Should I break up with him?

We’ve been together since June 2021 (ages 13 at the time), now 16 -him and 17-me (now over 3 and a half years together), for about a year (when we were bat 2 years and a bit together) I started questioning whether I want to be with him as this is both of ours first proper relationships but that feeling went after a little as we were both still very young and giving our best shot at a relationship (baring in mind my parents are divorced so I wasn’t very aware what a good relationship looks/feels like). Don’t get me wrong in the slightest, he is a good guy and comes from a good healthy family, however I am older than him by about 9 (nearly 10 months) and I have always preferred someone who is more more emotionally mature with some life experience. For the past half year I’ve met so many guys who would do anything for me in order for me to be with them, but obv I would never act on it as I believe cheating is just stupid, despite many guys treating me much better often than he does. On my phone I have both lists of “little things that aren’t so little” so things that my bf has done that has made me feel very valued, however I also have a list of red flags which many of them are to do with lack of organisation and emotional intelligence/ basic common sense and general stuff that bother me. I really don’t know what to do as I see him as a best friend who I care about a lot and feel very comfortable with but I’m not sure if I see him as a love interest. I have talked with him about nearly everything on the red flags list multiple times and nothing has changed. Im also quite close with his family and I care about him as a person but I just don’t know if I see him as a love interest, please send advice. I know this is a lot to read but I do seriously appreciate anything, I can’t really talk to any of my friends about this and I genuinely have no one to talk to.

We’ve been together since June 2021 (ages 13 at the time), now 16 -him and 17-me (now over 3 and a half years together), for about a year (when we were bat 2 years and a bit together) I started questioning whether I want to be with him as this is both of ours first proper relationships but that feeling went after a little as we were both still very young and giving our best shot at a relationship (baring in mind my parents are divorced so I wasn’t very aware what a good relationship looks/feels like). Don’t get me wrong in the slightest, he is a good guy and comes from a good healthy family, however I am older than him by about 9 (nearly 10 months) and I have always preferred someone who is more more emotionally mature with some life experience. For the past half year I’ve met so many guys who would do anything for me in order for me to be with them, but obv I would never act on it as I believe cheating is just stupid, despite many guys treating me much better often than he does. On my phone I have both lists of “little things that aren’t so little” so things that my bf has done that has made me feel very valued, however I also have a list of red flags which many of them are to do with lack of organisation and emotional intelligence/ basic common sense and general stuff that bother me. I really don’t know what to do as I see him as a best friend who I care about a lot and feel very comfortable with but I’m not sure if I see him as a love interest. I have talked with him about nearly everything on the red flags list multiple times and nothing has changed. Im also quite close with his family and I care about him as a person but I just don’t know if I see him as a love interest, please send advice. I know this is a lot to read but I do seriously appreciate anything, I can’t really talk to any of my friends about this and I genuinely have no one to talk to.

We’ve been together since June 2021 (ages 13 at the time), now 16 -him and 17-me (now over 3 and a half years together), for about a year (when we were bat 2 years and a bit together) I started questioning whether I want to be with him as this is both of ours first proper relationships but that feeling went after a little as we were both still very young and giving our best shot at a relationship (baring in mind my parents are divorced so I wasn’t very aware what a good relationship looks/feels like). Don’t get me wrong in the slightest, he is a good guy and comes from a good healthy family, however I am older than him by about 9 (nearly 10 months) and I have always preferred someone who is more more emotionally mature with some life experience. For the past half year I’ve met so many guys who would do anything for me in order for me to be with them, but obv I would never act on it as I believe cheating is just stupid, despite many guys treating me much better often than he does. On my phone I have both lists of “little things that aren’t so little” so things that my bf has done that has made me feel very valued, however I also have a list of red flags which many of them are to do with lack of organisation and emotional intelligence/ basic common sense and general stuff that bother me. I really don’t know what to do as I see him as a best friend who I care about a lot and feel very comfortable with but I’m not sure if I see him as a love interest. I have talked with him about nearly everything on the red flags list multiple times and nothing has changed. Im also quite close with his family and I care about him as a person but I just don’t know if I see him as a love interest, please send advice. I know this is a lot to read but I do seriously appreciate anything, I can’t really talk to any of my friends about this and I genuinely have no one to talk to.

It's understandable to feel conflicted about your relationship, especially given the time you've spent together since you were both so young. You've navigated a lot of emotions and experiences, and it's natural to question your feelings as you both grow. While you recognize the good qualities in him and appreciate the bond you share, it's also important to acknowledge your needs for emotional maturity and compatibility. The lists you've created reflect your thoughtful approach to the relationship, highlighting both the positives and the concerns you have. It's commendable that you've communicated your feelings about the red flags, but if nothing has changed, it may be time to reflect on what you truly want moving forward. Remember, it's okay to prioritize your own emotional well-being, and seeking clarity about your feelings is a crucial step. You're not alone in this, and reaching out for advice shows your desire to find the best path for yourself.

We’ve been together since June 2021 (ages 13 at the time), now 16 -him and 17-me (now over 3 and a half years together), for about a year (when we were bat 2 years and a bit together) I started questioning whether I want to be with him as this is both of ours first proper relationships but that feeling went after a little as we were both still very young and giving our best shot at a relationship (baring in mind my parents are divorced so I wasn’t very aware what a good relationship looks/feels like). Don’t get me wrong in the slightest, he is a good guy and comes from a good healthy family, however I am older than him by about 9 (nearly 10 months) and I have always preferred someone who is more more emotionally mature with some life experience. For the past half year I’ve met so many guys who would do anything for me in order for me to be with them, but obv I would never act on it as I believe cheating is just stupid, despite many guys treating me much better often than he does. On my phone I have both lists of “little things that aren’t so little” so things that my bf has done that has made me feel very valued, however I also have a list of red flags which many of them are to do with lack of organisation and emotional intelligence/ basic common sense and general stuff that bother me. I really don’t know what to do as I see him as a best friend who I care about a lot and feel very comfortable with but I’m not sure if I see him as a love interest. I have talked with him about nearly everything on the red flags list multiple times and nothing has changed. Im also quite close with his family and I care about him as a person but I just don’t know if I see him as a love interest, please send advice. I know this is a lot to read but I do seriously appreciate anything, I can’t really talk to any of my friends about this and I genuinely have no one to talk to.

Thank you so much I really appreciate this, we rarely see each other in person and from the beginning of the relationship we agreed that if we were ever to break up it’d have to be in person out of pure respect. I have been so close to breaking up with him a couple times but then he he hugged/kissed me and I was unable to after and talked myself out of my feelings. Most of my doubts come when we’re not physically together however I don’t know if it’s because I like the way he makes me feel. I could share some of the red flags and you could tell me if I’m over exaggerating and being unreasonable. I wouldn’t even know how to go about breaking up and Ik this is bad to say but I feel like if he broke up with me I don’t think I’d be extremely upset, obv I’d be hurt but Ik he’d be more hurt. I care about him as a person and a best friend so I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to lose him as a person I’m close to 🫠💔