Running out of things to say in a relationship

1.

Treat your boyfriend as your role model. Copy him. His inner world. His approach to life. His basic life philosophy. His social skills. How he talks to others.

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Spend more time with him and his friends. It's fine if this is at the expense of you spending less time with your friends. Make your boyfriend's friends your platonic friends.

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Look at what you've been eating and drinking. Do a bit of research on what foods and drinks promote good moods (eg water, tomatoes, berries etc) and what promotes bad moods or depression (highly processed foods, alcohol, salty foods etc). Really pile on the good mood promoting stuff. For 3 reasons. Placebo. Doing what you can that easily within your control to help your body to help your mind. To promote good general health and lifestyle habits.

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Exercise. As in some physical activity that gets your pulse racing. It doesn't have to involve going to the gym. Running up stairs instead of taking the lift, for example, would be a good move.

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Between meetings keep contact with him to a minimum. Generally whatever's required to arrange the next meeting.

6.

They're not awkward silences, they're comfortable lulls in the conversation. It's fine if there are times when the 2 of you are together and neither of you are speaking. You're just enjoying the moment. Of whatever you're doing or whatever's going on around you.

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Focus more on the people around you. And less on the little voice inside your head.

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Make it so that no subjects are taboo with your boyfriend. It's fun and interesting to talk about the minutiae of the intimate things in your life with him. The sort of thing you may not talk about with anyone else.

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Take yourself and your life less seriously. Make jokes about the things that stress and worry you. Reframe your stressors so that you don't mind if things turn out as badly as you fear they will. Today's disaster is next year's amusing anecdote.

10.

It's OK to talk about anything and everything, now that the 2 of you are an item. However, in general, try to put a positive spin on as much as you can. Also try not to come over as desperate, needy, clingy.

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Vulnerable is OK. Nobody's perfect and it's fine to freely discuss your imperfections. But try to do it in the right way. One where you're not putting yourself down. Where you're being positive and upbeat and enthusiastic.

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Going off on crazy silly tangents is fine.

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Cracking loads of jokes, even if they're not funny is good too. Because of the general vibe when being humourous. Which is way better than moaning about things.

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Face down your fears. Make that your mantra.