I'm feel a bit hurt

I lost a close family member on my late mom’s side, but a close relative of my father sent a sympathy card addressed only to him. The card didn’t mention me, my sister, or my brother at all. Everything was just really cold

My father relative know my siblings and I exist.

Inside, the message simply read: "Dear Mike (my father's name), love from (relative of my father)." There was no personal note about sorry to hear about the passing of my relative, nothing else.

It felt like this relative was only offering condolences to my father, even though they weren’t a blood relative to the person who passed. Both my father and this relative didn’t even like my mom’s relative—they used to say really distasteful things about them.

Any advice

Reply 1

anosmianAcrimony

It sounds like they sent it more out of a sense of obligation to express their condolences, than with the intention of giving your family something heartfelt. I doubt they were deliberately excluding you from the card, they just thought of your dad first and foremost.

Reply 2

anosmianAcrimony

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by Zoe souravlis

I lost my grandpa when I was 9 from my moms side I know how u feel cause I think I make him not proud of me in heaven.

Aw don't beat yourself up! How could you possibly know that? I'm sure if he's out there he has an even better understanding of you now than he did in life and he thinks very warmly and charitably of you.