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plz help. relationships and age gaps

Alright. In a relationship with a 17m as a 15f. Absolutely wonderful. I've known him for 2 years, both of our birthdays are the same month, we are both graduating at the same time, it's been absolutely wonderful. He's been an amazing partner, and honestly I don't know what I'd do without him. My dad approves, everyone I know approves, the only person who doesn't is his mom. His mom is also my boss, so it makes things really awkward. I genuinely don't think a two year age gap should be a problem whatsoever. But is it? And if so, why? He is an amazing human being, one of the sweetest people I've ever met. Makes me smoothies, goes to church with me, does everything right. We've been together for around 6 months but his mom is not having it. Literally everybody else is, his grandparents, my dad, our friends, everyone. Everyone loves him. His mom is the only real problem, and they've been having problems for years. I am not sure what to do. I absolutely do not want to leave him, he means the world to me. I know that's a stupid thing to say at 15, but he does. I don't know what to do. His mom is the only negative factor in this relationship. plz help.

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Original post by raeisnotok
Alright. In a relationship with a 17m as a 15f. Absolutely wonderful. I've known him for 2 years, both of our birthdays are the same month, we are both graduating at the same time, it's been absolutely wonderful. He's been an amazing partner, and honestly I don't know what I'd do without him. My dad approves, everyone I know approves, the only person who doesn't is his mom. His mom is also my boss, so it makes things really awkward. I genuinely don't think a two year age gap should be a problem whatsoever. But is it? And if so, why? He is an amazing human being, one of the sweetest people I've ever met. Makes me smoothies, goes to church with me, does everything right. We've been together for around 6 months but his mom is not having it. Literally everybody else is, his grandparents, my dad, our friends, everyone. Everyone loves him. His mom is the only real problem, and they've been having problems for years. I am not sure what to do. I absolutely do not want to leave him, he means the world to me. I know that's a stupid thing to say at 15, but he does. I don't know what to do. His mom is the only negative factor in this relationship. plz help.

Age gaps are a very grey situation, especially with minors. However, both of you are under 18, have known each other for a couple of years, and it doesn't seem like there's any focus on the age gap whatsoever. Now, if the age gap was a central component in the relationship (e.g. a fetish of some kind) then it would be an issue. However, if everything is going good, you're fine. I'd say try to ignore the mom to the best of your ability, keep dating him.

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Original post by Anonymous
Age gaps are a very grey situation, especially with minors. However, both of you are under 18, have known each other for a couple of years, and it doesn't seem like there's any focus on the age gap whatsoever. Now, if the age gap was a central component in the relationship (e.g. a fetish of some kind) then it would be an issue. However, if everything is going good, you're fine. I'd say try to ignore the mom to the best of your ability, keep dating him.

Thank you sm. Wasn't particularly planning on breaking up, but its nice to have a second opinion.

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