First date at his?

Thankyouu for these replies I needed to hear them. I’ll go on the date as I want to go, I feel like you guys will not like this butttt the plan is to go to a shop, then to his and then to the meal but he did quickly mention on the call that we can’t get too comfortable and end up not going out. I won’t let that happen don’t worry but I might message tonight and just be like I know I said I would think about staying over but I’ve decided I’m not going to but I still want to go out and see you if you’re up for it (he will definitely try and convince me but yeah)

I just think it's a really bad idea to go to a stranger's house, regardless of whether he's trying to manipulate you or not.
You say you "won't let that happen" but he's already been successful in getting you say yes to everything so far.
If he's any good at all, he wouldn't try to pressurise you into changing your mind about staying over.

Thankyouu for these replies I needed to hear them. I’ll go on the date as I want to go, I feel like you guys will not like this butttt the plan is to go to a shop, then to his and then to the meal but he did quickly mention on the call that we can’t get too comfortable and end up not going out. I won’t let that happen don’t worry but I might message tonight and just be like I know I said I would think about staying over but I’ve decided I’m not going to but I still want to go out and see you if you’re up for it (he will definitely try and convince me but yeah)

That is true I would usually think it’s a bad idea but then a part of me wants to go, like I’ve said yes to everything so far because I also wanted to do it. Like it would probably be fun and at least I’ll have a story to tell, I know that’s probably a bad way to look at it but yeah and also I guess it could go too far too soon but he does actually seem like a nice guy (apart from the always bringing up the staying over) and he lives in a nice area and stuff, I know that doesn’t necessarily mean anything though

I matched with this guy on an app on Wednesday night, he was messaging back straight away and at this point it was midnight, I added him on instagram and we were talking there and sending voice notes. He asked to call but I said no and he was just really eager straight away saying how he is really interested and that most people on the apps are terrible. That same night, he asked if I wanted to do something on Saturday and I agreed (I'm missing out details but it will be too long otherwise). Honestly I am happy he asked as some guys just want to talk for ages and never meet. He started bringing up how he wants me to come over to his house after the date as his parents are away and he doesn't like a quiet house. I said no but he kept bringing it up and saying how he is not asking with the intention of doing anything sexual just watch something and whatnot, but I kept saying I'm not sure and it's probably not a good idea. Anyway, we called the next day for almost 2 hours and he seems genuine and nice and I am awful at saying no to people, so i ended up saying we'll see about me staying over but he lives half an hour away so he says i need to pack a bag. Part of me wants to stay over as it's an experience, it may be stupid but my friends have my location and everything but then I know it is probably stupid as I have never met him and if I do pack a bag and then I end up not even liking him in person that is just awkward. Also I've done stuff with guys but never actually slept with them. I am 22 and he is 23 by the way. I just need some advice or opinions.

I matched with this guy on an app on Wednesday night, he was messaging back straight away and at this point it was midnight, I added him on instagram and we were talking there and sending voice notes. He asked to call but I said no and he was just really eager straight away saying how he is really interested and that most people on the apps are terrible. That same night, he asked if I wanted to do something on Saturday and I agreed (I'm missing out details but it will be too long otherwise). Honestly I am happy he asked as some guys just want to talk for ages and never meet. He started bringing up how he wants me to come over to his house after the date as his parents are away and he doesn't like a quiet house. I said no but he kept bringing it up and saying how he is not asking with the intention of doing anything sexual just watch something and whatnot, but I kept saying I'm not sure and it's probably not a good idea. Anyway, we called the next day for almost 2 hours and he seems genuine and nice and I am awful at saying no to people, so i ended up saying we'll see about me staying over but he lives half an hour away so he says i need to pack a bag. Part of me wants to stay over as it's an experience, it may be stupid but my friends have my location and everything but then I know it is probably stupid as I have never met him and if I do pack a bag and then I end up not even liking him in person that is just awkward. Also I've done stuff with guys but never actually slept with them. I am 22 and he is 23 by the way. I just need some advice or opinions.

I’m not going to pack anything which will hopefully make me come home as I hate not having all my things but i am doing an everything shower so who’s knows what’ll happen. I will be safe I promise and I’ll update if I remember

just how naive can you be? of course he wants to ****. a guy who keeps pressuring you into stuff, and your inability to be firm and say no are a terrible combination.
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Man, I sure hope OP is okay