Did my bf sexually assault me?

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by Anonymous

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Hello,

I am so sorry that you have experienced this, this is a form of sexual assault because your boyfriend made you do something you did not want to do at a time when you were unable to consent. I urge you to speak to a trusted adult about this situation and please do report it.

Our private messages are always open so please feel free to reach out for further support or if you have any questions. You could also try the TellMi app which can be extremely supportive.

Charlie
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BREAK UP ASAPPPPPPPPPPPPPP WHATTT?????? I’m so sorry that’s happened to you queen that’s completely disgusting of him but you gotta end it now before it goes too far :frown:

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Anonymous #3

i dont know much about romantic relationships but that definitely does NOT sound right- listen to how YOU feel (which you clearly dont feel good about this situation)- if he brushed it off that easily, he clearly musn’t care about how you felt about it, but whether you want to stay in the relationship or not is entirely up to you. ( personally, i could see how it would be hard to break up, but either way you MUST communicate to him how you feel about the situation and it may even be a good idea to tell him what he did might be sexual assault so he is aware of his wrongdoing.)

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I don't know anything about relationships or sex so I don't know my advice would be useful. By definition, sexual assault literally means 'any form of sexual violence or abuse that involves physical contact between the perpetrator (person responsible) and the victim or survivor especially if the person does not consent to the touching'. You can't consent when your asleep and your bf should know that really. Apologies in advance if I said anything offensive

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I have to agree with the previous comments. This is a form of sexual assault. You did not consent to this and it was done when you were unconscious and unable to outline your boundaries. It sounds as though prior to this incident you had made it clear what you were and were not comfortable with. Therefore, it does seem that your partner has knowingly crossed a line. He wouldn't do that when you were awake, so he absolutely should not do that when you are asleep.

It's completely understandable that you feel a bit icky about it and you are not overreacting in the slightest.

I would put distance between yourself and this person because his behaviour is concerning. If you are really unsettled by the whole situation, you are well within your rights to report it.

I hope you're okay and just know that no one should ever make you feel uncomfortable like that. No one deserves that.