Anyone else depressed around valentines

this usually never bothers but this year i’m so ashamed that i’ve lived for 18 years and never had a valentine or proper romantic relationship. like whenever i bring this up to someone they just tell me i need to have more confidence in myself but ive never been someone with low self esteem so i just don’t even know what im doing wrong anymore. i try to tell myself i just haven’t met the right person and whilst it is true that i currently don’t have anyone in my life that id like to explore a romantic relationship with anyone it still stings. im especially annoyed this year as both my younger siblings have valentines and it just hurts to see them getting bouquets and presents while i feel like the total loser older sibling. idk i just don’t even know what to do at this point

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Lilacfern

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Original post by Anonymous

this usually never bothers but this year i’m so ashamed that i’ve lived for 18 years and never had a valentine or proper romantic relationship. like whenever i bring this up to someone they just tell me i need to have more confidence in myself but ive never been someone with low self esteem so i just don’t even know what im doing wrong anymore. i try to tell myself i just haven’t met the right person and whilst it is true that i currently don’t have anyone in my life that id like to explore a romantic relationship with anyone it still stings. im especially annoyed this year as both my younger siblings have valentines and it just hurts to see them getting bouquets and presents while i feel like the total loser older sibling. idk i just don’t even know what to do at this point

I'm nearly 18 and have never been in a proper relationship. I've never been that interested until recently, now I want to focus on education for a few years, and I've never met the right person. And im not ashamed to admit that. It might seem annoying now, but in the bigger picture it's not that big of a deal. Maybe you just have higher standards and know what you want.

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Reply 2

Wired_1800

20

Original post by Anonymous

this usually never bothers but this year i’m so ashamed that i’ve lived for 18 years and never had a valentine or proper romantic relationship. like whenever i bring this up to someone they just tell me i need to have more confidence in myself but ive never been someone with low self esteem so i just don’t even know what im doing wrong anymore. i try to tell myself i just haven’t met the right person and whilst it is true that i currently don’t have anyone in my life that id like to explore a romantic relationship with anyone it still stings. im especially annoyed this year as both my younger siblings have valentines and it just hurts to see them getting bouquets and presents while i feel like the total loser older sibling. idk i just don’t even know what to do at this point

You are to young to be thinking about finding the right person. At your stage, you should be exploring and getting to know people. That would add to your experience and ability to spot what you would want in a potential spouse.

You did not specify your gender. If you are female, please keep your options open and be open to different types of lads. Dont be overly harsh and shut down decent options. I am not saying that you should be with everyone but be open to opportunities.

If you are a lad, put yourself out there and meet people. Also try to gain experience from travelling and consider visiting Amsterdam with your boys for a weekend.

Good luck

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