Overwhelmed by university
Hi,
I'm 22, and recently diagnosed with ASD.
I recently found out that my grandmother has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. I'm extremely stressed out about this, and don't know what to do.
It took me 8 years of near constant suffering, but I've finally found a young woman who likes me, and we're starting a relationship (we met in December). She is overwhelmingly positive and sweet, but I periodically get extremely stressed about this. This largely subsided after she reacted very positively to my Valentine's day message and congratulated me with it, but I still get disturbing thoughts when she doesn't immediately respond (most recently, a thought that she blocked me. Obviously turned out incorrect, but that's what I felt). I'm supposed to be going out with her on Saturday, and extremely anxious.
On top of that, I'm finding it difficult in university. I was recently bullied out of a society because of two people who had fabricated a report against me. After theirs was thrown out and my report triggered an investigation when I provided sufficient evidence that they fabricated their report and engaged in collective bullying of a disabled student, with catastrophic consequences to my mental health, I lost 16 friends from that society.
Yesterday, someone who did not contribute to my experiment at all (literally doing 0% of it and distracting everyone the first time) began saying I did everything incorrectly and demanding explanations, which caused me to shut down and freeze. My friend, who had previously angrily said 'He was ill' when I asked him what he was doing by not contributing, also angrily addressed me and asked me to explain it to him, who was saying things like 'OK, I'll assume that was a yes' (although she apologised later). I then spent the whole evening helping her with her part.
Finally, I'm having problems in my accommodation. A spoilt, entitled person living with us has taken a habit of blaming absolutely everything that goes wrong in the kitchen on me. He has, for example, claimed that I broke our oven and microwave (despite being absent both times) and went whining to the property management when I said those who did not use the bins should not take them out, causing the property management to threaten everyone with fines.
I'm 22, and recently diagnosed with ASD.
I recently found out that my grandmother has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. I'm extremely stressed out about this, and don't know what to do.
It took me 8 years of near constant suffering, but I've finally found a young woman who likes me, and we're starting a relationship (we met in December). She is overwhelmingly positive and sweet, but I periodically get extremely stressed about this. This largely subsided after she reacted very positively to my Valentine's day message and congratulated me with it, but I still get disturbing thoughts when she doesn't immediately respond (most recently, a thought that she blocked me. Obviously turned out incorrect, but that's what I felt). I'm supposed to be going out with her on Saturday, and extremely anxious.
On top of that, I'm finding it difficult in university. I was recently bullied out of a society because of two people who had fabricated a report against me. After theirs was thrown out and my report triggered an investigation when I provided sufficient evidence that they fabricated their report and engaged in collective bullying of a disabled student, with catastrophic consequences to my mental health, I lost 16 friends from that society.
Yesterday, someone who did not contribute to my experiment at all (literally doing 0% of it and distracting everyone the first time) began saying I did everything incorrectly and demanding explanations, which caused me to shut down and freeze. My friend, who had previously angrily said 'He was ill' when I asked him what he was doing by not contributing, also angrily addressed me and asked me to explain it to him, who was saying things like 'OK, I'll assume that was a yes' (although she apologised later). I then spent the whole evening helping her with her part.
Finally, I'm having problems in my accommodation. A spoilt, entitled person living with us has taken a habit of blaming absolutely everything that goes wrong in the kitchen on me. He has, for example, claimed that I broke our oven and microwave (despite being absent both times) and went whining to the property management when I said those who did not use the bins should not take them out, causing the property management to threaten everyone with fines.
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We understand that you have been recently diagnosed with Autism, have you been offered any support following this diagnosis? The national Autistic society may be useful right now-https://www.autism.org.uk/. We are sorry to hear about your Grandmothers recent diagnosis, it is understandable that you feel stressed and unsure what to do. Macmillan are a cancer support charity and your Grandmother may have a Macmillan nurse who is supporting them. They may also be able to support you too or you could reach out here -https://www.macmillan.org.uk/ to access support. We can also see that you are experiencing concerns with your new relationship and relationships at Uni and within your accomodation. How would you feel about writing down those things that are concerning you and having a calm converstaion with them to share how you feel? Writing points you would like to chat through can help maintain focus in a stressful situation. If you are experiencing thoughts of suicide at this difficult time, please reach out to Hopeline247 via telephone on 0800 068 41 41 or text message on 88247 for advice and support from a trained suicide prevention adviser.
