I need advice, is my future ruined??
I'm really sorry If I ramble on I just want to know if anyone is in or has been in a similar situation to me because I feel very stressed out.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
Reply 1
Your future is absolutely not ruined sweetheart, I promise. Right now it sounds like your priority should be looking after yourself and trying to do what you can to overcome your anxiety - I promise that college can wait. Life is long and you have way more time than you think you do, there are loads of good things waiting in your future even if you can’t see it yet - you’re so young and your life is just getting started. I was in a similar situation in secondary school - I have depression and anxiety and missed a lot of lessons and exams because it was so debilitating. I remember feeling like my life was over and that I’d never get better, and I ended up trying to take my own life when I was 14. I am so so so glad that I am still here. I’m 17 now and things have gotten so much better and I am so much happier than I ever thought was possible. I promise your life is not ruined. Look after yourself and take each day one at a time. You don’t need to rush. You’re not in the same place as everyone else your age but that is completely completely okay - everybody has different lives and different paths. I know it’s so hard not to compare yourself to others but I promise you that it will all work out in the end. Hang in there love, you’ve got this. Future you is looking back right now and is so so proud of you.
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
Your future is absolutely not ruined sweetheart, I promise. Right now it sounds like your priority should be looking after yourself and trying to do what you can to overcome your anxiety - I promise that college can wait. Life is long and you have way more time than you think you do, there are loads of good things waiting in your future even if you can’t see it yet - you’re so young and your life is just getting started. I was in a similar situation in secondary school - I have depression and anxiety and missed a lot of lessons and exams because it was so debilitating. I remember feeling like my life was over and that I’d never get better, and I ended up trying to take my own life when I was 14. I am so so so glad that I am still here. I’m 17 now and things have gotten so much better and I am so much happier than I ever thought was possible. I promise your life is not ruined. Look after yourself and take each day one at a time. You don’t need to rush. You’re not in the same place as everyone else your age but that is completely completely okay - everybody has different lives and different paths. I know it’s so hard not to compare yourself to others but I promise you that it will all work out in the end. Hang in there love, you’ve got this. Future you is looking back right now and is so so proud of you.
Thank you so much for being so kind, I really appreciate it. I'm really sorry you had to go through that but i'm so glad that things got better for you, I hope that the same will happen for me. Your words have really made me feel better so thank you again
)Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
I'm really sorry If I ramble on I just want to know if anyone is in or has been in a similar situation to me because I feel very stressed out.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
First of all you should be so proud of yourself for getting those GCSEs scores whilst balancing so much! I can’t say the same for myself since my own struggles caused me to get quite bad results, even though I was always considered a smart kid. I think the worst thing I did was comparing myself to other afterwards. I’m doing a levels now and still have a habit of it, but it’s so important to remember that everyone approaches things differently as different things will work for different people. I know that a lot of emphasis gets placed on college and a levels but they are really not the end of the world and there’s a lot more opportunities you can do!
But like the other response said, first and foremost should come looking after yourself. Academics can wait. Please remember every day how far you’ve come, and treat yourself to things that make you feel better whether that’s a snack or a warm bath! Everything is going to work out just fine, I know everyone says that but it really will!
You didn’t really speak about what subjects you especially liked, or if you had any particular career aspirations so I’m writing quite generally, but most fields have many opportunities!
Also, there’s no need to apologise for “rambling” this is a space where people will listen and give advice. I used to apologise all the time even when it wasn’t necessary, and stopping that helped me a lot with things, if maybe it would help you?
Good luck, and I hope you feel better ☺️
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
I'm really sorry If I ramble on I just want to know if anyone is in or has been in a similar situation to me because I feel very stressed out.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
Hello,
I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way. Firstly, its amazing that you are getting support through therapy and now trying to get medication. The combination of these should will help you and although it may not cure the anxiety, it will enable you to live your life better. It is worth knowing that for such medication it can take a while to kick in and find the right dose so be patient!
It is great that you are so eager to learn, hopefully when you get medication you will start feeling able to go back to college. In the mean time could you do some online courses in subjects which are of interest to you? If you wanted there may also be ways of learning a levels online if you feel this would be beneficial.
Please don't give up because you clearly have potential, you are just facing some additional challenges at the moment and that is ok, you are not the only one!
If you have any questions or want to talk further about this or anything at all please do let me know!
Charlie
Law LLB Student
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
First of all you should be so proud of yourself for getting those GCSEs scores whilst balancing so much! I can’t say the same for myself since my own struggles caused me to get quite bad results, even though I was always considered a smart kid. I think the worst thing I did was comparing myself to other afterwards. I’m doing a levels now and still have a habit of it, but it’s so important to remember that everyone approaches things differently as different things will work for different people. I know that a lot of emphasis gets placed on college and a levels but they are really not the end of the world and there’s a lot more opportunities you can do!
But like the other response said, first and foremost should come looking after yourself. Academics can wait. Please remember every day how far you’ve come, and treat yourself to things that make you feel better whether that’s a snack or a warm bath! Everything is going to work out just fine, I know everyone says that but it really will!
You didn’t really speak about what subjects you especially liked, or if you had any particular career aspirations so I’m writing quite generally, but most fields have many opportunities!
Also, there’s no need to apologise for “rambling” this is a space where people will listen and give advice. I used to apologise all the time even when it wasn’t necessary, and stopping that helped me a lot with things, if maybe it would help you?
Good luck, and I hope you feel better ☺️
But like the other response said, first and foremost should come looking after yourself. Academics can wait. Please remember every day how far you’ve come, and treat yourself to things that make you feel better whether that’s a snack or a warm bath! Everything is going to work out just fine, I know everyone says that but it really will!
