Missing home

I moved to uni in September 4 hours from home London to Exeter. I cried my first night here and then was fine and ended up really liking it but 6 months later I'm bawling my eyes out for hours because I miss home and my family and friends so much. I know this feeling will pass but I just can't understand why I was so okay for so long and now its like hit me that my life will never be the same

Reply 1

McGinger

20

Everyday, write on a post-it note a simple note about something nice that happened during the day - a funny moment in class, a coffee chat with a friend, nice weather, a good grade, something someone said, etc etc. Stick these on the wall. Keep looking at them. Within a few days these start to become more important than the negative stuff. And make contact with someone in student support / student wellbeing. What you are feeling is totally normal and they will know how to help - promise.

Reply 2

nelsss

5

I hope I don’t come across as mean but, it’s absolutely normal to feel un-normal at university. It’s super common to cry due to the lack of/a science of people you love and loved with all your life aka family. So many uni students cry (they may lie and say they haven’t). My advice would be to stop thinking crying means there’s something wrong with you, or you trying to understand your mood, just let it be. After I bawl my eyes out 2 hours later I’m eating noodles laughing on tiktok. Don’t think to deep about it, your living in a new place/home/environment for the first time. For some of my friends they still occasionally cried even in their final year because they missed their family. It’s part of uni life. Don’t feel weird or anxious because of it. And try to FaceTime your mailing members and friends when you can and occasionally go back home during breaks and term time, make meals you used to eat at home, adopt some routines you used to do back home. You will smash it. I’m also a Exeter student, if that helps you feel comforted. You’re doing better than many!!!

Reply 3

LancashireRep1

Official Rep

16

Original post

by Anonymous

I moved to uni in September 4 hours from home London to Exeter. I cried my first night here and then was fine and ended up really liking it but 6 months later I'm bawling my eyes out for hours because I miss home and my family and friends so much. I know this feeling will pass but I just can't understand why I was so okay for so long and now its like hit me that my life will never be the same

Hi there,

I'm sorry to be reading this. I understand it's hard to move out and I definitely felt like you when I did. It's normal to feel overwhelmed and miss your family, this takes time so have more patient with it. That's something I never got told and had to realise myself but having patience with this, with makings friends and most things in life that take time, is something I wish I got told before moving out.

Something that helped me was having a few things in my accommodation that reminded me off home or my friends. I also facetimed my family a lot which is a great option for you as being four hours away is a long journey. I would also say don't be hard on yourself for feeling like you are as that is something I did. You are adjusting to a new environment, getting used to a different routine and living in a different place. There are a lot of changes that you adjusted to already and are still adjusting to so well done for that! Building or getting used to a new routine takes time but implementing your home routine into your university one might make it easier. 🙂

I would recommend speaking to someone about how you are feeling even if it's just a friend or family member. Many people go through the same feeling or similar, so hearing that someone else has felt the same before can be encouraging and useful. It may be worth looking at the student support your university has to offer as I got help from the wellbeing team here at the university and it was great. You've got this!

Hope this helps and best of luck!
^Zac

Reply 4

hallamstudents

Official Rep

18

Original post

by Anonymous

I moved to uni in September 4 hours from home London to Exeter. I cried my first night here and then was fine and ended up really liking it but 6 months later I'm bawling my eyes out for hours because I miss home and my family and friends so much. I know this feeling will pass but I just can't understand why I was so okay for so long and now its like hit me that my life will never be the same

Hi there,

Feeling homesick is completely normal and it's different and hits at different times for everyone so don't worry about this.

Here are some of my tips for dealing with homesickness:

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Facetime friends and family often

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Try and have a plan of when you are next going home as this can make it feel easier