Boyfriend broke up with me and I just don't know

Hi, my ex boyfriend now broke up with me recently completely out of nowhere, his reason was insufficient and now I feel so lost. I can't eat. I just feel so sad, like he will be a stranger in my life now and how can I cope? He's off travelling right now probably fine even though the breakup was only a week ago. How can i deal with this? when will I stop obsessing over him. Im scared no one else will ever find me pretty or I'll never find someone as kind as him. He was a good bf up until the breakup. Does anyone have any tips?

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Anonymous #2

First, therapy is probably the best option for you or talking with a family member to get it off your chest. Also if he truly was a good boyfriend then he would be able to see how awesome you are! Take some time for yourself and treat yourself.

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Anonymous #3

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by Anonymous

Hi, my ex boyfriend now broke up with me recently completely out of nowhere, his reason was insufficient and now I feel so lost. I can't eat. I just feel so sad, like he will be a stranger in my life now and how can I cope? He's off travelling right now probably fine even though the breakup was only a week ago. How can i deal with this? when will I stop obsessing over him. Im scared no one else will ever find me pretty or I'll never find someone as kind as him. He was a good bf up until the breakup. Does anyone have any tips?

i recently went through the same thing and i found talking to my family helped loads, it felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
i also started to focus on my work as my a levels are coming up and i find it helps as a distraction.
but i also keep time for myself every night to do some self car and my hobbies and watch things and read.
my advice is to just focus on yourself and do what makes you feel better x

Reply 3

Zarek

21

Sadly this is how things tend to go. As well as a right person there is also a right time for someone to make a commitment. Turn to friends and to distractions. It gets easier with time and new and better love comes

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Anonymous #4

Talking to people will help. This is just how heartbreak goes. In a few years, trust me, you'll think why was I ever in love with this person or waste time thinking about them 24/7?
Take time to do what makes you happy. I found everytime I started to think about them or caught myself thinking about them I'd stop myself in my head if that makes sense. Within a few weeks or months you'll be over it.
He wasn't the one if he broke up with you over a stupid reason. He just didn't like you enough and couldn't find a real reason. He doesn't deserve you and he's not the one for you. You'll find someone even better and it also comes when you least expect it.

Reply 5

MillieeM2

12

It’ll disappear with time when you process your emotions. Don’t suppress them but acknowledge them. Also finding a hobby, going out with friends or watching an interesting show can help

Reply 6

wasimi

9

time is the best of healers. as others have said talking helps, but if you are uncomfortable with that then simply find (or maybe you already have) some big goal and work relentlessly towards it. you may feel sad/down/tired but working in that state will build the envied skill of true discipline. use it as an opportunity to grow rather than slowing down and making it a noteworthy event in your life which you dedicate a lot of time to. it is difficult, it is upsetting, it is hard work, it will feel natural, some days will be a blur, you will feel heavy with emotion BUT the only way through is THROUGH. i hope that helps and good luck; YOU GOT THIS!

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