hi! I'm in year 12 (East London) right now and I want to move out for university. the issue is that my parents are super against it. firstly they think that it'd be very heavy financially, and they don't want me taking loans (they are muslim, and in islam you shouldn't take loans with interest). the other thing is that my mum lived away from her parents for a while (she was kicked out) and she said it was the loneliest and most depressed she's ever been - she doesn't want me to go through the same thing. those are the reasons they give me when I ask, but there might be more, idk
the reasons I want to move out is because my parents are quite strict (due to religion and overprotectiveness) - I have a curfew of ten, they constantly want to know my whereabouts, I can't wear clothing I want. my parents are also quite possessive?? for example, my mum gets upset if I spend too much time with friends or even talk about them sometimes in front of her, as she feels like I should be spending time with family instead (I do spend time with family, I literally live with them). the third thing is I'm queer and closeted (family is homophobic). people at school know, and my little sister knows but nobody else. I also quite like to party and have fun but I can't do that if I live with them as they are heavily against all of that. another thing is I hate my dad, he's not a very nice guy.
The reasons I'm not sure if I should move out is because financially it would be awful for me - the job I want to go into doesn't pay well, but it's my dream, so I'd have difficulty paying the loan off. I also want to travel the world so badly and itd be more difficult with debt behind me. also I'm pretty attached to my family as well, and i don't know if I'd be okay without them (like i won't be able to randomly go to my big sisters room to talk, or play ps4 with my little sister after school). im also scared that if I'd move out I'd ruin my relationship with my mother, and she wouldn't be able to forgive me. I have anxiety too, and most of my friends are thinking of unis pretty far from my dream one (Bristol), so I'd have to make new friends and it terrifies me, because I have heard stories of so many people who found nobody. also if something happened to my sisters or mum and I was in another part of England, how'd I make it to them and help them?
I'm just quite unsure and I don't know what to do because recently I've been looking into it and me and my mum have been arguing more about it. please help and offer advice!