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Sexual frustration

I'm a 20 year old international black student (background info). I've been in London for the 2 year, I usually stay at home a lot, don't want to sound arrogant but I'm quite attractive. In my uni I have a couple friends, all male, I'm not very social but I do have good people skills. I've and been to the club around 6 times last year, but always hated it (I was with friends and had to go with them). I've been approached several times in the club (couple of times in public), did not want to take it further, the club makes me sick and honestly the women who came up to me were hot, yes, but they were drunk and yk. Nothing against them, its just how I felt. In the past couple of months I've been extremely sexually frustrated, I'm losing my mind and do not know what to do?

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by Anonymous
I'm a 20 year old international black student (background info). I've been in London for the 2 year, I usually stay at home a lot, don't want to sound arrogant but I'm quite attractive. In my uni I have a couple friends, all male, I'm not very social but I do have good people skills. I've and been to the club around 6 times last year, but always hated it (I was with friends and had to go with them). I've been approached several times in the club (couple of times in public), did not want to take it further, the club makes me sick and honestly the women who came up to me were hot, yes, but they were drunk and yk. Nothing against them, its just how I felt. In the past couple of months I've been extremely sexually frustrated, I'm losing my mind and do not know what to do?

I’m sorry for that, does that have to do with any particular moment in your life for instance a girl?

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by Jamaxia
I’m sorry for that, does that have to do with any particular moment in your life for instance a girl?


yeah i posted it before finishing by accident😭. But, yeah I haven’t been in any types of relationship in the past year or so, and it’s getting to me

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by Anonymous
yeah i posted it before finishing by accident😭. But, yeah I haven’t been in any types of relationship in the past year or so, and it’s getting to me

Have you tried to meet anyone new? Or use a dating app?

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by Jamaxia
Have you tried to meet anyone new?


I have yes but it’s never worked out. I’ve never tried a cold approach before, i should work on that. And I do not put myself out there a lot. I’ve had some experience before but never on the side of going to find someone, you get me? don’t know if that makes sense but yeah

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by Anonymous
I have yes but it’s never worked out. I’ve never tried a cold approach before, i should work on that. And I do not put myself out there a lot. I’ve had some experience before but never on the side of going to find someone, you get me? don’t know if that makes sense but yeah

I feel like because you said you are attractive, if you do go to college or uni or whatever you might have girls simping over you.
Or, you should try dating apps or approach a girl you truly like.
I also think you should put urself out there
(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 6

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by Anonymous
I'm a 20 year old international black student (background info). I've been in London for the 2 year, I usually stay at home a lot, don't want to sound arrogant but I'm quite attractive. In my uni I have a couple friends, all male, I'm not very social but I do have good people skills. I've and been to the club around 6 times last year, but always hated it (I was with friends and had to go with them). I've been approached several times in the club (couple of times in public), did not want to take it further, the club makes me sick and honestly the women who came up to me were hot, yes, but they were drunk and yk. Nothing against them, its just how I felt. In the past couple of months I've been extremely sexually frustrated, I'm losing my mind and do not know what to do?

Hey, I totally get where you’re coming from. Feeling frustrated is tough, but sometimes it helps to focus on your overall well-being—physically and emotionally. Aminat’s Secrets is all about helping people improve their confidence, intimacy, and overall satisfaction in a natural and balanced way. If you’re feeling frustrated, there are solutions out there that can help you feel more connected and fulfilled without the pressure of the club scene. Just wanted to share that in case it helps!

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