Leaving Haram Relationship (Muslim Brothers and Sisters)
I’ve left behind a haram relationship. Leaving behind all forms of communication both in person and socially. I still want to marry her Muslim brothers and sisters I love her for her and I did what I did as in leaving behind for the love and sake of Allah although what do I do please. I have been waiting for her for well over 2 and a half years my intention was to get married and I knew that the right way forward was to ask her father hand to marriage although with demands of being financially stable in order to provide for her which my current job wouldn’t be able to do that had proved to be out of my hands especially when I have been searching and looking for the job for well over 20 months. She herself said her not being financially stable or mentally prepared to get married we both had to go separate ways although we both said to one and other we will wait for each other. What do I do my brothers and sisters I really love her I want to get married to her I need advice please.
Thank you
Thank you
Reply 1
Makes lots of duaa, try to be patient and inshaAllah the right things will happen.
Maybe ask this question on islamq&a too, they'll give a good reply inshaAllah
Maybe ask this question on islamq&a too, they'll give a good reply inshaAllah
Reply 2
Original post
by AnonymousMakes lots of duaa, try to be patient and inshaAllah the right things will happen.
Maybe ask this question on islamq&a too, they'll give a good reply inshaAllah
Maybe ask this question on islamq&a too, they'll give a good reply inshaAllah
Thank you for getting back to me appreciate the advice. I am doing Tahajjud and mentioning her name in my Duaas for Allah to make her my naseeb, for her health and safety and for her success.
Reply 3
Original post
by AnonymousThank you for getting back to me appreciate the advice. I am doing Tahajjud and mentioning her name in my Duaas for Allah to make her my naseeb, for her health and safety and for her success.
Reply 4
What do you think is the biggest difference between people that have highly successful lives and those that have run of the mill lives?
It's a simple thing. That makes a huge amount of sense when you know what it is.
It's a simple thing. That makes a huge amount of sense when you know what it is.
Reply 5
Asslamaualaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatahu. I think the main thing do now is to focus on what you can do to progress with your situation. I can understand the frustration, disappointment and heaviness you may be feeling, especially in trying to find stability, but always remember, if Allah SWT has written something for you, nothing will cause it to miss you, and if Allah SWT in his infinite wisdom (He SWT is Al-Hakeem afterall), has willed for something to miss you, nothing can cause it to happen for you.
You should be proud of yourself for going against your desires and wanting to see her out for the sake of Allah in the Islamic way, and whatever is written in your Qadr for you is what will happen, as we have to remember that Allah is the knower of all things. In Surah Baqarah I believe it is written (please fact check it however, I am sure it is mentioned in Surah Baqarah), that you may love something that is actually bad for you, and dislike something which is actually good for you.
Our purpose in this world is it serve and worship Allah in in his one, single, supreme being as there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah SWT, so I invite you to, for now, focus on building a relationship with Allah so that you can access the stability and peace you desire. Leave and entrust all of your affairs to Allah, work hard, and then do not stress, have pure faith and tawakul that now you are on a better path, Allah SWT will provide for you.
The Prophet SAW said, a hadith narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud and is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah (4250), that the one who truly, sincerely repents is like the one without sin.
You are doing well, you are where you are at because Allah has decreed you to be where you are. Allah SWT has guided you away from a haram relationship. You are fortunate to be amongst the guided ones, Mashallah.
Istighfar will change your life, engage sincerely in Dhikr, recitation and understanding of the Quran, praying your Salah with Khushu on time, and In'sha'allah, you will reap the rewards of your sabr.
Sometimes our hands have to be empty to receive a blessing. If this sister is not in a position where she is ready for marriage and has been in a relationship with you before, which you left for the Sake of Allah, yet still love her, are you attached to the idea of Marriage, or to her? Remember that marriage is not just for love, but also a foundation to become closer to Allah SWT.
We marry the people we are, as the quran states, don't allow shaytaan to trap you into this sense of false security. Strive for Allah and not for people. Ask yourself if she will allow you to succeed and progress where you want to be islamically, and whether you are the best for her in this regard also, maintaining the Muslim way. Ask yourself where you want to be in the next 5 years, think of all the possibilities, and where that leads your spirituality and relationship with Allah SWT. Everything else is secondary; make Islam your priority, and you will see that you will end up in a better place.
Sometimes, even when our situation doesn't change despite all of our hard work and effort, Allah SWT encompasses us in His Mercy and love. You may feel peace you didn't feel before or think you would feel, you may feel as though your affairs are settled. Trust Allah, and you will be ok. Allah is all you need, and after you will see how things work out for you, In'sha'allah.
We are rooting for you and are so proud of you for opening your heart to Allah instead of closing it and turning away. You are one of the guided ones, maintain that, allow Allah SWT's love, mercy and wisdom to benefit you. Allah SWT does not need us yet we need him, and he SWT still chooses to guide those who he SWT wills Subhanallah, you are blessed.
You have defeated Shaytaan many times; don't let yourself down, you will get through this. Surah Baqarah, No soul is burdened with more than it can handle. Maintain Sabr, and be sincere towards Allah, and May Allah SWT make your affairs settled, and your test easy for you In'sha'allah.
