is he a red flag 🚩
is he a 🚩?
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
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by Anonymousis he a 🚩?
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
bit weird mate
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by samir965bit weird mate
me?
Reply 3
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by samir965no not you. that guy definitely has some attachment issues.
do i stay away? i feel bad
Reply 4
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by samir965maybe slowly reduce the contact you have with him over time and see what happens then
true. he does have good intentions people tell me but idk
Reply 5
fully red flag, dissolve him out ur life!
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by samir965maybe just tell him all the things he did that made you feel uncomfortable and then see if he changes his behaviour and if he doesnt then stop talking to him. he mightve just got a bit too giddy and blurted out stuff he didnt really mean.
yeah i’ve told him already but still hasn’t slowed down. :/
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by Anonymousis he a 🚩?
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
I would guess that he is very naive and thus keen to have a girlfriend and over the top a bit, but he might actually be a really nice guy (being generous does NOT mean clingy) .I would give him a chance and see where it goes.
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by AnonymousI would guess that he is very naive and thus keen to have a girlfriend and over the top a bit, but he might actually be a really nice guy (being generous does NOT mean clingy) .I would give him a chance and see where it goes.
ok thank you it’s just i keep seeing love bombing and ik it’s not that and he does seem lovely! just was overthinking as i’m just scared
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by Anonymousok thank you it’s just i keep seeing love bombing and ik it’s not that and he does seem lovely! just was overthinking as i’m just scared
How do I know what I suggest ? Lol well I am like that myself ,in a way. The "I love you" is not a clingy thing it is more like a nice gesture. The wanting to pay for things is really a kindness and generosity thing as well. You will find out as go along.
Reply 11
erm if I were you I'd want to find out 1) if he's ever had a girlfriend before (could be a nervous dude)
2) what his friends think of him
3) what your friends think of him (probs a red flag if your friends don't like him)
4) what you want from your relationship with him (do you want to enjoy spending time with a guy/ have fun - is this fun?, are you looking for a partner/ marriage, kids, idk your situation but you should definitely think about that)
If you're sure he's not weird and you want to date him but he's still a love-bomber, I'd say perhaps try going out with a combo of his friends and your friends to ease the mood and give it some time as he may just be worried - especially if you're hot lol
hope that helps...
2) what his friends think of him
3) what your friends think of him (probs a red flag if your friends don't like him)
4) what you want from your relationship with him (do you want to enjoy spending time with a guy/ have fun - is this fun?, are you looking for a partner/ marriage, kids, idk your situation but you should definitely think about that)
If you're sure he's not weird and you want to date him but he's still a love-bomber, I'd say perhaps try going out with a combo of his friends and your friends to ease the mood and give it some time as he may just be worried - especially if you're hot lol
hope that helps...
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by Anonymousis he a 🚩?
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
first day of meeting (my friend told me he likes me from when he saw me one time before) with my best friend on valentine’s day , he wouldn’t let me pay for my drink i thought that was sweet at the time.
he also paid for the taxi home and looking back was quite clingy - he has told me he loves me but then when my friend asked he denied it.
then i asked him yesterday what did you mean by u love me ? he said he still does and he regrets saying it too soon.
can’t bloody love me. only met me for a few hours .
he also keeps asking to meet up on dates and think it’s too much. i’ve told him to slow down but he hasn’t - what do i do? maybe i’m just not ready yet for a relationship again - ive been single for almost a year. maybe it’s that or maybe this is a red flag . not sure pls help me 😭
maybe he has issues and he’s unaware but idk
if you want to keep your relationship with him just explain to him your situation, he seems desperate but it harsh to call it a red flag
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