Hi Anonymous!
Congratulations on your offer from Exeter, and I'm really pleased to hear that you're heavily considering it. I'm now a second year student here from a similar background, so I hope I can give you some insight into how I've found it here

I was initially also fairly worried about not fitting in before I came here, and hadn't really visited Exeter at all so came in pretty much 'blind', so to speak. It was more a step I knew I needed to take, to move a long way from home. Plus, my course is only really offered at a few universities so admittedly I didn't have very many options. However, when I got here, I genuinely did not struggle at all to fit in. In fact, most of my friends are publicly educated - but, honestly, it doesn't even matter. My first friend here was taught privately, and I genuinely would be so lost without them. The one big thing I learned is that this 'stereotype' built up around where you are educated wholeheartedly does not matter, which was pleasantly surprising after 18 years in a town where it's frowned upon. Ultimately, the company you surround yourself with will have similar values to you - class, fortune, etc. does not have to be at the forefront of your friendships. Equally, I have never been frowned upon because of I grew up less fortunate. So, please don't be put off by 'stereotypes' - the students are lovely, and you will also probably be pleasantly surprised.
In terms of the partying scene, I still have never been on an Exeter 'night out'. The city is only small, and there are a few clubs for you to choose from if you ever want to - but it's also a fairly quiet and very safe city. Whilst most people I know have naturally been clubbing, you won't feel like you're missing out - especially if it isn't your thing. There's not loads of pressure to drink, either, which is really nice - societies are required to run some sober events, and even at 'drinking' ones, nobody can force you to drink. Lots of people don't drink or go clubbing, so you won't feel hindered.
I would recommend choosing a quiet accommodation option if you can - these may see some casual pre-drinks but are relatively chilled, and 'quiet', as the option suggests. I was in a Lafrowda ensuite quiet block in first year, and it was pretty much perfect for me. If you prefer to have an alcohol-free flat, then that is also an option, as you know.
Whilst I don't study history, I can also tell you that Exeter has a great reputation for the subject - it is 6th in the UK for research for history, and is also in the top 10 UK universities for history. It's also a really flexible degree, meaning that you can choose a lot of the content you study. And, if you ever want to do a placement year or a year abroad, you can switch to these variants once you're here - doing one of these will give you something fun to talk about in job interviews, and will give you more unique skills.
I hope this helps you to decide, but please do reach out if you have anything else you want to talk about!
Grace
University of Exeter Student Ambassador