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Enduring university, but not but enjoying it

I'm nearly 5 months into my degree after taking a gap year and deciding to stay in my hometown city but moving into private student accommodation.

I'm just not really enjoying my experience, it's not been bad per se, but just incredibly underwhelming in many ways.

I've made one friend on my course, I've been unable to connect on any level with my flatmates (all my flatmates barely talk to one another), and I've been too anxious or introverted to get involved with any of the social aspects of university despite spending much of my time on campus feeling isolated. The only thing that has been successful for me has been my grades which have averaged out at 66/100.

I just don't know if I'm doing the right thing by going to uni, like I just want to get my degree and all the ******** of the uni experience out of the way so I can move on and get stuck into my career, whatever that's going to be.

I'm also struggling to get out of my tenancy agreement at my current accommodation which runs through to 2026.

I basically just think I've totally ****ed it by going to uni, and I'm wondering what's the point?

Reply 1

Original post
by ThewNU
I'm nearly 5 months into my degree after taking a gap year and deciding to stay in my hometown city but moving into private student accommodation.
I'm just not really enjoying my experience, it's not been bad per se, but just incredibly underwhelming in many ways.
I've made one friend on my course, I've been unable to connect on any level with my flatmates (all my flatmates barely talk to one another), and I've been too anxious or introverted to get involved with any of the social aspects of university despite spending much of my time on campus feeling isolated. The only thing that has been successful for me has been my grades which have averaged out at 66/100.
I just don't know if I'm doing the right thing by going to uni, like I just want to get my degree and all the ******** of the uni experience out of the way so I can move on and get stuck into my career, whatever that's going to be.
I'm also struggling to get out of my tenancy agreement at my current accommodation which runs through to 2026.
I basically just think I've totally ****ed it by going to uni, and I'm wondering what's the point?

Hey there mate,

I know what its like to be at a low point while at university, especially at the start. To me it sounds like you're doing pretty good so far, you've made a friend, you've settled into a flat that sounds like they don't cause too many issues, and you're set to get a strong 2:1 already, maybe even better, when considering second and third year! Not to mention just going to university is a big one, in your hometown or not, its a completely new dynamic and can't be understated.

It took me a good few months to start getting involved with any of the social aspects of university at all, and really only did properly in my second year of uni, for similar reasons - but societies and/or sports teams are a great start, especially something related to your course or a hobby/interest, just do it and go by yourself or with someone like your course mate, you never know what it could do for you until you try!

Regarding the tenancy agreement, I can't really advise you there, although I hope you feel you can stay there some more or find a way to resolve your issue. Also, you haven't messed anything up, whatever you choose to do - it took me 4 years, or 5 if you include my own gap year, to complete my undergraduate, and I'm much better for it now having experienced what I have along the way during the years. Either way, university isn't the be all and end all, your wellbeing is, and what you want to do - but be sure to talk it over with friends, family and the university first to consider your options, which there are plenty.

Finally, it would be amiss if I didn't mention mental health, so consider getting in contact with the university's support services by email or drop-in, I know most universities offer good support services for students, and as someone who has made use of university support, it really has made a difference during my undergrad, and now into my postgrad!

I hope this can help at least a bit, and I wish you all the best in getting through this,

Harry
LHU Student Ambassador
MA Politics and International Relations

Reply 2

Original post
by Harry LHU
Hey there mate,
I know what its like to be at a low point while at university, especially at the start. To me it sounds like you're doing pretty good so far, you've made a friend, you've settled into a flat that sounds like they don't cause too many issues, and you're set to get a strong 2:1 already, maybe even better, when considering second and third year! Not to mention just going to university is a big one, in your hometown or not, its a completely new dynamic and can't be understated.
It took me a good few months to start getting involved with any of the social aspects of university at all, and really only did properly in my second year of uni, for similar reasons - but societies and/or sports teams are a great start, especially something related to your course or a hobby/interest, just do it and go by yourself or with someone like your course mate, you never know what it could do for you until you try!
Regarding the tenancy agreement, I can't really advise you there, although I hope you feel you can stay there some more or find a way to resolve your issue. Also, you haven't messed anything up, whatever you choose to do - it took me 4 years, or 5 if you include my own gap year, to complete my undergraduate, and I'm much better for it now having experienced what I have along the way during the years. Either way, university isn't the be all and end all, your wellbeing is, and what you want to do - but be sure to talk it over with friends, family and the university first to consider your options, which there are plenty.
Finally, it would be amiss if I didn't mention mental health, so consider getting in contact with the university's support services by email or drop-in, I know most universities offer good support services for students, and as someone who has made use of university support, it really has made a difference during my undergrad, and now into my postgrad!
I hope this can help at least a bit, and I wish you all the best in getting through this,
Harry
LHU Student Ambassador
MA Politics and International Relations

What a kind and helpful reply

Reply 3

Original post
by ThewNU
I'm nearly 5 months into my degree after taking a gap year and deciding to stay in my hometown city but moving into private student accommodation.
I'm just not really enjoying my experience, it's not been bad per se, but just incredibly underwhelming in many ways.
I've made one friend on my course, I've been unable to connect on any level with my flatmates (all my flatmates barely talk to one another), and I've been too anxious or introverted to get involved with any of the social aspects of university despite spending much of my time on campus feeling isolated. The only thing that has been successful for me has been my grades which have averaged out at 66/100.
I just don't know if I'm doing the right thing by going to uni, like I just want to get my degree and all the ******** of the uni experience out of the way so I can move on and get stuck into my career, whatever that's going to be.
I'm also struggling to get out of my tenancy agreement at my current accommodation which runs through to 2026.
I basically just think I've totally ****ed it by going to uni, and I'm wondering what's the point?

Hi there,

You've already had some great advice which I wholeheartedly agree with.

It is perfectly normal to ask yourself 'what's the point?' when things are feeling slow, but this is a good sign as it shows that you are raring to go with your head already in the future. One thing I'd add to the above is that even the fact that you will emerge with a degree will in itself open up a lot of doors to you in the future, to many different jobs you may not even have thought of.

For example, you could of course go into something related to your course but you could also consider something like Marketing, Project management, Journalism, Copywriting, Banking, the Intelligence service/GCHQ, working at a University in something like recruitment where you could travel the whole country or admissions where you get to meet dozens of different people, or working in events or event management.

I know how tough it is staying motivated, but just remember how far you've already come to be here - and as has been said it sounds like you're doing really well grade wise! I'd say overall you have a lot of good times ahead, so try and stay strong - and ask for help if you need it 🙂

I hope this helps, best wishes!

Holly
University of Bath

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