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Why is my boyfriend ignoring me in Ramadan

Been dating this guy for 4 months met him like everyone else does In this century on Muslim dating app I really love him he loves me too both our intentions are for marriage he's met my parents a few times just waiting to meet his soon IA. I'm Muslim too since is Ramadan he told me he's been busy at work and Ramadan he keeps saying he will call me after iftari but never does is it normal for guys to be busy and distant in Ramadan.

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Reply 1

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by Zoyah300
Been dating this guy for 4 months met him like everyone else does In this century on Muslim dating app I really love him he loves me too both our intentions are for marriage he's met my parents a few times just waiting to meet his soon IA. I'm Muslim too since is Ramadan he told me he's been busy at work and Ramadan he keeps saying he will call me after iftari but never does is it normal for guys to be busy and distant in Ramadan.


Relationships in Islam are haram.
Ramadan is a blessed month
Maybe he doesn’t want to sin.
If you want to get married, have a Nikah, so you can see each other halal-fully

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by Anonymous
Relationships in Islam are haram.
Ramadan is a blessed month
Maybe he doesn’t want to sin.
If you want to get married, have a Nikah, so you can see each other halal-fully


I'm pretty sure i did say my attention were to Marry..?

Reply 3

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by Zoyah300
I'm pretty sure i did say my attention were to Marry..?


I get where this person is coming from though, a sin is a sin regardless of intention . Nonetheless communicate this issue with your partner - ask why they’re appearing to be distant. Communication is key always remember

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by Zoyah300
Been dating this guy for 4 months met him like everyone else does In this century on Muslim dating app I really love him he loves me too both our intentions are for marriage he's met my parents a few times just waiting to meet his soon IA. I'm Muslim too since is Ramadan he told me he's been busy at work and Ramadan he keeps saying he will call me after iftari but never does is it normal for guys to be busy and distant in Ramadan.


Wallahi mine is doing the same :frown:

Reply 5

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by Anonymous
I get where this person is coming from though, a sin is a sin regardless of intention . Nonetheless communicate this issue with your partner - ask why they’re appearing to be distant. Communication is key always remember


I have already he's told me that he busy with work and that Ramadan has been making very busy too overall your saying it doesn't matter what my intentions are in my opinion it kinda does if your intentions are not marry have fun then it's not right to be dating someone people around the uk who are trying to find someone for marriage will typically get to the person for about 6-8 months if it goes well then they will get married and have a nikkah :smile:

Reply 6

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by Anonymous
Wallahi mine is doing the same :frown:


I think after Ramadan they will go back to normal IA

Reply 7

May I ask how old you are

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by plonkadoodledoo
May I ask how old you are


19

Reply 9

Not a muslim, but I dont think it has to do with you, if he truly loves you, maybe he just wants to focus on himself this ramadan. Hopefully, things go back to normal after ramadan.

Reply 10

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by Zoyah300
I think after Ramadan they will go back to normal IA


inshallah i hope :frown:

Reply 11

It's not very encouraging that he thinks it is fine to just go incommunicado for 4 weeks if I am being honest, regardless of his motivation. You'd hope for better communication from someone you are in a relationship with.

Reply 12

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by Mohammed_2000
It’s haram, It’s temporary. How can you even be communicating to the opposite gender especially during the month of Ramadan…


Someone sounds mad ... u didn't really answer my question Mohammed

Reply 13

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by ROTL 94
It's not very encouraging that he thinks it is fine to just go incommunicado for 4 weeks if I am being honest, regardless of his motivation. You'd hope for better communication from someone you are in a relationship with.


Yhea I think so too I'm used to him disappearing once In a while bc of him working 7 hours in shift but he has communicated to me even before Ramadan and during Ramadan on the first day that's he's really busy ugm

Reply 14

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by Zoyah300
Someone sounds mad ... u didn't really answer my question Mohammed

Not really going back to your question… don’t you think he’s focusing on himself and especially the month of Ramadan knowing the good deeds he could make within the month.

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by Mohammed_2000
Not really going back to your question… don’t you think he’s focusing on himself and especially the month of Ramadan knowing the good deeds he could make within the month.


Thank you Mohammed for caring about life

Reply 16

hi im not Muslim but my boyfriend is Muslim and during Ramadan we still talk but definitely as friends, and i do think that during this month I think it is just something to wait until after Ramadan is over to truly figure things out and as you say if they go back to normal. Him not talking to you at all is weird though, I do think communicate and just ask if he just wants the space for this month, if you are able to give him that then also focus on yourself and enjoy this month, then be back to normal with him after if that feels healthy for you. Take care Zoyah

Reply 17

I’m muslim and i think it’s definitely a red flag that you can’t communicate with him.

Why doesn’t he just say- let’s talk a bit less cos it’s ramadan and we’ll talk more when it’s ended.

Sister it’s strange and don’t put up with a guys behaviour if you’re seeing red flags. Point it out and fix it if not then there’ll be another guy that will treat you right.

Saying this from experience. I ignored a guys red flags and it ended up in a divorce. Not saying it can’t be fixed but just be careful and stand your ground.

Reply 18

I honestly think that due to you being so young the boy could be taking advantage of your naivety. However, I dont understand or know the complete story. But i would recommend worrying about your education and passing with your degree. u may find someone better when you have graduated from the place of your work while also having ur degree; you will have something to fall back on to if eventually, things dont work out. This is just my opinion, given my limited understanding of this situation.

Reply 19

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by Anonymous
I honestly think that due to you being so young the boy could be taking advantage of your naivety. However, I dont understand or know the complete story. But i would recommend worrying about your education and passing with your degree. u may find someone better when you have graduated from the place of your work while also having ur degree; you will have something to fall back on to if eventually, things dont work out. This is just my opinion, given my limited understanding of this situation.


I'm not naive I think it's my choice if I want to get married young Especially if I'm trying to avoid a haram relationship I would rather have nikkah done as for my education I'm have not even mentioned anything about it nor do I agree with you assuming what I should do or not ovis you have your opinions and your own life goals in mind but not everyone has those of course my education matters but like I said I never mentioned it I don't know why you bring it up also I'm legally allowed to get married at 19 I wouldn't want to wait till I'm in my in my mid 20s

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