bf wants to end it bc im not giving him sex

As an aside, he doesn’t sound kindhearted at all, he comes across selfish and lacking empathy.

Yeah i get what you mean. I really dunno anymore, if he comes complaining back to me that he wahts to do stuff w me then its time to let it go

Weve been tg for 2 years and we've had a lot of ups and downs but this is something thats the worst yet.
My bf really loves me, a lot, but he keeps bringing up the fact that he does everything for me, and i dont do anythimg for him. he told me, he buys me makeup, food, gives me money, gives me hugs kisses etc etc. I mean, i guess he does eveything i ever ask for and it makes me happy. However, he tells me he feels really unhappy because apparently i dont do enough for him. But thats a bit strange, because I also buy him food, give him cute gifts, all that stuff. When i ask him, it seems like all he wants is sexual stuff, such as a bj, sexual stuff like that.
He asks me, what is a realtionship? I told him that a relationship is a close friendship where theres some sort of intamacy. he got mad, and told me that having a bf/gf is adapting urself to fit their needs. And he's really smart with that, becuse he does everything i ever ask him for. However, i know he wants sex badly.
Im very religious, and i want to save my first time for marriage. When i told him this, he got furious, and he said to me 'what if we arent sexually compatible?' Like, is a relationship just sex to guys? Im genuinely so confused, what does being in a rs mean for men? My bf told me that a marriage is about sex, but to me, a marriage is when you care about someone so much that, even if they dont want sex, its not the end of the world, and they will still love you no matter what. I think my bf just wants a sexual rs w me. I really want to make him happy, but no way am i losing my self respect just for him. Boys dont rlly understand this stuff, but for girls, doing IT is a very special thing to us.
I dont wanna breakup w him but like honestly am i just being annoying here? He's a very kindhearted person, and he would never ever ever forcefully have sex w me, but i know that it makes him quite sad because he thinks hes not attractive enough for me. I really dont want him to think this. Our relationship is kinda crumbling ad the whole reason is because i dont want to be 'intimate' with him. The max ive done is given a handjob and he's fingered me, it was nice but straight after, i regretted my actions because its going against my own morals. Is there any other way I can make him happier, or shall i just tell him I cant be with someone who wants sex at our age. I would like a guys opinion on this if possible.
thanks yall loveuxx

Bro just have a little bit of said SEX and get it done and over with! Just my sugusten.

Given that what they’ve already done with their BF has made them feel uncomfortable, what makes you think that’s a sensible suggestion?

hey love! i just want to start by saying that your feelings are completely valid, and you are not being annoying at all. relationships should never be transactional, love and care aren’t things you “owe” someone in exchange for what they do for you. it sounds like your boyfriend is keeping score, and that’s not fair to you. the fact that he repeatedly brings up what he does for you while making you feel like you aren’t doing enough, especially in a sexual way, is a major red flag that you shouldn't ignore. he is disregarding your boundaries and values, and consent which is guilted or pressured is not true consent. yes, sex and intimacy can be an important part of relationships for many people, and it’s natural for teenagers to be curious and want to want to explore but your boundaries and comfort level matter just as much as his desires. if you don’t want to be intimate before marriage, that’s a personal and deeply important belief that you shouldn’t have to compromise for anyone. a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, and right now, he isn’t respecting your limits. it’s hard to let go of someone you care about, especially after two years, but a relationship where your values and needs don’t align will only cause more pain in the long run. you deserve someone who respects you fully- your beliefs, your boundaries, and your emotional well-being. If he truly cared about you beyond just sex, he wouldn’t be trying to push your limits. also, if this wasn’t an issue before but has suddenly become one, it might be worth asking if he’s feeling external pressure, maybe from friends, social media, or his own insecurities. but at the end of the day, you shouldn’t have to change or compromise your values to make someone else happy. you deserve a love that respects and aligns with you, and I promise you, there are people out there who will love you for all that you are.

Weve been tg for 2 years and we've had a lot of ups and downs but this is something thats the worst yet.
My bf really loves me, a lot, but he keeps bringing up the fact that he does everything for me, and i dont do anythimg for him. he told me, he buys me makeup, food, gives me money, gives me hugs kisses etc etc. I mean, i guess he does eveything i ever ask for and it makes me happy. However, he tells me he feels really unhappy because apparently i dont do enough for him. But thats a bit strange, because I also buy him food, give him cute gifts, all that stuff. When i ask him, it seems like all he wants is sexual stuff, such as a bj, sexual stuff like that.
He asks me, what is a realtionship? I told him that a relationship is a close friendship where theres some sort of intamacy. he got mad, and told me that having a bf/gf is adapting urself to fit their needs. And he's really smart with that, becuse he does everything i ever ask him for. However, i know he wants sex badly.
Im very religious, and i want to save my first time for marriage. When i told him this, he got furious, and he said to me 'what if we arent sexually compatible?' Like, is a relationship just sex to guys? Im genuinely so confused, what does being in a rs mean for men? My bf told me that a marriage is about sex, but to me, a marriage is when you care about someone so much that, even if they dont want sex, its not the end of the world, and they will still love you no matter what. I think my bf just wants a sexual rs w me. I really want to make him happy, but no way am i losing my self respect just for him. Boys dont rlly understand this stuff, but for girls, doing IT is a very special thing to us.
I dont wanna breakup w him but like honestly am i just being annoying here? He's a very kindhearted person, and he would never ever ever forcefully have sex w me, but i know that it makes him quite sad because he thinks hes not attractive enough for me. I really dont want him to think this. Our relationship is kinda crumbling ad the whole reason is because i dont want to be 'intimate' with him. The max ive done is given a handjob and he's fingered me, it was nice but straight after, i regretted my actions because its going against my own morals. Is there any other way I can make him happier, or shall i just tell him I cant be with someone who wants sex at our age. I would like a guys opinion on this if possible.
thanks yall loveuxx