You didn’t really speak about what subjects you especially liked, or if you had any particular career aspirations so I’m writing quite generally, but most fields have many opportunities!
Also, there’s no need to apologise for “rambling” this is a space where people will listen and give advice. I used to apologise all the time even when it wasn’t necessary, and stopping that helped me a lot with things, if maybe it would help you?
Good luck, and I hope you feel better ☺️
Thank you so much for your advice and tips, I really do appreciate it! And yes I probably should stop apologising so much, I just worry that I am bothering people but I will definitely try to work on that so thank you again!
Reply 6
Original post by UoL Students
Hello,
I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way. Firstly, its amazing that you are getting support through therapy and now trying to get medication. The combination of these should will help you and although it may not cure the anxiety, it will enable you to live your life better. It is worth knowing that for such medication it can take a while to kick in and find the right dose so be patient!
It is great that you are so eager to learn, hopefully when you get medication you will start feeling able to go back to college. In the mean time could you do some online courses in subjects which are of interest to you? If you wanted there may also be ways of learning a levels online if you feel this would be beneficial.
Please don't give up because you clearly have potential, you are just facing some additional challenges at the moment and that is ok, you are not the only one!
If you have any questions or want to talk further about this or anything at all please do let me know!
Charlie
Law LLB Student
I am sorry to hear you are feeling this way. Firstly, its amazing that you are getting support through therapy and now trying to get medication. The combination of these should will help you and although it may not cure the anxiety, it will enable you to live your life better. It is worth knowing that for such medication it can take a while to kick in and find the right dose so be patient!
It is great that you are so eager to learn, hopefully when you get medication you will start feeling able to go back to college. In the mean time could you do some online courses in subjects which are of interest to you? If you wanted there may also be ways of learning a levels online if you feel this would be beneficial.
Please don't give up because you clearly have potential, you are just facing some additional challenges at the moment and that is ok, you are not the only one!
If you have any questions or want to talk further about this or anything at all please do let me know!
Charlie
Law LLB Student
Thank you for the reply I appreciate it!
Yeah i'm not really getting my hopes up too much with the medication as I know it can do more harm than good for some people but hopefully it will help.
I will look for some online courses that I can possibly do but sometimes its tricky because my parents want me to go to college in person as they don't like me sat at home all day but I am going to look into it anyway so thank you!
Reply 7
Hello,
That's not a problem! The thing with medication is that you need to find the right dose and the right type because not all types will work for everyone. Be patient and just find the right medication because that can help enormously.
It's understandable that your parents want you to go to college but obviously your mental health needs to come first, especially if you want to do well. At least if you do online courses this will be of some value to you both now and further down the line. Two good platforms to look at are Future Learn and Open Learn.
If you have any further questions or anything please let me know.
Charlie
Law LLB Student
That's not a problem! The thing with medication is that you need to find the right dose and the right type because not all types will work for everyone. Be patient and just find the right medication because that can help enormously.
It's understandable that your parents want you to go to college but obviously your mental health needs to come first, especially if you want to do well. At least if you do online courses this will be of some value to you both now and further down the line. Two good platforms to look at are Future Learn and Open Learn.
If you have any further questions or anything please let me know.
Charlie
Law LLB Student
Reply 8
Original post by UoL Students
Hello,
That's not a problem! The thing with medication is that you need to find the right dose and the right type because not all types will work for everyone. Be patient and just find the right medication because that can help enormously.
It's understandable that your parents want you to go to college but obviously your mental health needs to come first, especially if you want to do well. At least if you do online courses this will be of some value to you both now and further down the line. Two good platforms to look at are Future Learn and Open Learn.
If you have any further questions or anything please let me know.
Charlie
Law LLB Student
That's not a problem! The thing with medication is that you need to find the right dose and the right type because not all types will work for everyone. Be patient and just find the right medication because that can help enormously.
It's understandable that your parents want you to go to college but obviously your mental health needs to come first, especially if you want to do well. At least if you do online courses this will be of some value to you both now and further down the line. Two good platforms to look at are Future Learn and Open Learn.
If you have any further questions or anything please let me know.
Charlie
Law LLB Student
Original post by Anonymous
I'm really sorry If I ramble on I just want to know if anyone is in or has been in a similar situation to me because I feel very stressed out.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
I'm 16 and have really bad social anxiety, I missed 6 months of year 10 (mental health reasons) but still managed to get 7 GCSE's 4-7 without revising and I was always top of my class before my anxiety started affecting me so I wouldn't say I'm particularly stupid. I went to college in september but dropped out because my anxiety was making it very difficult but I enjoyed learning new things so I just feel like i've wasted my potential maybe?? My parents are very disappointed in me and I'm even more disappointed in myself, I feel like a complete failure as I see everyone my age doing a-levels and getting jobs.
I am with camhs and my therapist has tried really hard to help me with the anxiety and is trying to get me on meds for it but I just feel like nothing is ever going to make it go away.
I guess I just need advice, I really want to go back to college but my anxiety is crippling me.
You need to see your GP regarding your anxiety.
No, your future isn't ruined. You have many many options, such as retakes, evening courses, btec, apprenticeships, uni, working your way up work.
Reply 10
It's really nice to see some positive stories of overcoming adversity and struggles. You're all right, your life is not over. Life is full of ups and downs, its always good to remember that when you're in one of the downs. Emotions aren't forever, they pass. But sometimes when you're in that low place and you feel so alone, it can feel like everything is ruined. If you ever feel like you can't carry on and you're experiencing thoughts of suicide, please reach out to out HOPELINE247 on 0800 068 4141. Peace and love
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