am I wrong for this?
I'm in a situation at uni. There is a boy in my halls and we had sex a couple of times before christmas. We were talking over christmas and sexting and stuff, I found out he has a situationship at home and he also has a really complicated "casual" thing with a girl in his friendship group. Since I got back we've been seeing each other and sleeping together quite a lot. I don't have romantic feelings for him but it has really been getting to me. A few weeks ago I had slept in his room and was there in the morning for a few hours, but then the other girl knocked on his door and they went outside to chat - he came back in and said he was sorry but he's off to smoke with her and could I wait a bit then sneak out so she doesn't see. I told him we should just be friends after that but that didn't last long. I genuinely don't want to date him or anything but I feel really guilty about this girl, because I think that's been going on for months. I struggle with ending it because uni makes me insanely lonely sometimes so I sort of take whatever connection I can get - also we all live together so I can't really avoid him. Apparently both of them get with other people and they know it's not exclusive but I can sort of tell she likes him and he seems to be ignoring that. I know the obvious answer is stop having sex with him, and I know I need to but I just want to hear other peoples thoughts on this because I feel really guilty
Reply 1
He sounds like an absolute disaster.
Reply 2
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by Admit-OneHe sounds like an absolute disaster.
he absolutely is. a lot of issues going on with him, especially with girls.
Reply 3
You are at the best place in the world to meet men. So go ahead and meet loads of other men at your uni. And see how you get on with them.
And sooner or later you'll get another man that's a better match for you than this current guy.
Whether it's later or sooner will depend on luck, how proactive you are and how good your woman to man social skills are.
And sooner or later you'll get another man that's a better match for you than this current guy.
Whether it's later or sooner will depend on luck, how proactive you are and how good your woman to man social skills are.
Reply 4
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by Anonymoushe absolutely is. a lot of issues going on with him, especially with girls.
In that case absolutely no idea why you would feel guilty about knocking it on the head. Concentrate on widening your social groups and interact with people who don't bring the drama so they can get their end away.
Reply 5
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by Admit-OneIn that case absolutely no idea why you would feel guilty about knocking it on the head. Concentrate on widening your social groups and interact with people who don't bring the drama so they can get their end away.
I meant I felt guilty about doing it in the first place - but you are right
Reply 6
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You’re not doing anything wrong, he hasn’t made a commitment to anyone and is quite happy to string you both along. It would be good for self esteem to kick him in to touch and find someone better though
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