introvert girl from work
how to ask an introvert girl from work on a date? she can smile when she is in a good mood, joke, tease...but i can't read her body language and determine if she likes me...one time I feel like we get along, and other times she feels reserved or neutral...I have a feeling she likes an other guy also from work, but doesn't confess and doesn't show it to him...I believe she is interested in him cause how she reacts and enquires about him..
Should I confess that I like her, and maybe look like an idiot, or try and ask her to do something together?
Should I confess that I like her, and maybe look like an idiot, or try and ask her to do something together?
Reply 1
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by Anonymoushow to ask an introvert girl from work on a date? she can smile when she is in a good mood, joke, tease...but i can't read her body language and determine if she likes me...one time I feel like we get along, and other times she feels reserved or neutral...I have a feeling she likes an other guy also from work, but doesn't confess and doesn't show it to him...I believe she is interested in him cause how she reacts and enquires about him..
Should I confess that I like her, and maybe look like an idiot, or try and ask her to do something together?
Should I confess that I like her, and maybe look like an idiot, or try and ask her to do something together?
Top tip - don't date people you work with. It only ends in tears.
Reply 2
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Don’t confess you like her, but ask her on a date and see how she reacts. You can make it a bit ambiguous if you prefer, like going for lunch, meeting for a coffee, or joining you at a group event
Reply 3
Confessing that you like her, or making any sort of dating move on her runs too much risk of you getting dismissed or disciplinary action against you or in you poisoning the well of your work, with you getting a bad reputation amongst the people you work with.
What you should do is to be sociable, positive, friendly, enthusiastic with everyone you work with.
And you should make an effort to go on every social event organised by colleagues. And even to arrange social events yourself.
Outside of work colleagues, confessing to a girl that you like her, before the 2 of you are an item is something you should avoid - as a good general guideline.
It's better to have the frame that you find her interesting and intriguing but that you're not sold on her and you have reservations. The theory behind this is that she feels that she has to win you over and that she would be getting the slightly deal out of the 2 of you. This will make her more attracted to you than if she feels she can have you if she wants, or that she already has you.
Reservations are best expressed in a socially calibrated way. You should avoid being too insulting to people. Push-pulls are a good way to express reservations. EG "We should grab a coffee, but only if you promise not to embarrass me."
Or "We should grab a coffee, but only if you promise to embarrass me."
What you should do is to be sociable, positive, friendly, enthusiastic with everyone you work with.
And you should make an effort to go on every social event organised by colleagues. And even to arrange social events yourself.
Outside of work colleagues, confessing to a girl that you like her, before the 2 of you are an item is something you should avoid - as a good general guideline.
It's better to have the frame that you find her interesting and intriguing but that you're not sold on her and you have reservations. The theory behind this is that she feels that she has to win you over and that she would be getting the slightly deal out of the 2 of you. This will make her more attracted to you than if she feels she can have you if she wants, or that she already has you.
Reservations are best expressed in a socially calibrated way. You should avoid being too insulting to people. Push-pulls are a good way to express reservations. EG "We should grab a coffee, but only if you promise not to embarrass me."
Or "We should grab a coffee, but only if you promise to embarrass me."
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