Not invited to go out with friends

I have a wide circle of school friends who I chat a lot to at school/ get on with very well but never really do anything with outside of school. They have a group chat to organise activities but because I was never added to it when the group was made (3 years ago) I'm very rarely invited to anything, which is usually fine anyway as I'm quite busy and would have to decline. However I'm now y11 and there is lots of discussion of meet ups in the long summer break after GCSEs, my friends are organising big parties etc. which is nice but it's all they ever talk about and it's pretty miserable tbh. They also tell me about all the 'drama' and people attending and timings/dates of these events and whilst they don't mean it, it makes the whole 'not invited' thing even worse. I'm not really sure what to do as I'm afraid I'm going to lose contact with all my friends when I move school for sixth form because I never meet up with them outside of school. Although at the same time I'm not sure if I'd actually want to attend all their summer parties (I don't think I'd find getting really drunk or kissing a bunch of guys fun)? Or does that just make me weird lol
I was wondering if anyone had any advice on this or what I can do to make being left out feel less rotten?
Thank you

Hi 👋. Firstly I'm so sorry to hear that you feel this way. Honestly speaking, I think the true mark of a real school friend is how much they hang out with you outside of a school setting. I didn't have a lot of real friends when I was in Year 7. Sure I had a group that I hung out with and felt comfortable talking to but it wasn't until yr 8 that I realised that all of those groups I was in were not really my friends at all. And I felt horrible and lonely and like I would never have any friends. So maybe a bit similar to how you may be feeling right now. When I finally found my friend group I realised a major difference - they actually wanted me around. If I didn't manage to go to an outing with them they would say that they missed me. And they'd always be chatting to me outside of school and inviting me to things. That's how I knew they were really good friends. The description of your friends doesn't sound like they care about including you very much which is mean and not an indicator of a true friend. However, all I know about them is from what you've said. And it's possible maybe they do want you around and just don't realise how you're feeling. So a possible piece of advice is to talk to your friends about how you're feeling. If they really care about you they'll take greater efforts to include you. And no your not weird for thinking kissing boys and getting drunk is interesting. If makes you feel better I don't like the sound of it either 🤣. That maybe be the popular opinion of people today (so actually maybe it is weird sorry 😅) but you should be free to do what you want to without any shame. You're not the only "weird" person if it helps 🤣. I hope this very long message was helpful. And I hope your friend situation gets better. And if it doesn't - don't worry. Sixth form is an opportunity to make new friends. Who knows - maybe your best friend for life is in your next sixth form!

Thank you so much, that's really helpful