My "Best Friend" Is Becoming More Mean and It's Affecting My Mental Health

My "best friend" is slowly becoming more *****y and mean lately. We've argued a lot in the past few months but stopped recently. However, this past week, he's been incredibly rude and dismissive. One minute, we're fine when it's just the two of us, but now he seems to have found new people to hang out with and is asking, "Why are you here?" when I try to talk to him. He's nice when it's just the two of us, but when others are around, I get completely ignored. For the past few days, he's been really nasty but then says sorry whenever I message him. The thing is, he never really sticks to his apology. I thought he was my only true friend, but now I feel completely alone. This is really affecting my mental health, especially with exams coming up soon. I just feel like I really need a good friend in my life right now. Not sure what to do...

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My "best friend" is slowly becoming more *****y and mean lately. We've argued a lot in the past few months but stopped recently. However, this past week, he's been incredibly rude and dismissive. One minute, we're fine when it's just the two of us, but now he seems to have found new people to hang out with and is asking, "Why are you here?" when I try to talk to him. He's nice when it's just the two of us, but when others are around, I get completely ignored. For the past few days, he's been really nasty but then says sorry whenever I message him. The thing is, he never really sticks to his apology. I thought he was my only true friend, but now I feel completely alone. This is really affecting my mental health, especially with exams coming up soon. I just feel like I really need a good friend in my life right now. Not sure what to do...

If he is continuously upsetting you and then apologising after each time, then that’s not a true friend let alone ‘best friend’. If he’s acting all nice to you when you’re alone but rude with others, then he’s too faced and is using you to not appear alone. I’ve experienced this and you may not realise it now but your best solution is to stop talking to him. He ain’t worth it. I guarantee you that being alone is way better than hanging around with a fake friend. In the long run, you’ll realise you don’t actually need them to be happy.

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wasimi

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I wouldn't analyse; what you are being subjected to is abusive and a nonsensical way for this person to feel more important. There is more to life that you are missing out on by waiting for this 'best friend' to get his act together. I would move away slowly, no need to be aggressive or have some massive conversation about it and get on with whatever your own goals are in life which (as I do not know you) could be fitness related, study related, financial issues you may be wanting to sort out etc. good luck anyway and just look after yourself. better to have value and be alone that to be surrounded by people like this which will eventually result in a mental breakdown

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