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Me and my friends went to this club the other day but it was being held by my sister's bullies and I didn't know that. I stayed and was pleasant to the bullies for the time during the club but afterwards told my friends I won't be going back bc they bullied my sister. What happened was my sister's bullies came to my house last year bc they used to be besties with my sister and were surprised it was average (they thought we were super poor) and it was nice. The next day they completely ignored my sister bc they got threatened by our house or smth and told everyone that my sister was a liar and a fake person. They spread the most dumb rumours but my sister's yr group was 90% rich white racist girls so they all ate it up. They told people that my sister pretended to be Indian to be exotic and that's super fake and total liar behaviour. You would think people with a brain would say that rumour isn't true but her whole yr group ostracised my sister and those girls made my sister's life a living hell. My sister had no friends for all of yr 11 and ran ASAP for sixth form. It gave her severe anxiety and depression. When I told my friends all this they refused to believe me. They said how can they turn a whole yr group against a super nice girl like my sister? They said the rumours they spread were super dumb how did anyone believe it? What my friends are failing to understand is that majority of my sister's yr group were racist and the people who weren't didn't bother to stick up for my sister. It's hard to understand if you weren't living through seeing your sister slowly deteriorate and I don't like talking about that stage in our lives when my sister fell into depression but they basically called me a liar. One friend is so determined to prove that none of this happened she's actually asking my sister's bullies which is super dumb. I don't know what to do. It's already hard to explain and talk about for me, but what my friends don't understand is that bad things happen to good people for no reason what so ever. They don't need to understand it, but I do bc I was there with my sister, but they're so desperate to understand what happened and it's annoying me. They don't belive what I told them essentially calling me a liar. What do I do?
Original post by Anonymous
Me and my friends went to this club the other day but it was being held by my sister's bullies and I didn't know that. I stayed and was pleasant to the bullies for the time during the club but afterwards told my friends I won't be going back bc they bullied my sister. What happened was my sister's bullies came to my house last year bc they used to be besties with my sister and were surprised it was average (they thought we were super poor) and it was nice. The next day they completely ignored my sister bc they got threatened by our house or smth and told everyone that my sister was a liar and a fake person. They spread the most dumb rumours but my sister's yr group was 90% rich white racist girls so they all ate it up. They told people that my sister pretended to be Indian to be exotic and that's super fake and total liar behaviour. You would think people with a brain would say that rumour isn't true but her whole yr group ostracised my sister and those girls made my sister's life a living hell. My sister had no friends for all of yr 11 and ran ASAP for sixth form. It gave her severe anxiety and depression. When I told my friends all this they refused to believe me. They said how can they turn a whole yr group against a super nice girl like my sister? They said the rumours they spread were super dumb how did anyone believe it? What my friends are failing to understand is that majority of my sister's yr group were racist and the people who weren't didn't bother to stick up for my sister. It's hard to understand if you weren't living through seeing your sister slowly deteriorate and I don't like talking about that stage in our lives when my sister fell into depression but they basically called me a liar. One friend is so determined to prove that none of this happened she's actually asking my sister's bullies which is super dumb. I don't know what to do. It's already hard to explain and talk about for me, but what my friends don't understand is that bad things happen to good people for no reason what so ever. They don't need to understand it, but I do bc I was there with my sister, but they're so desperate to understand what happened and it's annoying me. They don't belive what I told them essentially calling me a liar. What do I do?

Oh wow girl as a south asian myself it's shocking to see how racism is still a thing in 2025 but im guessing you live in the south based on how there are 90% rich white girls. I myself am shocked to hear your friends reaction upon hearing this especially that one girl who isn't believing you (im guessing your friends are cacuasian?????) . TBH i expect you to stand up to your friends because they are your friends if they dont truly believe you and call you a liar over a serious situation that has taken place then can you really trust them girl? If they're not believeing you now what makes you think they'll have your back in the future (sorry for the rant HELP)

Ultimately stand up for you and your sister to your friends but not only them you lowkey should have confronted the bullies (if not confrontation then atleast some dirty glances so they are aware that your not over this situation). Moroever, whatever you have written on this post about your friends say it to their faces, there's nothing you can do if u aint gonna say to their faces so they can atleast doubt their feelings ykykykykkyk

hope it works out xxx
Proud to see you standing up for your sister - you can’t really change the opinion they have set in stone and let them accept the fact that this really happened. One part I don’t really get is why would they not believe you (their friend) over your sister’s bullies’ actions?
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Original post by Anonymous
Me and my friends went to this club the other day but it was being held by my sister's bullies and I didn't know that. I stayed and was pleasant to the bullies for the time during the club but afterwards told my friends I won't be going back bc they bullied my sister. What happened was my sister's bullies came to my house last year bc they used to be besties with my sister and were surprised it was average (they thought we were super poor) and it was nice. The next day they completely ignored my sister bc they got threatened by our house or smth and told everyone that my sister was a liar and a fake person. They spread the most dumb rumours but my sister's yr group was 90% rich white racist girls so they all ate it up. They told people that my sister pretended to be Indian to be exotic and that's super fake and total liar behaviour. You would think people with a brain would say that rumour isn't true but her whole yr group ostracised my sister and those girls made my sister's life a living hell. My sister had no friends for all of yr 11 and ran ASAP for sixth form. It gave her severe anxiety and depression. When I told my friends all this they refused to believe me. They said how can they turn a whole yr group against a super nice girl like my sister? They said the rumours they spread were super dumb how did anyone believe it? What my friends are failing to understand is that majority of my sister's yr group were racist and the people who weren't didn't bother to stick up for my sister. It's hard to understand if you weren't living through seeing your sister slowly deteriorate and I don't like talking about that stage in our lives when my sister fell into depression but they basically called me a liar. One friend is so determined to prove that none of this happened she's actually asking my sister's bullies which is super dumb. I don't know what to do. It's already hard to explain and talk about for me, but what my friends don't understand is that bad things happen to good people for no reason what so ever. They don't need to understand it, but I do bc I was there with my sister, but they're so desperate to understand what happened and it's annoying me. They don't belive what I told them essentially calling me a liar. What do I do?

If your friends dont support you and are actively working to prove you wrong that aint no friend. They alr know ur sis is sweet and it dont matter what you protect your own. Gotta let them know that yk. Ah here though if they dont do nothing then you gotta protect ur sis no matter what anyways so js try make sure you two can enjoy stuff together like watching a movie or smth so she has someone. Ik ye know this but still best to say the important stuff. Gl on this
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