mother in law making weird comments
I was just sat there with my husband and my husband is still studying and she goes infront of us both "oh im just waiting for my son to get a job and he needs to make sure he gets his mother a big big gift before his wife" she said that infront of us and my husband didny say anything and I said "im just confused what you're saying" god knows what he wants from him but it did sound toxic. am I wrong to feel annoyed at my husband because he didnt say anything? I know mothers are important give them as much gifts as you want but what is this competition? he's married to me not her
Obviously don't know the tone of it, but it just sounds like a joke tbh.
If not, it comes across as one of those "slightly too involved Mother in Law" comments that comes from some communities more than others.
If not, it comes across as one of those "slightly too involved Mother in Law" comments that comes from some communities more than others.
That's a very weird comment, I agree.
Reply 3
Original post by Admit-One
Obviously don't know the tone of it, but it just sounds like a joke tbh.
If not, it comes across as one of those "slightly too involved Mother in Law" comments that comes from some communities more than others.
If not, it comes across as one of those "slightly too involved Mother in Law" comments that comes from some communities more than others.
How can that be a joke, it wasn’t a joke at all I think in any tone it’s just weird why does she want a gift before me what’s wrong with me?
Reply 4
Original post by PinkMobilePhone
That's a very weird comment, I agree.
Exactly so I just feel weirded out like how can you say that to your daughter in law
If hollywood media has taught me anything its that mothers in law exist for no reason but to make weird comments...?
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
How can that be a joke, it wasn’t a joke at all I think in any tone it’s just weird why does she want a gift before me what’s wrong with me?
Don't be personally offended, it sounds like she was just teasing your husband, basically saying she hopes he loves his mother more than his wife. A mother can wish for that, it is natural. It is quite an awkward joke but it's likely that she didn't mean it in an intentionally upsetting way.
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
Don't be personally offended, it sounds like she was just teasing your husband, basically saying she hopes he loves his mother more than his wife. A mother can wish for that, it is natural. It is quite an awkward joke but it's likely that she didn't mean it in an intentionally upsetting way.
Reply 8
Is she one of those women that it's not worth arguing with?
I think that this is encouraging and discouraging at the same time. Because - generally - how a man speaks and interacts with his mum is how he will speak and interact with his wife, once the honeymoon phase has worn off.
So that in due course if you say something that's batty, your husband is likely to stay silent instead of getting into an argument with you.
The discouraging bit is that this indicates that if someone is trampling all over him in life outside his family - eg at work - your husband may not be good at being assertive.
It is a breath-takingly rude thing that she said. Some people are rude and lacking in manners. With rude people, some have a heart of gold underneath it all, whilst others have hearts rotten to the core. And some are in the grey area inbetween.
Do you think that your mum in law actually genuinely loves you? Or do you think she's the sort to agitate to get your husband to treat you badly or to leave you?
I think that this is encouraging and discouraging at the same time. Because - generally - how a man speaks and interacts with his mum is how he will speak and interact with his wife, once the honeymoon phase has worn off.
So that in due course if you say something that's batty, your husband is likely to stay silent instead of getting into an argument with you.
The discouraging bit is that this indicates that if someone is trampling all over him in life outside his family - eg at work - your husband may not be good at being assertive.
It is a breath-takingly rude thing that she said. Some people are rude and lacking in manners. With rude people, some have a heart of gold underneath it all, whilst others have hearts rotten to the core. And some are in the grey area inbetween.
Do you think that your mum in law actually genuinely loves you? Or do you think she's the sort to agitate to get your husband to treat you badly or to leave you?
Original post by Anonymous
How can that be a joke, it wasn’t a joke at all I think in any tone it’s just weird why does she want a gift before me what’s wrong with me?
Why does anything need to be wrong with you for her to be selfish?
Reply 10
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Is she one of those women that it's not worth arguing with?
I think that this is encouraging and discouraging at the same time. Because - generally - how a man speaks and interacts with his mum is how he will speak and interact with his wife, once the honeymoon phase has worn off.
So that in due course if you say something that's batty, your husband is likely to stay silent instead of getting into an argument with you.
The discouraging bit is that this indicates that if someone is trampling all over him in life outside his family - eg at work - your husband may not be good at being assertive.
It is a breath-takingly rude thing that she said. Some people are rude and lacking in manners. With rude people, some have a heart of gold underneath it all, whilst others have hearts rotten to the core. And some are in the grey area inbetween.
Do you think that your mum in law actually genuinely loves you? Or do you think she's the sort to agitate to get your husband to treat you badly or to leave you?
I think that this is encouraging and discouraging at the same time. Because - generally - how a man speaks and interacts with his mum is how he will speak and interact with his wife, once the honeymoon phase has worn off.
So that in due course if you say something that's batty, your husband is likely to stay silent instead of getting into an argument with you.
The discouraging bit is that this indicates that if someone is trampling all over him in life outside his family - eg at work - your husband may not be good at being assertive.
It is a breath-takingly rude thing that she said. Some people are rude and lacking in manners. With rude people, some have a heart of gold underneath it all, whilst others have hearts rotten to the core. And some are in the grey area inbetween.
Do you think that your mum in law actually genuinely loves you? Or do you think she's the sort to agitate to get your husband to treat you badly or to leave you?
I think she loves her kids but for me she acts all nice fair enough but sometimes she says really weird things like that example and it puts me off her. It’s just not right the way she can say this stuff. Once she also told my mum to tell me to help out rather than my mum but my mum was like it’s fine I can help out it’s not a big issue. She’s so toxic at times
Reply 12
Original post by Zarek
It’s pretty run of the mill mother-in-law stuff. Best to let a lot of this flow over you. Give the benefit of the doubt perhaps it was said jokingly
Why should I give the benefit of the doubt I’m not going to say anything to her but I’m going to speak to my husband because it’s not the first time she’s said these comments
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