Do you think everyone ends up being unattractive
They were talking today about a nudist beach and the women said it was mostly middle aged German men and this other woman said nasty. However they are also old women themselves and it got me thinking that people who are attractive always end up getting old anyway. Most people like to think they are attractive but not as much as they think and also it is kind of said how we always end up being unattractive.
Nope (to answer the question in the title).
Original post by Zarek
In terms of sexual attraction, couples mature together and still find each other attractive
It's more than that. Attractiveness being subjective also means that the views of individuals evolve over time more broadly, not just in relation to their other half. When I was 18 I remember thinking that someone I knew in his late 20s was old. There were very few women that I'd really consider myself to have been attracted to who were in their 30s. Nowadays, more than twenty years on, I am generally genuinely not really attracted to women in their late teens or 20s. I can acknowledge them as being attractive objectively, but they often just look extremely young to me. By contrast, I genuinely do find women in their 30s and 40s to be generally more attractive than younger women, both physically and by reason of their maturity and experience in life in general. I think it comes down to a shifting definition for me as to what is actually physically attractive and what is not. Those things to do not remain consistent as a person grows older. They evolve along with pretty much everything else.
So in answer to the question posed by the thread, I think people do end up being unattractive by the standards that they had when they were a teenager or in their 20s. But, fortunately, those standards will change. As a result people do not inevitably end up being unattractive. Indeed, quite the opposite. I am genuinely more attracted to my wife now in her late 30s than I was when we were teenagers. As much as she has become self conscious about certain ways in which her body has changed in that time, the degree to which I am attracted to her has genuinely increased, both because I don't consider those changes to be negative (as she sometimes does) and because the ways in which she has developed and matured in those years aside from the physical also play into how attractive she is.
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