Original post by hypercolius
Hi,
I'm 22, and recently diagnosed with ASD.
I recently found out that my grandmother has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. I'm extremely stressed out about this, and don't know what to do.
It took me 8 years of near constant suffering, but I've finally found a young woman who likes me, and we're starting a relationship (we met in December). She is overwhelmingly positive and sweet, but I periodically get extremely stressed about this. This largely subsided after she reacted very positively to my Valentine's day message and congratulated me with it, but I still get disturbing thoughts when she doesn't immediately respond (most recently, a thought that she blocked me. Obviously turned out incorrect, but that's what I felt). I'm supposed to be going out with her on Saturday, and extremely anxious.
On top of that, I'm finding it difficult in university. I was recently bullied out of a society because of two people who had fabricated a report against me. After theirs was thrown out and my report triggered an investigation when I provided sufficient evidence that they fabricated their report and engaged in collective bullying of a disabled student, with catastrophic consequences to my mental health, I lost 16 friends from that society.
Yesterday, someone who did not contribute to my experiment at all (literally doing 0% of it and distracting everyone the first time) began saying I did everything incorrectly and demanding explanations, which caused me to shut down and freeze. My friend, who had previously angrily said 'He was ill' when I asked him what he was doing by not contributing, also angrily addressed me and asked me to explain it to him, who was saying things like 'OK, I'll assume that was a yes' (although she apologised later). I then spent the whole evening helping her with her part.
Finally, I'm having problems in my accommodation. A spoilt, entitled person living with us has taken a habit of blaming absolutely everything that goes wrong in the kitchen on me. He has, for example, claimed that I broke our oven and microwave (despite being absent both times) and went whining to the property management when I said those who did not use the bins should not take them out, causing the property management to threaten everyone with fines.
I'm 22, and recently diagnosed with ASD.
I recently found out that my grandmother has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. I'm extremely stressed out about this, and don't know what to do.
It took me 8 years of near constant suffering, but I've finally found a young woman who likes me, and we're starting a relationship (we met in December). She is overwhelmingly positive and sweet, but I periodically get extremely stressed about this. This largely subsided after she reacted very positively to my Valentine's day message and congratulated me with it, but I still get disturbing thoughts when she doesn't immediately respond (most recently, a thought that she blocked me. Obviously turned out incorrect, but that's what I felt). I'm supposed to be going out with her on Saturday, and extremely anxious.
On top of that, I'm finding it difficult in university. I was recently bullied out of a society because of two people who had fabricated a report against me. After theirs was thrown out and my report triggered an investigation when I provided sufficient evidence that they fabricated their report and engaged in collective bullying of a disabled student, with catastrophic consequences to my mental health, I lost 16 friends from that society.
Yesterday, someone who did not contribute to my experiment at all (literally doing 0% of it and distracting everyone the first time) began saying I did everything incorrectly and demanding explanations, which caused me to shut down and freeze. My friend, who had previously angrily said 'He was ill' when I asked him what he was doing by not contributing, also angrily addressed me and asked me to explain it to him, who was saying things like 'OK, I'll assume that was a yes' (although she apologised later). I then spent the whole evening helping her with her part.
Finally, I'm having problems in my accommodation. A spoilt, entitled person living with us has taken a habit of blaming absolutely everything that goes wrong in the kitchen on me. He has, for example, claimed that I broke our oven and microwave (despite being absent both times) and went whining to the property management when I said those who did not use the bins should not take them out, causing the property management to threaten everyone with fines.
I'm very sorry to hear this.
I would look for support from your student support services.
I would recommend speaking to your GP about all this. They can point you, offer support.
I will come back sorry as I am very busy.
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