im really struggling again at uni.
hello everyone. for uni, i’ve decided to stay at home and i commute everyday to and from on the bus. i had to stay at home for uni because during sixth form my mental health was ruined so tremendously by my friend group that i became severely depressed and wasn’t able to move out.
because of this, i don’t feel like im getting the uni experience and feel like in a few years time i’ll regret not moving out for uni even though last year i felt like i physically and mentally couldn’t. i’m constantly at home by myself or when im not at uni im at work. i don’t do anything with my life.
to put it simply, i feel like im far behind in life. everyone will be having the time of their lives at uni and i think ive cried more in these first 6 months than i have my entire life. i seem to have these moments where i really regret not moving out and then i go back to not caring that im staying at home.
it’s become exhausting mentally to deal with and i feel like im paralysed in my life because im not getting the uni experience. i only have a few friends who i don’t see outside of uni hours and who i rarely message. does anyone have any advice please?
because of this, i don’t feel like im getting the uni experience and feel like in a few years time i’ll regret not moving out for uni even though last year i felt like i physically and mentally couldn’t. i’m constantly at home by myself or when im not at uni im at work. i don’t do anything with my life.
to put it simply, i feel like im far behind in life. everyone will be having the time of their lives at uni and i think ive cried more in these first 6 months than i have my entire life. i seem to have these moments where i really regret not moving out and then i go back to not caring that im staying at home.
it’s become exhausting mentally to deal with and i feel like im paralysed in my life because im not getting the uni experience. i only have a few friends who i don’t see outside of uni hours and who i rarely message. does anyone have any advice please?
Reply 1
Ask the university if you can re start. Drop out until autumn. Then move into student accommodation. Talk to your doctor.
Reply 2
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by Anonymoushello everyone. for uni, i’ve decided to stay at home and i commute everyday to and from on the bus. i had to stay at home for uni because during sixth form my mental health was ruined so tremendously by my friend group that i became severely depressed and wasn’t able to move out.
because of this, i don’t feel like im getting the uni experience and feel like in a few years time i’ll regret not moving out for uni even though last year i felt like i physically and mentally couldn’t. i’m constantly at home by myself or when im not at uni im at work. i don’t do anything with my life.
to put it simply, i feel like im far behind in life. everyone will be having the time of their lives at uni and i think ive cried more in these first 6 months than i have my entire life. i seem to have these moments where i really regret not moving out and then i go back to not caring that im staying at home.
it’s become exhausting mentally to deal with and i feel like im paralysed in my life because im not getting the uni experience. i only have a few friends who i don’t see outside of uni hours and who i rarely message. does anyone have any advice please?
because of this, i don’t feel like im getting the uni experience and feel like in a few years time i’ll regret not moving out for uni even though last year i felt like i physically and mentally couldn’t. i’m constantly at home by myself or when im not at uni im at work. i don’t do anything with my life.
to put it simply, i feel like im far behind in life. everyone will be having the time of their lives at uni and i think ive cried more in these first 6 months than i have my entire life. i seem to have these moments where i really regret not moving out and then i go back to not caring that im staying at home.
it’s become exhausting mentally to deal with and i feel like im paralysed in my life because im not getting the uni experience. i only have a few friends who i don’t see outside of uni hours and who i rarely message. does anyone have any advice please?
Hi there,
I'm really sorry you've been made to feel this way and everything you've had to cope with. Please just be assured that you'd be very surprised by the amount of new students who have severe doubts about their decisions to move out or stay home at uni - its completely normal so you're not on your own in this.
The first thing I'd say is please try not to worry about being 'left behind' or less successful in life in any way compared to your peers. Everyone moves through life on a slightly different path and just because yours is taking a few more turns along the way doesn't mean your experience is any less valid than theirs, if anything going through these difficulties will make you more resilient in future. You are very young and have plenty of time to get to where you want to be and you don't need to have everything worked out yet.
I would also, if you are able - make a commitment to yourself to make an effort to put yourself out there more - perhaps join a society you like the look of, make extra effort to get involved with things on campus like SU nights and going to cafes, asking people around you after lectures if they want to grab coffee. Have you also considered working part-time as a student ambassador? From what you've said it sounds like you're regaining a bit of your confidence, so this could be a fun way to meet people from other years and earn a bit of money on the side.
My advice to you would be to try and keep strong, because you've overcome a lot and deserve to give yourself a break. I'd encourage you, before considering dropping out, to see if you can work towards positive changes first.
I hope this helps, and whichever option you choose, wishing you the best of luck 🙂
Holly
University of Bath
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