attracted to every guy

Bro whenever I sit next to any guy in class I feel attracted to them like bro its so annoying. Its not like deep attraction but it's always oh I wouldn't mind them tbf and like just get happy alot when they pay attention to me whatver. And like if any of them asked me I would say yes.

I think it's weird and gross.
How do I stop this

Reply 1

anosmianAcrimony

20

This is completely normal; it's not weird or gross. You can't stop it and it wouldn't be healthy to try. It will gradually lessen as you get older though.

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Anonymous #1

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by anosmianAcrimony

This is completely normal; it's not weird or gross. You can't stop it and it wouldn't be healthy to try. It will gradually lessen as you get older though.

right thanks but I don't think its ethical. I'm celibate too and I'm never gonna get married or form any type of relationship.

Reply 3

Doomotron

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by Anonymous

right thanks but I don't think its ethical. I'm celibate too and I'm never gonna get married or form any type of relationship.

I think your opinion on that will probably change as you get older. Don't try to stop how you feel about boys - if you like them, even if it seems to be all of them, that's normal and you shouldn't try to stop it.

Reply 4

anosmianAcrimony

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by Anonymous

right thanks but I don't think its ethical. I'm celibate too and I'm never gonna get married or form any type of relationship.

You can only be judged ethically on things you can control. You can't control whether or to whom you feel attraction. So it can't really be unethical.

Is there any particular reason you have decided never to engage in romance or get married to anyone ever? From what you're saying, it seems like there is a very real part of you that DOES want to act on your attraction to guys. The more you try to push that part of you down, the more frustrated and prominent and problematic it will become. A healthy, happy life includes a healthy expression, not repression, of those feelings.

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by Anonymous

Bro whenever I sit next to any guy in class I feel attracted to them like bro its so annoying. Its not like deep attraction but it's always oh I wouldn't mind them tbf and like just get happy alot when they pay attention to me whatver. And like if any of them asked me I would say yes.
I think it's weird and gross.
How do I stop this

Ur not alone, I feel the same way but I think that I feel this way because I haven't really gotten much attention from guys so now I a just willing to accept it from anyone at this point. I also feel disgusted with myself at how desperate I can sound.

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Anonymous #3

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by Anonymous

Bro whenever I sit next to any guy in class I feel attracted to them like bro its so annoying. Its not like deep attraction but it's always oh I wouldn't mind them tbf and like just get happy alot when they pay attention to me whatver. And like if any of them asked me I would say yes.
I think it's weird and gross.
How do I stop this

Girl, your for the streets

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Anonymous #4

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by Anonymous

Bro whenever I sit next to any guy in class I feel attracted to them like bro its so annoying. Its not like deep attraction but it's always oh I wouldn't mind them tbf and like just get happy alot when they pay attention to me whatver. And like if any of them asked me I would say yes.
I think it's weird and gross.
How do I stop this

I pray for girls like this bruh

Reply 8

potato.o

7

I think what you're craving is male validation. It's understandable because society teaches women that male validation has inherent value. It's also probably an aspect of growing up and puberty.

Every time you feel like this, it's important to think about why you feel this way. What do you actually like about this person? If you were going to get into a relationship with him, would you actually like him or the attention you would get from him? I feel like 9/10, it's the attention and the idea of being in a relationship that you might probably enjoy more. Also I wouldn't beat yourself up for feeling this way. It's normal. You're still growing and developing. It could just be hormones.

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by potato.o

I think what you're craving is male validation. It's understandable because society teaches women that male validation has inherent value. It's also probably an aspect of growing up and puberty.
Every time you feel like this, it's important to think about why you feel this way. What do you actually like about this person? If you were going to get into a relationship with him, would you actually like him or the attention you would get from him? I feel like 9/10, it's the attention and the idea of being in a relationship that you might probably enjoy more. Also I wouldn't beat yourself up for feeling this way. It's normal. You're still growing and developing. It could just be hormones.

didn't order a yappichino boss

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Anonymous #1

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by potato.o

I think what you're craving is male validation. It's understandable because society teaches women that male validation has inherent value. It's also probably an aspect of growing up and puberty.
Every time you feel like this, it's important to think about why you feel this way. What do you actually like about this person? If you were going to get into a relationship with him, would you actually like him or the attention you would get from him? I feel like 9/10, it's the attention and the idea of being in a relationship that you might probably enjoy more. Also I wouldn't beat yourself up for feeling this way. It's normal. You're still growing and developing. It could just be hormones.

right I think it's the attention 😪

Reply 11

anonomouse888

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by Anonymous

Girl, your for the streets

you misogynistic pig, take this horrible energy somewhere that isn't a teenage girl feeling guilty about her developing sexuality.

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Anonymous #1

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by Anonymous

Girl, your for the streets

Fr bro everyone is backing me up but I am inherently in the wrong😔 I know its wrong

Reply 13

anonomouse888

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by Anonymous

Fr bro everyone is backing me up but I am inherently in the wrong😔 I know its wrong

I know you probably feel guilty but you don't need to and pandering to misogynists on the internet will not help.

Reply 14

NonIndigenous

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by Anonymous

Bro whenever I sit next to any guy in class I feel attracted to them like bro its so annoying. Its not like deep attraction but it's always oh I wouldn't mind them tbf and like just get happy alot when they pay attention to me whatver. And like if any of them asked me I would say yes.
I think it's weird and gross.
How do I stop this

Feeling attracted to lots of different people isn't a bad thing by itself. It depends on what you do with those feelings.

Our culture to a large extent glamorises hookups and promiscuity more than I think has ever been the case in our history, and this is often paired with a very nonchalant and even outright callous attitude towards people who happen to be badly affected by it.

If at some point you choose to start dating, and choose to see multiple men at a time, just be fking honest with them. If they don't like it, then part ways. Give them the information they need to make the choice that is right for them. Don't date a guy for like 3-4 months, acting like you're serious about them just because you think that's what is expected of you, whilst not calling it a relationship and behind the scenes at the same time entertaining other guys and being cagy/defensive about it (which is a very common pattern among people with these inclinations).

If I'm dating someone, I want to know how serious they are about me. It therefore *is* my business whether or not they are seeing other people. They're not entitled to my time. Withholding information about other guys that they're seeing, is manipulative and intended to fool me into thinking they're more serious than they are. Don't be that person. I personally have a disinterest in women who like to compulsively date and fool around. I work like 60 hours a week, and among other reasons as well, just haven't the time for that sort of foolery. I like to know as soon as possible if she's worth my time.

Everything I said also applies to guys who also might consider acting this way.