Living with toxic Pakistani parents

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Trigger warning- domestic abuse

If you are an adult, why are you still living at home? She probably sees you as a burden living in the house. Move out, get a bf and start living your life.

Pakistani culture isn't the same as western culture, she's been trained to depend on her parents, she won't have skills to become independent, regarding a bf, that's also very taboo and I'm sure her parents would treat her even worse if they find out. It's not that simple.

You are right that some situations may not be straightforward. However, i think the OP is now an adult and should become more independent. First, she needs to move out of her parents’ house.

I'm not sure how old OP is but it also depends on their financial status!

Yes, finance is important but she can make it work. She is also likely above 18 as she talked about her ‘teenage years’.

yes, honestly, sometimes being out in the tough world seems like a better option than being around toxic people. Hopefully, she's able to make the brave decision!

Yes, hopefully she is able to sort herself out. I read a horrible story of a girl who was deleted by her dad and brother for being too westernised.

honestly, I've seen these horrible stories all around me. parent bringing children abroad and then banning them from integrated in the society THEY chose to bring them too. It's horrible! Justice isn't always served in this world but they aren't hidden by God!

The best solution is to integrate all the same. The parents wont live for forever.
I heard of a story of an Asian girl who was dating a black guy. She was threatened with disownment or sending back ‘home’. She continued all the same but has been estranged from her family since her uni days.

yes, it's very common. I think the best approach is leaving respectfully, not abandoning your parents but learning to protect your peace. being respectful but establishing boundaries. e.g. move out for uni or permanently but keeping in contact with parents if they rely on you financially. ( the key is to know that you shouldn't seek emotional support from them because they are incapable, sometimes giving up on people is the best way even though it's heartbreaking to know that people who should be your biggest supporters are your biggest test).

Yes, hopefully she is able to sort herself out. I read a horrible story of a girl who was deleted by her dad and brother for being too westernised.

Banaz Mahmod is case and point. Not only failures at home but failures of WMP et al too yet they all continue