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HELP! what do i do??

ive been going to the same school as this guy for 9 years now, and developed feelings for him when i was around 10 but we didnt start talking until a year or so later, then stopped and started talking again when we were 12-13, and its been very on and off since then- mostly due to me ghosting him but 2 years ago i stopped ghosting him and we talked for 6 months before he ghosted me. for the past year we haven’t talked and he only came back into my life 4 months ago by telling me happy birthday, talking to me for a week, then ghosting again. recently we started talking AGAIN on around 12th february and got along really well. he took me out to the cinema yesterday and i enjoyed it, however i think ive started to realise i like him more as a friend than anything else and i dont know what to do now because i will feel really bad ghosting or confronting my actual feelings straight after a hangout, but also i dont want to wait too long because leading people on is not my thing and is morally wrong. all my friends are saying to either wait a week or 2 to confront him or to just tell him straightup- help?!?

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by Anonymous
ive been going to the same school as this guy for 9 years now, and developed feelings for him when i was around 10 but we didnt start talking until a year or so later, then stopped and started talking again when we were 12-13, and its been very on and off since then- mostly due to me ghosting him but 2 years ago i stopped ghosting him and we talked for 6 months before he ghosted me. for the past year we haven’t talked and he only came back into my life 4 months ago by telling me happy birthday, talking to me for a week, then ghosting again. recently we started talking AGAIN on around 12th february and got along really well. he took me out to the cinema yesterday and i enjoyed it, however i think ive started to realise i like him more as a friend than anything else and i dont know what to do now because i will feel really bad ghosting or confronting my actual feelings straight after a hangout, but also i dont want to wait too long because leading people on is not my thing and is morally wrong. all my friends are saying to either wait a week or 2 to confront him or to just tell him straightup- help?!?

In my opinion you should just straight up confront him what do you have to lose?

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by Ilikehellokitty
In my opinion you should just straight up confront him what do you have to lose?


i guess you’re right, should i do it in person? or over text/call? we don’t actually talk much irl

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by Anonymous
i guess you’re right, should i do it in person? or over text/call? we don’t actually talk much irl

Well in person you get a immediate reply over text they could ignore you

Reply 4

sounds like youre pretty settled in seeing him as a friend then, plus being ghosted/ghosting that often isnt healthy if you wanted more. focus on this as a friendship where you sometimes talk but dont think about how often you talk as important anymore, if you dont have feelings. if he hasnt confessed to you then safe to assume he also only sees this as friendship. he ghosted you too so its doubtful he sees this as anything serious.

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