Maybe she is written in your qadr, in your naseeb, and maybe not, but whatever happens will happen for the best and right reasons In'sha'allah, if you remain sincere. It could also be that Allah SWT has chosen this trial to guide you closer to him, since you are praying Tahajjud and coming closer to him, but Allah knows best, and as your heart is guided, you will understand your situation better in'sha'allah.
You should be proud of yourself for going against your desires and wanting to see her out for the sake of Allah in the Islamic way, and whatever is written in your Qadr for you is what will happen, as we have to remember that Allah is the knower of all things. In Surah Baqarah I believe it is written (please fact check it however, I am sure it is mentioned in Surah Baqarah), that you may love something that is actually bad for you, and dislike something which is actually good for you.
Our purpose in this world is it serve and worship Allah in in his one, single, supreme being as there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah SWT, so I invite you to, for now, focus on building a relationship with Allah so that you can access the stability and peace you desire. Leave and entrust all of your affairs to Allah, work hard, and then do not stress, have pure faith and tawakul that now you are on a better path, Allah SWT will provide for you.
The Prophet SAW said, a hadith narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud and is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah (4250), that the one who truly, sincerely repents is like the one without sin.
You are doing well, you are where you are at because Allah has decreed you to be where you are. Allah SWT has guided you away from a haram relationship. You are fortunate to be amongst the guided ones, Mashallah.
Istighfar will change your life, engage sincerely in Dhikr, recitation and understanding of the Quran, praying your Salah with Khushu on time, and In'sha'allah, you will reap the rewards of your sabr.
Sometimes our hands have to be empty to receive a blessing. If this sister is not in a position where she is ready for marriage and has been in a relationship with you before, which you left for the Sake of Allah, yet still love her, are you attached to the idea of Marriage, or to her? Remember that marriage is not just for love, but also a foundation to become closer to Allah SWT.
We marry the people we are, as the quran states, don't allow shaytaan to trap you into this sense of false security. Strive for Allah and not for people. Ask yourself if she will allow you to succeed and progress where you want to be islamically, and whether you are the best for her in this regard also, maintaining the Muslim way. Ask yourself where you want to be in the next 5 years, think of all the possibilities, and where that leads your spirituality and relationship with Allah SWT. Everything else is secondary; make Islam your priority, and you will see that you will end up in a better place.
Sometimes, even when our situation doesn't change despite all of our hard work and effort, Allah SWT encompasses us in His Mercy and love. You may feel peace you didn't feel before or think you would feel, you may feel as though your affairs are settled. Trust Allah, and you will be ok. Allah is all you need, and after you will see how things work out for you, In'sha'allah.
We are rooting for you and are so proud of you for opening your heart to Allah instead of closing it and turning away. You are one of the guided ones, maintain that, allow Allah SWT's love, mercy and wisdom to benefit you. Allah SWT does not need us yet we need him, and he SWT still chooses to guide those who he SWT wills Subhanallah, you are blessed.
You have defeated Shaytaan many times; don't let yourself down, you will get through this. Surah Baqarah, No soul is burdened with more than it can handle. Maintain Sabr, and be sincere towards Allah, and May Allah SWT make your affairs settled, and your test easy for you In'sha'allah.
Maybe she is written in your qadr, in your naseeb, and maybe not, but whatever happens will happen for the best and right reasons In'sha'allah, if you remain sincere. It could also be that Allah SWT has chosen this trial to guide you closer to him, since you are praying Tahajjud and coming closer to him, but Allah knows best, and as your heart is guided, you will understand your situation better in'sha'allah.
Quick Reply
Related discussions
- Can muslims date?
- I am (21F) I secretly dated 2 chechen guys in my school, both found out help?
- Muslim Brothers and Sisters Only Please
- Muslim Brothers and Sisters Please
- How to get a Muslim boyfriend
- Halal dating?
- Marriage Advice (Muslim Brothers and Sisters) Please
- Disowned by my dad
- Moving out Abusive Parents
- Do Muslim girls date?
- An Islamic Chat
- Muslim Girl but I want to be a (animal) Vet
- Situationship
- Is this a lack of commitment?
- my bf stood up for me against his mom and sisters but it went very bad?
- Muslim Brothers and Sisters Please
- Student loans
- Am I wrong for feeling this way?
- Was I Just Used? (Muslim Brothers and Sisters Please Also)
- Islamic student finance petition
Latest
Trending
Last reply 4 months ago
What food item are you currently craving?Last reply 5 months ago
Domino's pizza personal size vs small sizeLast reply 7 months ago
Am I the only one who hates holidays especially the summer holidays?Last reply 8 months ago
Anyone else been out of work for 9 years in a row?Last reply 8 months ago
parents wont let me take the course i want to takeLast reply 8 months ago
How do I tell my instructor I don't want lessons with her anymore?Last reply 8 months ago
Where can I find good-quality alternatives to luxury fashion clothing?Articles for you
How The Student Room is moderated
To keep The Student Room safe for everyone, we moderate posts that are added to the site.
