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Unsure what to do about housing situation

I've really struggled to get housing for my next year of uni, but due to lurking on facebook a lot, finally found a group of 3 other people to live with. We had one house viewing that fell through, but I'm really unsure if I should stick with them or say I can't do it. It feels like a stupid thought process, because the other people are nice, and supposedly clean, but I've only met them once. I really wanted to live with someone I knew, or with some extroverted people/people who like going out as I do struggle socially but do well with quite social people. Obviously, that's asking a lot and I can't always get what i want, but I'm really not sure what to do. There's also the fact that I'm gay, and two of them I'm fairly sure are pretty religious, which doesn't say anything on their views but it is something in the back of my head. Would it be a better decision to drop out of it and hope I meet someone that I click with and is looking for a place, or just suck it up?

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Jonah9000

Hi! I've lived with friends from the first year in my second year, and with random people for my third year and masters (I'm on here now as I'm hopefully starting a new degree in programming.) The friends from first year thing went really wrong, one of them beat me up and choked me against the wall he turned out to be a psycho, so I moved out, and never had any issues (actually had awesome times!) with the random people I lived with thereafter. So what I'm trying to say is: it's pot luck when you live with people either way, sometimes it's better to live apart from your other uni friends, make new friends with new flatmates, and if these people seem nice and clean then don't worry about it. Also about being gay, have you mentioned it? Maybe just gauge their reaction to you bringing people over before you decide to ditch them. Btw I am religious and also bi, I know Jesus spent a lot of time amongst the homosexuals and other societal outcasts, and considered us all the children of God :smile: