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Terrible Half Term because of mean and selfish brother

I've had an absolutely terrible half term so far because of my oldest younger brother.
For context-I share a room with him.

Saturday-Decent day and relaxed on first day of half term but had an argument with brother in the evening.:cry:

Sunday-Went on a day trip, which this brother of mine didn't go on, but when I got back he kept shoving annoying noises into my ears while in bed and a big argument erupted. :cry:

Monday-Sad all morning because of argument from the night before and tried to study but couldn't because my brother locked the bedroom door (with all my supplies and resources inside) while he played computer games with his rude and annoying friends. :cry:

Tuesday-My brother went on a sleepover (with his friend down the road) but he came back to the house after a few hours with his friends (I hate when my sibling's friends come around and have panic attacks probably because of Autism). It was decent when he left and I got 30 minutes of studying done.Had no arguments with brother because he wasn't in my room.:cry

Today-Wanted to get studying but my brother showed up with his friends again and I've been having panic attacks almost all of today. On top of that I haven't had dinner yet because his friends have only JUST left. His friends are also really rude to my father (who is the driver in our household) and they just keep stopping in all the local village for 30 minutes each). We won't have dinner tonight.:cry:

For the rest of the half term except Sunday we're on holiday which should make me feel better but I'll be really behind on studying.

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Sorry to hear your half term isnt going well :console:
Have you explained to your parents that you’re struggling with your brother having friends around and with him taking over your shared room? Maybe your parents could find you a quieter place to work or tell your brother to keep his friends in some other part of the house/go to his friends’ houses rather than bringing them back to your house.
I also really hate it when my family bring people to the house who i dont feel familiar with so i sympathise. The most important thing for me is having a space where i know that i can stay and focus on what im doing without being impacted by the people who i dont know.
I hope you enjoy your holiday and youre able to find solutions to help for next time this happens 🙂
Don’t worry about studying too much, maybe if you have time you could do some kahoot or blooket revision or watch a revision video whilst youre on holiday. The half term is meant for relaxing so hopefully you can relax on holiday and then get back to work when term resumes.

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Original post by DerDracologe
Sorry to hear your half term isnt going well :console:
Have you explained to your parents that you’re struggling with your brother having friends around and with him taking over your shared room? Maybe your parents could find you a quieter place to work or tell your brother to keep his friends in some other part of the house/go to his friends’ houses rather than bringing them back to your house.
I also really hate it when my family bring people to the house who i dont feel familiar with so i sympathise. The most important thing for me is having a space where i know that i can stay and focus on what im doing without being impacted by the people who i dont know.
I hope you enjoy your holiday and youre able to find solutions to help for next time this happens 🙂
Don’t worry about studying too much, maybe if you have time you could do some kahoot or blooket revision or watch a revision video whilst youre on holiday. The half term is meant for relaxing so hopefully you can relax on holiday and then get back to work when term resumes.
TBH, I just need to get my 420 minutes of homework done now.
I lock myself in my parents bedroom playing Mario Party:Jamboree with my mother but I still have panic attacks because just me knowing about my brother having his friends around and that they could suddenly see me makes me panic. I couldn't study because I'd keep getting panic attacks while I try to work.

My brother NEVER listens so telling my "brother to keep his friends in some other part of the house/go to his friends’ houses rather than bringing them back to your house." Won't work. My brother knows that he shouldn't do certain stuff to me that my other siblings don't mind. He also makes my other siblings gang up with him against me sometimes.
Original post by Anonymous
TBH, I just need to get my 420 minutes of homework done now.
I lock myself in my parents bedroom playing Mario Party:Jamboree with my mother but I still have panic attacks because just me knowing about my brother having his friends around and that they could suddenly see me makes me panic. I couldn't study because I'd keep getting panic attacks while I try to work.
My brother NEVER listens so telling my "brother to keep his friends in some other part of the house/go to his friends’ houses rather than bringing them back to your house." Won't work. My brother knows that he shouldn't do certain stuff to me that my other siblings don't mind. He also makes my other siblings gang up with him against me sometimes.

