am i in the wrong

So my parents want me to stay at home for the day and work 6 hours in the evening and so it’s basically part time. I hate it i wanna work days and work 9 hours as i am saving for this car for my possible two new jobs ! This bc they want me to dog sit the family dog all day and won’t even let me go to the gym when they’re at work and so i can’t even get to the gym bc of them telling me to watch the dog and they earn a decent amount of money like above average wayyyyy above average but they won’t get a dog sitter or dog walker and say i’m selfish.
I don’t mind chipping in but i am on minimum wage lol and only 20 😭😭
and also pay rent which is understandable as that’s what i should be doing but i need more hours so i can fund for things !!!!! mentally i cant do evenings as i am a morning person and it disrupts my day. anyone know what i can do ????
am i being selfish ??

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

20

Get the job that you want and move out from their home when you get the job.

No one is in the wrong here. They can try to set conditions on you living in their home. You don't have to accept their conditions.
It's better if you retain a good relationship with them. You moving out and keeping in touch with them will be a fine way to do that.

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Anonymous #2

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by Anonymous

So my parents want me to stay at home for the day and work 6 hours in the evening and so it’s basically part time. I hate it i wanna work days and work 9 hours as i am saving for this car for my possible two new jobs ! This bc they want me to dog sit the family dog all day and won’t even let me go to the gym when they’re at work and so i can’t even get to the gym bc of them telling me to watch the dog and they earn a decent amount of money like above average wayyyyy above average but they won’t get a dog sitter or dog walker and say i’m selfish.
I don’t mind chipping in but i am on minimum wage lol and only 20 😭😭
and also pay rent which is understandable as that’s what i should be doing but i need more hours so i can fund for things !!!!! mentally i cant do evenings as i am a morning person and it disrupts my day. anyone know what i can do ????
am i being selfish ??

You say you pay them rent, which is fair since you're 20, so technically, that makes you their tenant, so you should be expected to have a degree or independence and no restrictions. Of course, as its your family home, they'll probably implement a curfew or restrict times, but they shouldn't be allowed to restrict you from working the hours you want. I would talk to them about it explaining your paying rent, so should be expected to have a degree or independence and freedom and especially not limit your work hours.

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PinkMobilePhone

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Who's dog is it? Yours or theirs?
If it's yours it's your responsibility. If it's theirs, then they can get another dog sitter.

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by PinkMobilePhone

Who's dog is it? Yours or theirs?
If it's yours it's your responsibility. If it's theirs, then they can get another dog sitter.

theirs but all us kids asked for a dog but we were children at the time

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PinkMobilePhone

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by Anonymous

theirs but all us kids asked for a dog but we were children at the time

I'd say it's still their responsibility then for the most part. It's reasonable for them to expect you to help out with the family dog when you're at home, but not to the point that it hinders your ability to find a more suitable job.

We had a family dog, and yes the kids were expected to help out with walking her or refilling her bowls, but I wouldn't have dreamed of hindering their studies or work by making them look after her. Ultimately it was my husband and I who made the decision to get her, regardless of the kids asking for a dog.

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