Friends

Call me old fashioned but what happened to friends with “old school” morales. What happened to friends who genuinely want you to achieve something in l if and not rot with them at the bottom. What happened to friends who speak with manners and dignity and speak with respect. I feel like my year in school is messed with my expectations of what a friend actually is. Do people like that, and by that I mean people who you can actually call a friend exist or am I just not seeing something. An by friend I mean someone you can count on not just someone who wants to tell you what you want to hear but someone who actually tells you what you need to know. I feel like this is such a big problem for me because I just have that image of anyone who I remotely get close to they just want to “chill” and not get anything and don’t want to become anything in this life. It’s been taking a huge toll on me and I though I’d need to vent about it

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Do you mean friends who share career aspirations? I can only say that it will probably improve at university—many uni societies have a specific academic or career goal (e.g. mooting for lawyers).

I’m not the man to ask about friendships as I am very self-sufficient but more than one quiet, self-contained boy or girl at my school blossomed at a remarkable rate in the more serious uni environment.

“Chin up”, you’ll probably just have to stick it out for now if you’ve a school cohort more interested in fun than study and life prep, but for all that be kind and civil to all, if you ask me.

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Original post by Lophocolea

Do you mean friends who share career aspirations? I can only say that it will probably improve at university—many uni societies have a specific academic or career goal (e.g. mooting for lawyers).
I’m not the man to ask about friendships as I am very self-sufficient but more than one quiet, self-contained boy or girl at my school blossomed at a remarkable rate in the more serious uni environment.
“Chin up”, you’ll probably just have to stick it out for now if you’ve a school cohort more interested in fun than study and life prep, but for all that be kind and civil to all, if you ask me.

Also, strive to be less harsh. No-one is rotting, not unless you have firm evidence that they have refused many good chances, and rates of maturity vary wildly: some play the fool at school and turn into model professors or businessmen, some work like Trojans at school and go wild at university (coming to a bad end).