That sounds really rough. Is there anywhere else you could study like a local library or anything? Tbh sounds like my brother and the only thing that works to sort him out is grounding him but i get that that might not be typical for your family

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Original post by DerDracologe
That sounds really rough. Is there anywhere else you could study like a local library or anything? Tbh sounds like my brother and the only thing that works to sort him out is grounding him but i get that that might not be typical for your family
No. I live rurally so my closest library is 15 minutes drive or a 2 hour and 16 minutes walk. I don't think my father wants to drive even more than he currently does and 2 hour and 16 minutes is too long of a walk for me.:lol:

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Original post by DerDracologe
That sounds really rough. Is there anywhere else you could study like a local library or anything? Tbh sounds like my brother and the only thing that works to sort him out is grounding him but i get that that might not be typical for your family
Yes, Grounding doesn't happen in our family. My brother would get aggressive if we grounded him.
Original post by Anonymous
No. I live rurally so my closest library is 15 minutes drive or a 2 hour and 16 minutes walk. I don't think my father wants to drive even more than he currently does and 2 hour and 16 minutes is too long of a walk for me.:lol:

That’s understandable

Original post by Anonymous
Yes, Grounding doesn't happen in our family. My brother would get aggressive if we grounded him.

That’s fair

Sorry I’m not really sure what to suggest :hmmmm: I really hope you manage to find a solution and enjoy the rest of your break 🙂

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Update:My brother has already had an argument with me and my parents because my parents couldn't find a top he wanted for the holiday. My parents said about how ungrateful he is and he's banished me out of my room already.
I can't move in with my other siblings because they get on really well and there's only room for 2 people in each bedroom.

Reply 8

I hate my room SO MUCH!!
My brother has also said he isn't going on holiday with us.

Reply 9

My brother is threatening to leave the house. He hates our family so much.

Reply 10

This is like a GYG but for recording the amount of arguments that happen instead of studying.
Sorry to hear that your brother is still being difficult. Just a thought, I obviously dont know your family but couldnt you share with a different one of your siblings and your brother share with the other one?

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Original post by DerDracologe
Sorry to hear that your brother is still being difficult. Just a thought, I obviously dont know your family but couldnt you share with a different one of your siblings and your brother share with the other one?
No because my other 2 siblings are very close and want to be together for everything.
Original post by Anonymous
No because my other 2 siblings are very close and want to be together for everything.

That makes sense. Sorry i dont have the solution for you but i do really hope it gets better :console:

Reply 14

I think I'll cut ties with my brother when I'm older.

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Original post by Anonymous
I think I'll cut ties with my brother when I'm older.

Hey there, I'm sorry to hear your half term hasn't been going the way you want it. But remember you are a strong willed individual for being able to tolerate his immature behaviour. I'm hoping you get support at school? Seeing your previous posts, do you have any healthy coping mechanisms to help with your panic attacks?

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Original post by Trickia
Hey there, I'm sorry to hear your half term hasn't been going the way you want it. But remember you are a strong willed individual for being able to tolerate his immature behaviour. I'm hoping you get support at school? Seeing your previous posts, do you have any healthy coping mechanisms to help with your panic attacks?
Playing Mario Party:Jamboree sort of helps.
He is very immature. I've never been this immature.

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Original post by Trickia
Hey there, I'm sorry to hear your half term hasn't been going the way you want it. But remember you are a strong willed individual for being able to tolerate his immature behaviour. I'm hoping you get support at school? Seeing your previous posts, do you have any healthy coping mechanisms to help with your panic attacks?
:ta: for saying I'm strong willed. No I don't get support at school.

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Original post by Anonymous
Playing Mario Party:Jamboree sort of helps.
He is very immature. I've never been this immature.

Then if possible do stuff like that or maybe explore other similar activities to give yourself a well deserved break? Unsure of your circumstances - does your school offer counselling - or your local county? I'm assuming you are in England sorry if you aren't 😭 CAMHS is the organisation if I'm not incorrect?
It's good that you are more emotionally mature then him but it may be frustrating too? I'm trying no to make any assumptions as this is about you - so please do correct me if I'm wrong xx

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Original post by Anonymous
:ta: for saying I'm strong willed. No I don't get support at school.

No worries as I'm simply stating a fact xx - it takes a lot to handle that constantly - without breaking or breaking under the stress understandably but then able to pick yourself up and keep pushing forward
There are many people who don't have the capacity for various reasons so don't downplay yourself!
Could you if you wanted to and/or try some methods out?? some n.d friends I have - do stim and/or have fidget toys and safe spaces to let themselves unwind. Would that help?
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