to work out between you both now why don’t you do the above.

Saying it's not her fault is wrong, we need to take accountability and and not blame others, she did wrong, but she can improve from it and do better, learn from mistakes we can all make and use it to get closer to him with repentance and sincerity

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Rahastah

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by Anonymous

Thank you for such a non judgmental and honest response. Yes i am deeply regretful and will continue to repent. I just feel like i am touched now and i don’t have a right to meet another man lawfully and the right way and i have to make things work with him even if its for marriage regardless of me no longer feeling much attraction towards him. Is it wrong of me to stop contact with him and just leaving everything to allah and even if that is if i was to marry someone different in the future the halal way after repentance?

I advise you listen to someone called Islamic feelings on Spotify if you have, just as a means to feel the Muslim vibe and sisterhood

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Mohammed_2000

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by Rahastah

Saying it's not her fault is wrong, we need to take accountability and and not blame others, she did wrong, but she can improve from it and do better, learn from mistakes we can all make and use it to get closer to him with repentance and sincerity

Alright mate but the sister acknowledges her mistake no need to point that out there’s tons and millions of people out there who aren’t audacious or brave enough to even come out and acknowledge it in the first place what are you trying to achieve or point or get across? She is taking accountability by looking back with regret…

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Rahastah

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by Anonymous

Thank you for such a non judgmental and honest response. Yes i am deeply regretful and will continue to repent. I just feel like i am touched now and i don’t have a right to meet another man lawfully and the right way and i have to make things work with him even if its for marriage regardless of me no longer feeling much attraction towards him. Is it wrong of me to stop contact with him and just leaving everything to allah and even if that is if i was to marry someone different in the future the halal way after repentance?

And finally, find good friends, I can't stress this enough,

Your company matters soo much who has good character and their deen is good. Stick with them and pray Allaah keeps you with them to get closer to your lord. It can take time and you can be lonely, but having good Muslim sisterhood company can be the help you get to be away from things that can break you or lead u down the wrong path

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Rahastah

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I don't know anything sweeter than the sweetness of imaan, enjoy it sister, the guilt you feel, thank him soooo much for it, it's a blessing to be close to Allaah fueled by guilt, repentance and gratefulness

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